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To think this is so rude!?

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reallyhopethisworksNC · 18/08/2018 17:25

I've attempted to NC as this is outing, but never NC before so this could be a bit of a fail...

Our NCT class had a reunion last week, around 2 months after all of our babies had been born. We planned the reunion around the schedule of the class leader, as she was going on holiday. She suggested the date, time and location during our last class and sent out a standard email with reunion date on it (NCT obviously require leaders to do this). We did not hear from her following the class - no messages or further emails to check our babies had been born safely, and no confirmation of the reunion.

She didn't show up. One of us had messaged her that day to confirm that we were all meeting at 6. She read it beforehand and did not reply. At 9pm she messaged something like "great, see you all then". Presumably so she could pretend she had the wrong date. We replied that we had been there since 6 waiting for her. She did not reply. Another NCT class of hers said she did not attend their reunion either and pretended she had gone and no one else had shown up.

AIBU to think this is so f*ing rude? I am really (probably irrationally) angry. We paid her 270£ for a lazily put together and shoddy class but this is another level - 8 sets of new parents (with 8 babies in tow) had something better to do on a weeknight than get stood up by someone! People had to leave work early and make up hours on other days. She didn't even have the manners to excuse herself!! I know it doesn't matter in the scheme of things but I think its just so rude.

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reallyhopethisworksNC · 18/08/2018 18:39

That would explain why she kept repeating information like she wasn’t sure which class she was teaching - I guess she just did a different class every day and just used the same material. She didn’t deserve 50£ a session! But even if the sessions were fine, no excuse to stand us all up.

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CatPatrol · 18/08/2018 18:41

YANBU. I’ve been on two NCT courses and both times the course leader has been proactive about confirming the reunion and, whilst I only attented one of them, was also definitely present at the event both times. One of the course leaders went above and beyond by offering to come round to see us afterwards and providing her home telephone number for us to call and talk to her.

It was part of the course fees for me, so check your description and complain to NCT.

reallyhopethisworksNC · 18/08/2018 18:45

It was part of the course fees for me, so check your description and complain to NCT.

I’ve just checked the email

  • it’s in there! It’s part of the course! I’m even more annoyed, although vindicated.
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cakesandphotos · 18/08/2018 18:48

Our leader was very odd and slightly scatty but she emailed us fairly regularly after the main part of the course and confirmed the reunion date several times. We had all met up a lot before the reunion anyway but it was nice to have someone neutral to chat to about our birth experiences.
I would definitely complain to NCT! These courses aren’t cheap and the reunion is part of the course

60sname · 18/08/2018 18:51

Ours did the same (Essex). She was insanely scatty though so quite possibly genuinely didn't know where she was meant to be when.

LemonScentedStickyBat · 18/08/2018 19:07

It’s part of the course - you’ve paid for this session, and she is paid for facilitating it but only if she is actually present (in the region of £25 per hour for those who are interested). You should definitely raise this with head office.

Snowsquonk · 19/08/2018 11:21

[email protected] is the best email address to raise any issues

Knittingyogo · 19/08/2018 12:17

Yes this is approx what a leader gets for a session. Some areas they are paid less and the more experienced may get more I believe.

reallyhopethisworksNC · 20/08/2018 15:28

NCT have offered a partial refund - thank you everyone!

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