Have known friend for around 4 years. We're not massively close but have been out a couple of times with hubbies in tow. They get on well but I always get the impression that they see DH as a bit of a joke and they take the piss out of him a fair bit. Admittedly he can be a bit of a clown but he's an intelligent bloke, good job, very skilled and he'll be friends with anyone - very sociable and down to earth but I just get the feeling they laugh at him rather than with him.
WE've stayed at their house a couple of times which was obviously very hospitable of them. First time was great but 2nd time they again took the piss out of DH a lot, caught them a few times exchanging glances when we spoke. They ripped the piss out of a gift DH had taken down and started banging on about how their other friends were going a couple of nights later and taking home cooked beef etc etc ... just made us feel a bit like the "rough" friends that they tolerate iyswim?? They're quite posh, DH and I (despite being "on paper" quite well off, financial more so than they are!) are I suppose a bit rough, we both grew up on council estates, we drink lager, we're not tidy or organised so we seem like unlikely friends anyway.
A few months ago one of their family burst out laughing at the thought of DH and I being together saying that he assumed DH was gay - he said this to his face. It all got laughed off but I felt a bit sad for DH really (who was great and laughed it off but I could tell he was embarrassed).
It's their wedding do tonight and DH and I are invited. I accepted months ago but we've hardly been in touch since. We were meant to be going to their house a few weeks back, I had to cancel for health issues and I got a text back saying it was fine as they were looking forward to a quiet weekend anyway. Didn't quite know how to take that.
I've not been the best mate I admit, I cancel plans a lot and don't always respond to texts until weeks later. I have mental health issues and I'm shit at human interaction!
We won't know anyone at the wedding, that bloke that called DH gay will be there, it's miles out of the way and we go on holiday on Monday and haven't even packed yet. WIBU not to go? It would spell the end of the friendship.