Was I unreasonable fo fart in bed?

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Ok... so let me explain myself!

Last night I went to bed early feeling unwell, my stomach was bloated and I felt really uncomfortable and unsure why. I suffer with IBS so thought I'd maybe had something that upset my stomach.

3am I woke up with a terrible pain in my stomach which felt like trapped wind. I was in so much pain I didn't even want to move from my bed.

So on advice when this has happened before I got myself into a position to relieve the wind... basically head down ass up!

After a couple of seconds of rocking in this position, I farted! It's never felt so good.

So my DP wakes up from the sound of my large fart and tells me I'm disgusting and won't accept my explanation.

WIBU?

DO farts every 5 minutes. I tell him he stinks, he thinks it's funny, he does it to wind up his DD also (which I also think is funny) - I also fart in his direction sometimes and he just gives me 'the look'

I thought this was normal...

It you make a dutch oven with my duvet, I'm getting out and throwing a lit match in.

I have IBS too,when I'm bloated and manage to fart,not only is the relief from the pain fantastic,it hardly ever smells.

I don't consciously fart in front of other people including DH, but he tells me I fart in my sleep. Now I'm pregnant sometimes a small fart escapes when I get up! Given your condition he should be more understanding, but if it was particularly odourous he's not unreasonable to pass comment

TheDishRanAwayWithTheSpoon - completely agree. I think the term ‘anally retentive’ couldn’t be more apt! It’s worrying to think that farting is deemed so horrific that even for medical reasons the poor sod should crawl to the bathroom in agony to save their loved one from the controversy!

As a fellow IBS sufferer! YADDDDDDDDDDDDNBU.
Bugger me, there's times I've crawled to the toilet in agony to release the pressure/build up/imminent cleanse. The gas can be just as painful if not worst.
I don't envy whoever has to smell it though!

Farting is perfectly normal. Sure, it's smelly and unpleasant, but it's a bodily function. I think it's weird people claim to never fart in front of anyone or go to the bathroom everytime they have to pass air.

Freefarting family here too, however I hate being woken up so might have tetchily complained at the time like the dh. My dh does overly dramatic belches. I find them 'disgusting', he would say they need out. Doesn't cause a big stink in the grand scheme of things.

Last night I farted in bed so loudly it woke DH and baby up, he sat up, gagged on the smell, laughed and then high fived me. We wouldn't have it any other way 😁

I once dumped a bloke as he used to go to the loo every time he needed to fart.

To be fair, there were other contributing factors to me dumping him. It wasn’t purely based on his prissy farting behaviour. His shiny, pointy shoes were a bit odd too. And his teddy bear collection

Ha! When me and DP began living together I wouldn’t even go to the loo if I thought he could hear me from the bedroom or lounge.. 4 years down the line we often have farting competitions..😂

It should be a basic human right to be able to fart in your own bed.

You mean it isn't?

I think we should petition the UN immediately.

Wasn't there an episode in Grey's Anatomy where a woman refused to fart after an operation?

Oh god, I did one once quite unexpectedly and it made such a horrific noise my husband sat up in bed and for some reason tried to shoot it with guns made out of his thumb and forefingers just like Billy the Kid.

I've been chuckling mightily at this thread. Of course YANBU OP. Needs must and I know the pain you mention. I've only had it that bad once but bless my DP, he was ready to call an ambulance I was in so much pain! In the end he rubbed my back until it went away.

He didn't like me farting in bed when we first got together, but would happily do it himself. I highlighted the double standard and told him that it was tough, I'd grown up in a "free farting" household and he'd have to get used to it.

If he didn't do it himself I might have understood, but his only reason was that it "wasn't ladylike".

Neither of us fart in each other's company if they're likely to be vile (and with both of us suffering IBS it's often a distinct possibility!) so we do try and go elsewhere.

I'll never forget the sound of my Dad's scream one night when he farted in bed and my Mum sprayed him on the bum with the air freshener

They've been married for 45 years so I agree with the "fart together, stay together" comment!

Before I met my DH I would have NEVER farted in front of my partner. I would have DIED of shame. I now realise that was a sign that I wasn't comfortable with my exes. I don't fart v often, but when I do we just laugh about it, which is totally NORMAL.

Being afraid to pass wind with someone you live with is awful, and I'm so happy I'm no longer in relationships where I felt judged and even disgusting for doing something that it entirely natural and involuntary. My DH is the same funnily enough. Being comfortable enough to fart in front of each other is a v good sign of a great relationship!

As someone said upthread, couples who fart together, stay together

YANBU, at all. I can only think that those who are disgusted by this haven't felt the pain of IBS trapped wind. Right after I had my son I remember thinking it was much like labour pain. Awful.

My dh and I have heard each other fartmany many times over the 36 years we have been together. It's no problem, not disgusting, not gross-because we both recognised early on that we are humans and humans fart (and poo and wee).

PollyFlinderz - that is brilliant!

DH is to a very small extent NBU to be a tiny bit grouchy about being woken (for any reason) but overall the OP is overwhelmingly NBU. Hope you feel better today.

If I had to hold on a fart so I wouldn't offend anyone I think I'd explode. I have IBS too, and sometimes a good fart is what you need to relieve the symptoms. My DH is so used to it. Once whilst out shopping in the supermarket I knew I couldn't get round the place without letting out a discreet fart. Found a deserted aisle, let out one rivalling a fog horn and my DS commented 'Thar she blows' ..... git!

How funny ! And not unreasonable.
That’s fucking gross actually. No it isn't !

Years ago a friend brought me some microwave popcorn from the states (it wasn’t available in UK at that time)
I was delighted and ate a huge bowl every evening for 5 nights.
On the 6th night I developed THE most agonising abdo pain, thought I had acute appendicitis.
Was just about to call ambulance when I dropped the loudest, longest bottom burp known to man, pain evaporated 👍
If op had been sitting on his face at the time, fair play, but otherwise DH really shouldn’t grumble

I’m amazed at these people who know in advance whether their farts are likely to be smelly!

The dog is the worst in our house - her farts really are vile.

I couldnt have knowingly farted in bed with a partner unless i had no respect for them, you could have gone to the bathroom. With the sick comparison you wouldnt have sicked on the bed but the floor. Sounds like your arse was in his face end in which case you were vile