Do you prefer living on your own?

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Just that really. I made the decision to not live with anyone again except my three DC. I do get the odd , people feeling "sorry" for me, thinking I'm a loner etc. Please tell me I'm not alone?

I've lived alone for a few years now. I can't say that I like it much.

I miss the social aspect of living together, the shared meals with wine and conversation, chatting about a TV play or film or sport, sharing celebrations, or what books you're reading, or simply what you've done that day.
I miss planning things together, where to go on holiday, what route to take, what landmarks to visit....

I miss being hugged and kissed....

At the time I was happy, but in hindsight now I’m much happier living with my partner. Although I do still enjoy the odd day when you have the house to yourself and can do whatever you want!

Financial aspects are better with a partner- we both live in a shared house that it twice the size and in a better area than we could afford alone.

Ahhh... there we go with the "not all men".

Is it fun being a handmaiden, speakout?

Financial aspects are better with a partner- we both live in a shared house that it twice the size and in a better area than we could afford alone

I think you’re extrapolating your own anecdotes to apply to everyone.

Of course you’re not being unreasonable to not want to live alone, but it’s foolish to try and imply that everyone else is worse off living alone.

I love being the queen of my castle.

It isn’t how I dreamed things would turn out, but given this is how it did, I fully embrace the joy of living alone with my 2 dc.

It is harmonious and fun. For anyone who has lived in a toxic household, you will know what that joy means.

Nothing is a burden really. It’s just so wonderful to live freely.

As a disclaimer though: I have no financial issues.

I am fully aware that living alone with dc isn’t easy for most.

Yes expect I hate sleeping alone and eating breakfast alone. Basically I just hate sharing any of my space with anyone else but don't like being alone. The ideal set up would be two separate houses connected by a shared bedroom with a breakfast table in it.

The last few years of my marriage were shitty and despite me trying to make it better I was wasting my time cause he was cheating on me.

So now it feels like an absolute pleasure to be living just me and the DC. I’m no longer trying so hard to please someone else - I’m now just mostly a lot of my own decisions. And the kids are so easy to live with.

I’m worried I might never want to live with another adult again

Absolutely love living alone, everything is where I leave it, house is much tidier and I get to watch what I want whenever I want! Winner

I wouldn't count living with your DC as living alone... surely you just mean you're not in a relationship?

Actually living completely alone I absolutely hated. However, when everyone is out of the house at school and work, I love it!

I’m worried I might never want to live with another adult again

Don’t be worried. If you decide you never want to live with another adult again, that’s absolutely fine!

Just me and my three dogs. Bliss. Everything is where I last left it. Keeping the kitchen clean and tidy is a piece of piss. No compromising (where no-one wins) when it comes to design and styling. I love it.

I love it, have lived alone in adult life longer than living with people/partner. It's the peace I love, working in a busy, people filled job I just LOVE coming home to the space where silence can be a choice. It is a personal choice, I grew up in a busy small house with lots of siblings. I remember hogging the loo so I could read in silence. It is good to know what you prefer, I think. I know I will never live with a person again. having said that I have lots of friends and a good social life. I write a lot and find being around humans all the time distracts from that creativity. I am lucky to afford my own place. It can be an age thing too, was happy to do big house shares in my 20s. Even the thought of a lodger makes me shudder and I have taken on extra work to keep my space. I find living with men too demanding and , for me, unnecessary.

I do appreciate being able to choose my own decor & furniture.

I have blossom white walls, a heather grey sofa, a silver, blue & pink striped chair, pink cushions, a blossom picture & blossom metal wall art, also white painted bookshelves, vintage cat ornaments in a cream display cabinet & im buying a pink rug!

A man would hate it!!

My ideal man would own his own home & we would live between his home & my home...

I've been 'alone' with 3 kids for over 10 years now and yes I do love it. I am a complete weirdo though and don't socialise at all or have friends. I talk to people at work then come home to peace, quiet and my happy, occupied children. That's all I seem to need and can see it continuing as the kids grow and move out. Like others have said, I don't think I could share my space now, it's completely mine -and I hate people-

Strikeout fail

In my ideal world I would live one week home alone, one week with just DC, one week with DH and one week all of us together. Not too sure where they would go though.

I live with 2 cats and 1 dc. Love it.
I’m in a relationship and after a couple of nights together I’m longing for my own space. Luckily he feels the same otherwise it would be awkward

I’d hate being alone. I would eat crap and lay around. What if your sick? I had my back go out on me so bad several times I’d of been awful on my own! No meals and probably would of been dehydrated.

My ideal man would own his own home & we would live between his home & my home...

This.

I admit I do get depressed at times on my own so I keep food in that I don't have to actually bother to cook

I've lived alone with my 3 DC (and cats) for almost 20 years. I've always liked the freedom of making all my decisions without interference. I think I'm too far gone now to ever live with a partner, luckily I'm happy alone.