Do you prefer living on your own?

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Just that really. I made the decision to not live with anyone again except my three DC. I do get the odd , people feeling "sorry" for me, thinking I'm a loner etc. Please tell me I'm not alone?

I love living 'alone' with my 2 dc. Like SansiLove says, there's a real joy in the harmony and peace after years of a very unhappy relationship.

I love the calm and the affection. I love the quiet. I love the fact I got to choose all my own furniture, curtains and pictures after living somewhere with virtually nothing I'd chosen. I love the fact we can choose to do want we want, even if that means sometimes we choose to do very little (we all love our home!)

I don't really find the housework any different to when I was married. I did most of it then anyway! Actually now I don't get annoyed that someone else isn't pulling their weight! It's odd how much less stressful it all is when you just have to get on with it yourself!

I've always liked living alone though; I did for a few years before I was married. I think living just with children is even better. Company, love, laughter and affection without the stress! I can't imagine ever living with another adult again.

I'd say the only thing I miss sometimes is having a cup of tea made for me, though once in a blue moon my dd makes me one . I'd also say my children are beyond the "little" stage and if I'm honest, living alone with them at that stage had its much tougher moments, and was different to how it is now.

I live with my almost adult children and when they leave I will stay alone.

I have friends, a job and a fab dog and do not crave the company of others. I am an only child and have always been self-reliant. I actually think people who have to be part of a couple to feel happy are quite weak and will find it hard if the other half of their pair dies before them.

You're born alone and you'll die alone (however many people are hovering round your bedside) so we should be perfectly able to cope with life alone.

so you do have to the dull boring bits then, of course living as a single there is half the washing, ironing, the shopping lasts longer or there is less to do, as for the bin, some weeks I generate so little rubbish I don't put it out anyway.

My experience is that some people in couples are threatened by people who are happily single/lone-dwellers.

I get the impression that they feel that because someone is happy in a different way to them, that it negates their choices somehow.

FFS, if there are other people resident in your house you do not "live alone".

Living alone is completely different to sharing with three kids - or even one.

I'm in a shared flat & can't wait to finalise buying a place so I can live on my own. Can't fucking wait & so jealous of my friend who lives on her own!

Looking forward to - coming home and having things exactly how I left them, not compromising on decor, not having to share the kitchen, the washing machine, not feeling bad if I leave the ironing board up etc, not having my things touched, no innocent but annoying disruptions to my routine. I say all this & I like my flat mate. We get on.

I genuinely think that some people need the space, for their well being. I'm one of them.

I do love living alone with the DC. They are starting to leave home though and I have been single so long that a relationship does not appeal at all. Married to my dog anyway.

I've lived alone for two years. One night a week I go to visit my "special friend", other nights I can visit my sister, ex-partner etc. I'm happy being able to choose what food to buy ( not the cheapest or on offer any more), what to buy for the house ( had to do this myself before anyway - he'd never have any money). Anyway, as the years went on, I think my ex was convinced I'd never survive without him. Well I did before and I am now. House is messier and pretty untidy but I'm happy, and at the end of the day that's what counts.

Agree with @Basta.

You are NOT living alone if you have your DC with you.

Living alone means just that, living in your house/flat whatever on your Sweeney Todd. Bliss it is.

To many posters here, it seems that living "alone" equates with not having a Partner sharing. That is wrong I tell you. Alone means just you!

No, I prefer to live with my second husband. I was ok on my own, sometimes a bit lonely, but mostly ok. The difference here is as between "happy" and "alright"

I agree with @Basta! I live alone and don't have children. I find it strange that someone would say they live alone when they have kids...

Because 'alone' is synonymous with 'single'. So being alone means having no partner.
That's why single parents live 'alone'. I am one, and I would say I live on my own, because there are no other adults.

There are obviously ways in which living 'alone' with children and living completely alone without children are totally different experiences. There are, equally obviously, lots of ways in which they're very similar. A lot of the stuff being discussed in this thread (sharing domestic workload, deciding how the home should look and be kept and when to be home or out and who visits when) is very similar for anyone living as the sole adult in a home, whether there are children there too or not.

In many cases, a parent who lives alone with children will also be a person who lives alone without children some of the time - quite possibly half the time.

I get lonely but yes, I feel I need to live alone. Been in houseshares for the past 2 years little no choice and I've struggled in all of them.

Through little choice*