To be a bit pissed off DH didn’t take up this opportunity?

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Have NC as potentially outing.

DH has been offered the chance to work abroad where the weather will be hot in December for 2 weeks. We have 2 DC (aged 3 and 13 months). We have never been on holiday with them and as people who love to travel we are desperate to get away for a while and we are now in a position to do so as we have been saving like crazy to get a mortgage and I have started my own business.

Accommodation and flights would be provided for him, but other colleagues have taken their families on this trip before and paid the difference for more family friendly accommodation and flights for partners and children

Because DHs work is full of Flash Harry’s () we can stay at a family resort for a fraction of the cost it would normally cost for us to go with the money they are paying for DH. It’s a destination we have never been to and have always talked about going to.

The resort we have found would mean a roughly 30 minute commute there and back for DH, half of what he is currently doing.

He has turned it down, and I’m majorly pissed off about it. It’s a chance for some winter sunshine in a place we currently afford to go to. Plus I need a fucking break.

He said he would resent me for being on holiday while he was working- when in reality, he would only be working about half his normal hours with reduced commute.

Think he’s pissed off because it means he can’t get pissed in the bars every night for 2 weeks- I don’t begrudge him doing this a couple of times as he knows regardless of me and the DC are there. He works hard and deserves to have a couple of beers once or twice a week.

AIBU?

I work away a lot
I wouldn’t want my family there
I need the flex
I often need to do long nights work
I often have to go for socialising
I’m rarely in my room before 11pm and out at 7am
Kids wouldn’t get it
Partner would hate it
Stress all round
It’s WORK

I think his reason is a bit rubbish to he fair, to say he'd resent his wife and children having a holiday whilst he works is really quite pathetic.

He’s being mean. If other colleagues take their families, that suggests it’s on the relaxed side of a work trip.

I sometimes tag along on DH’s work trips but they are always to cities where I have friends. I see friends in the daytime or explore with DS. Evenings are sometimes spent together catching up with friends and sometimes apart eg DH at work dinner/ one of my friends comes to our hotel suite for a takeaway. It works perfectly. If there was a beach location on the cards, I would go if it was just DH on a solo work trip (as most of his are). If it was a group of colleagues going together, I wouldn’t go unless I knew them all really well (well enough to have some meals together, etc). I think it would be strange to crash a group trip.