To think my mum did a really bad thing today?

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Name changed.

DD has chickenpox. My mum had her today as I was at work. I've just got in and found out she took her to the park today where DD played with a friend from school she bumped into.
The friend's dad has cancer-I've no idea where at in treatment he is but I'm so angry that my mum has put others at risk.
WIBU to ask that she does not take her anywhere whilst DD still has spots that haven't scabbed over?
I know mum is doing me a massive favour having DD 2 days a week during the holidays so aren't sure if I can say this.

Op if it helps settle your mind, if the dad was the one supervising at the park there is every chance he has finished his chemo. My sil has just finished chemo and was banned from being anywhere in public places unless absolutely necessary to help avoid the risk of infections.

OP you sound lovely but I too think you need to calm down. You haven't done anything wrong. Your dm was shortsighted in this respect but I really don't think it makes her a terrible person. I'm 40 and when we had chickenpox were off school but certainly were not confined to the house for weeks. As a previous poster said the vast majority of adults are immune. I assume that the dad with cancer is very aware of the risks of virus/infection and they would have seen that your dd has chickenpox and acted accordingly.

You sound like such a nice person, but this is not your fault.

I expect that the guy is past the "avoid everything" stage if he was in the park.

To a certain extent I even sympathise with your Mum a little, because she might have thought a quick trot round the park would be OK because there would be no physical contact with anyone and hadn't considered that DD might bump into a friend and want to play with them.

OP, was the school friend at the park with an adult? It would have been v obvious your Dd has ‘pox, and I am sure she would have discussed it with her friend. Chicken pox and having spots is a subject of intense interest amongst most children!

So I am sure that one way or another, the adults are aware of the situation.

You have been cjnduderate and conscientious and done the right things.

It is all such a small chance anyway: that he is in chemo, is not immune, his Dd is not immune, was infected in the open air.....

I am sorry your return to work has been troubled in this way.

I've had to call the taxi company prior to each journey to check they are ok with having someone with chickenpox on a blanket in the car.

Thank you so much for this. The amount of people that get in my taxi and tell me their child is ill with chicken pox or a stomach bug or impetigo (and they let them touch everything) is incredible. Some people have no thought process at all. It's unlikely I would say no, but to be asked would be nice. I have nobody immediate to consider who has a low immune system, but the next person in the car may just be one.

Your mum did a very stupid thing.

I've had chemo. I couldn't have the MMR or CP vaccine for 2 years after because they are live.