Anyone married but not been proposed too?

[Louise5754]

I know there are worst problems to have but as the title says I've never been proposed too. Unless me and my H split and I meet someone else then I probably never will.

Anyone else?

Coming up to our Silver Wedding.
Never had a 'big moment proposal', no. We both just agreed we'd like to get married. Not sure who said what to whom. In all honesty, I cringe a bit at public down on one knee stuff - feel it puts pressure on a person to be all excited and have to say 'yes', rather than both of you reaching a stage when you just know that's what the next step should be.

DP and I got engaged on Sunday and it led to a lovely chat with my grandma. Apparently many years ago she and grandpa were talking about getting engaged and were looking at rings. She fell in love with one and kept saying how much she was looking forward to wearing it. Grandpa, ever the romantic, told her to "just put the damn thing on then". They're in their 90s, been married 70 years, I don't think the lack of proposal has hurt them

Does saying 'You might want to have a look in there one day' as our bus passed an old chapel that's been converted into a wedding dress shop count as a proposal? Followed a few weeks later by 'We could do that sometime, couldn't we?' as we saw a wedding party arrive at the local church.

For the record, we were both in our 60s and had been living together for 12 years before the above conversations took place. We've now been married 5 years.

I'm married. No proposal. Small ceremony in the local town hall

I didn't get proposed to. I rang and booked an appointment with the registrar then told him about it. I suppose it was make or break because if he had of declined coming it would of definitely been the end of our 10 year relationship.

Me!!

"Shall we get married??" "S'pose so"

If a "proposal" is necessary as a declaration of love, then presumably all these poor men who weren't proposed to have no idea if their wife even loves them?

I thought the part where you make vows in front of witnesses was a pretty unequivocal declaration.

Unless you consider yourself to be a chattel I don't know why you'd sit around waiting for a man to propose to you rather than having the discussion together and deciding it's what you both want. It's ridiculous.

And why is it he won't even sit next to you on the sofa?!

Unless you consider yourself to be a chattel I don't know why you'd sit around waiting for a man to propose to you rather than having the discussion together and deciding it's what you both want. It's ridiculous

I do see what you mean. DP and I had talked about it and almost got to the "shall we then" point in conversation before but not quite. I was more keen overall on the idea than him, he just wasn't so bothered about marriage in general.

He decided in the end to ask me formally. On Sunday morning he had a quiet word with my parents (asked their opinions not permission) and then asked me to marry him. I love the fact that he did that - he knew I was 99.9999% likely to say yes and that it was what I wanted, he decided it was what he wanted too and stuck by a bit of tradition.

I got a ring. I just was given the money while we went on the shop across the road. I just chose the only one that they had in stock to take that day.

I booked the wedding. We had about 130 people there. If it was up to me I'd have had about 20 max. I didn't enjoy the day as I didn't know a lot but if the people there x