Anyone married but not been proposed too?

[Louise5754]

I know there are worst problems to have but as the title says I've never been proposed too. Unless me and my H split and I meet someone else then I probably never will.

Anyone else?

I'm married: no proposal, no engagement ring, DIY wedding and a meal out for hen night.

The whole wedding charade is utterly ridiculous.

I just booked the registrar appointment, told DH when it was, and to round his parents up as witnesses...

We had previously discussed the necessity (kids and mortgage, really), but it would never have happened if I'd waited for him to get all romantic.

My husband handed me my engagement ring and said there you go and I said what's that and he said what do you think it is and then we were engaged 😂😂 married 4 years this November with baby number 2 on the way, lack of normal proposal really doesn't matter in the long run, I don't feel hard done by.

Olly that was a tongue in cheek comment.

Our first child was unplanned. I was the main breadwinner, we'd just bought a house, he'd been made redundant, life was hard. We'd always thought we'd probably get married someday but it was never a priority and we certainly weren't prepared to borrow money for it. Then shortly after DC2 arrived we found out that we were about to lose someone who would have liked to see us married. So we did it (on credit cards).

I wasn't proposed to. We'd discussed marriage before, and I had a conversation with my mum that made me realise I actually wanted to be married sooner rather than later, so I called DH and said I would like to get married soon and have a party and a dress and it was a yes!

I got a little bit sad for a bit afterwards, because I realised I never would have a proposal, and I was worried I was rushing DH into it, but tbh I think if I'd left it up to DH I'd probably still be waiting, and now we've been happily married for 4 years.

Does 'What would it be like if we were married?' count as a proposal?

We had a discussion about what it would be like if we were married which included him having an ernest comparison of the tax advantages of us being married and unmarried with him living abroad Sooo romantic. At the end of which it looked like we'd come down in favour of marriage.

I then went and phoned my parents and told them I thought I was engaged. While I was out of the room, DH realised by the fact I was talking to my parents, quite what he'd done. He'd actually had no intention of proposing at all.

Wasn't until the following morning when we starting looking at venues that it was clear that we both thought we were getting married.

No proposal. No engagement or wedding ring. We just discussed it and felt the time was right.

Don't know why but it's just not very important to me, so I don't mind. I think if it was important to me DH probably would have done it properly but I might still be waiting/have had to ask him to do it (which is pointless imo)

Now-DH said to me in a pub: "I think we should get married". That was it :-D Loved it and would have absolutely hated to have a 'big' proposal. Didn't bother with engagement rings either - I'm not the diamond ring type. Wedding was lovely and relaxed, we omitted anything we didn't particularly care about and we both really enjoyed the day.

Me, happily married. No proposal, just a discussion on what we wanted for our future. I did get an engagement ring which we went to choose together (ended up getting custom made which was lovely).

No proposal or engagement ring, we both knew very early on that we would get married, one day we just decided we'd go get wedding rings, got married 3 months later. Have been very happily married for the last eight years. We're not prone to overt displays of romance (don't do big gifts - or sometimes even remember - anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas etc.) but we love each other deeply and are on the same page about the things that matter

I wasn't proposed to either. DH was away with the Navy and we were desperate to get a house together. Went to see a financial adviser about getting a mortgage and he told me my DH would get married man's tax allowance as I was still a student. Needless to say I explained this to my DH and he told everyone we had to get married. Bought a cheap ring from Argos ...just celebrated Pearl anniversary.
Got a new engagement ring on our 25th....not from Argos.

Nope! I proposed to my now DH. I was engaged a couple of times before we met (I know!) and don't recall any proposals from either of them.

We decided together that we were going to marry. I do have an engagement ring though, chose and bought together. I know many people who have had the big proposal, then never married.

Lol i could’ve written this post.
Wasn’t proposed to and Dh is not romantic in anyway.
I get what you mean about feeling jealous etc it’s just annoying sometimes. (Mainly birthdays anniversaries etc) but day to day it doesn’t bother me at all, as he pulls his weight with the kids and house. So I’d rather that tbh.
But yes annoying all the same 😂

No proposal and weve been married for 3.5 years. We just decided one night that we wanted to get married, 6 weeks or so later we did. Just us, two friends, no big fan fare. We had an ‘engagement’ party a few weeks after that.

If you call
(Shouted from bedroom) "suppose we should get married now, what with buying this house and that"
a proposal.

He produced a ring over my shoulder but didn’t say anything. I was standing there thinking “shit! I think that’s an engagement ring but what if I’m wrong??” So I said nothing, he finally said “well?!” And I squeaked “of course!”
Then we went for dinner.
Not sure if that counts or not!!

Yup.

I didn't want to be proposed to, so I proposed to him ... we celebrated our 3 week (yes, week!) wedding anniversary yesterday, so we're doing well

I didn't have an engagement ring - but he did!

XH proposed, DH didn’t. One marriage lasted less than a year, the other rather longer (and still going!). It’s really not that important.

I will expand my proposal and no marriage story!

My XP and I were very happily living together and often talked about the future.

I got pregnant - unplanned.

Talks developed and we started looking but houses and talked about doing all that before getting married and maybe waiting until ds was old enough to share.

Then he cheated and I kicked the bastard out.

I was prepared to work on our relationship slowly and build up trust again.

He thought we should do it by him moving back in.

Negotiations for how we would do it stopped on my behalf as he couldn't accept he was in the wrong and he needed to respect my feelings for moving forward.

2 months later he turned up on my doorstep with a ring announcing he couldn't live without me, loved me and would I marry him.

To my shame I actually looked him in the eye and laughed and said "Not a fucking chance"
And even more to my shame the fact he cried made me feel pleased.

I'm not a cunt but he'd turned my whole world upside down and broken my heart in 2 when he cheated.

When he'd gone I did cry a lot.

Never regretted it since though.

Nope, DH said in the pub one night when we are married you can have a piano and that was that. A week later he bought me an engagement ring and six months later we were married. Thirty years later we are still blissfully married!

OP I totally get where you are coming from. I didn't get a proposal - I got "told" we were getting married before his friend beat him to it. I wasn't one for big weddings so went along with it - but it did cause me a great deal of resentment because it was a chance for him to really show me how he felt - but he didn't. He didn't get me a present either - I got him a special engraved wedding present. Fast forward 20 plus years and we have split up in part due to his inability to show affection, make me feel special/loved, prioritising others over his own family.

so I guess what I am saying is - if it is a sign that he is not meeting your emotional needs, consider if he is the right person for you - I wish I had.

I had no idea DH was going to propose, he produced a ring and asked if I would spend the rest of my life with him and marry him, I asked if he was serious, he assured me he was, so we married 3 months later. 20 years ago.

Ok I suppose it's more common than I thought. He did pay for my engagement ring but I had to go and choose it myself lol. Was one of the cheapest in the store. I know if I was to wait for a proposal we would never be married. I booked the wedding and used my inheritance to pay for it so I'm kind of thinking he was pushed into it lol x

Yep, me too.
My guilty secret is watching proposals on youtube.