Aibu to want to buy unisex baby clothes?

[Cariadxx]

DH and I don't want to find out the sex of our baby, partly because we want a surprise and partly because it's just not important to us either way. However the shops selling baby clothes seem to insist that everyone finds out! I can't find any nice unisex stuff ANYWHERE. It's either plain white and boring or is pink and floral or blue with cars. AIBU to think that the shops should have more unisex options? I feel like I'm being forced to find out because people keep telling me they want to buy stuff but can't because they don't know what it is.

I’m having a girl but i have bought some adorable baby grows from Boots with loads of bright colours on. They were in the store in the ‘boys’ section so maybe look at boys and not just unisex?

Also, I'm sure you already know this, but buy very little of the newborn stuff as it won't get worn for long and may not get worn at all! DS was long and thin when born so needed 'tiny baby' in some things (vests) but 'up to one month' in others (babygrows). None of the 'newborn' stuff really fitted him at all, and we've just put away a load of stuff that he's outgrown but never worn - and he's only five weeks!

M&S have some lovely stuff in cream, yellow, green, purple, white...

We're having a girl but I'm sticking to fairly unisex stuff, as others have said some of the "girl" clothing looks so uncomfortable and impractical!

Frugi

Next do lovely gender neutral coloured clothes. We had some fab bright coloured bits for my DS

I feel really sorry for all those people who miss out on that wonderful surprise at the birth. What a thoroughly knobbish thing to say.

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I feel really sorry for all those people who miss out on that wonderful surprise at the birth

We didn’t find out with our first. Did with our second. Now pregnant with our third and decided to find out again. Having experienced the ‘wonderful surprise’ both at birth and at 20 weeks, we chose again to experience it at 20 weeks. So really no need to feel sorry for us!
Only one of two options anyway isn’t it .
Anyway with our first we mainly just bought white babygros as they don’t wear newborn stuff for long anyway. We reused it for our second even though we knew it was a girl.

Bluelady- I've done it both ways so feel well qualified to comment. I found out I was having my son first time round and then didn't find out until the birth when I was having my daughter- partly because of people like you who 'felt sorry' for me not having experienced such a 'wonderful surprise' so I thought I'd see what I was missing. Turns out nothing at all. The birth was traumatic, I was out for the count, and so I never did have that 'it's a girl!' moment. Lots of mums who have similar births don't either.

In the final analysis, I preferred knowing- I was able to imagine my future with a baby boy in a way I wasn't when I was imagining a 'baby'. However, that's just my personal preference. I wouldn't be so crass as to 'feel sorry' for someone who chose to do it a different way to me.

OP- I'm another that thinks JL has some gorgeous unisex baby clothes- fab quality too.

Bluelady Yes, just your opinion, but expressed in a purposely goady way. For what it's worth, I'm one of those lucky people that choose to have the "wonderful surprise" at birth - I found it quite difficult to bond with my baby and I think knowing her sex in advance would have made it feel like she was more of a "person" when I was still pregnant.

Echoing posters that suggest looking in the "boys" section - although it is annoying when you find an otherwise lovely five-pack of sleepsuits with one random one that states "best little chap in the universe!" or something similar. Also, I find that boys' clothes tend to be larger than girls' clothes, even from the same shop - more so now DD is 4 but I still noticed a slight discrepancy when she was a newborn.

In fact. I've been buying baby clothes recently for my niece, and I'd say most retailers have baby clothes taht qualify as unisex, whether specifically marketed as such or not. Lots of high street retailers are beginning to ape the Scandi designs from the likes of Polarno o Pyret etc.

H&M baby’s essentials range is really beautiful and has lots of gender neutral clothes. I think supermarkets are the worst for the pink blue thing.

You don't know, you don't have the other way to compare it with. And it's only my opinion, ffs!

I’ve done it both ways so do have something to compare it with, and it was equally as special both ways. In fact, it would be pretty sad (in my opinion) if you found the birth of your child any less special just because you already knew what it had between it’s legs.
Just out of interest Bluelady have you done it both ways? So you have something to compare it to?

Have a good root around in both boys and girls sections. I often put my little boy in stuff from the H and M girls section.

We got nice unisex baby grows in an Aldi baby event - yellow, mint and white. Even the midwives commented on how nice they were in the hospital! Don't know if they still do them though but worth a look when they have baby events on.

Next, Mothercare, Jojo maman, la redoute, Boots, h&m, Asda, primark have loooooaadddsss of unisex baby stuff! I don’t know how you’re struggling tbh 🤷🏼‍♀️

I got loads of unisex stuff, never had a problem to be honest, HnM have really good stuff and George has gorgeous yellow bits.

But babies look even more cute and snuggly in little white clothes... I know what you mean, though

I put my DD on plain white baby grows.As little babies this us the last time you will get them in white until teens.
Some relatives bought her some outfits which imho look stupid on newborns who are not clothes shaped.They grow out if the first things in about 8 weeks,hard to believe when the first baby grow has so much unfilled foot bits .
My mil was a great knitter so did also at 6 months had a selection of cardies,white,pale green,pale blue, pink .
Charity shops are great when they are little too ,I used them to get away from the pink and lilac around when did was born.
Don't over think the gender thing though,just enjoy your baby,before you know it they'll only want black clothes.

Even though I know we’re having a boy I’ve only bought bright coloured unisex stuff. Better than all the blue stuff with trucks, dinosaurs and ‘mummy’s little soldier’ on the front.

Boots do loads of brightly coloured clothing.

Aldi baby event starts in store today and despite knowing ours is a boy this time round, I bought some really lovely unisex ones through their online. They arrived today and I'm really pleased.

John Lewis has some nice 'unisex' stuff. Picked up some nice baby grows myself the other day.

Little bird at Mothercare also neutral without being a symphony of beige

Then the scandi brands like Dunn's, maximorra etc all have nice bright bold printed stuff too.

Then Etsy is also worth looking at.

Polan o pyrket is good for bright unisex stuff

My worst nightmare! White, grey and beige all the way

I'm expecting a boy and did not want any stereotypically 'boy' clothing, but given that DH has a hand disability that means we're also avoiding multiple poppers like the plague, we didn't have much choice. So he's ended up with mostly unisex but a lot more blue and cars than I ever intended (and not nearly enough dinosaurs, sadly). He has a bit of pink too for balance but overly 'girly' clothes make me vomit and I refuse to give my business to a lot of pink stuff for that reason.

The unisex stuff I had to hunt all over for as most shops seem to have a limited range (and some don't do it at all). It's generally better to check the 'boys' section as other posters have said, as many shops think girls clothes are pink and frilly with unicorns on and boys clothes are anything not pink or frilly or with unicorns on, sadly. I despair for our society sometimes, I really do.