To have not fancied a man in 10 years?

[Smellbellina]

I just had another look at OLD and there is still not a single person I swiped right. What’s wrong with me? I got quite excited when I fancied Tom Hardy, that lasted all of about 2 weeks. Have I become asexual? Does anyone else find it this hard to just fancy someone?

I don’t really fancy people on looks. More minds. I think it’s quite common

That would be great but I haven’t fancied any minds either. And I need some physical attraction

I need to see people in motion, their character and smell.

Unless the other person is jaw droppingly attractive I think you need to get know a person a bit and then their appearance grows on you.

Well I do see a lot of people in real life you can hardly avoid it, not a single person I’ve been attracted to though

I dont think your really gonna fancy a normal person by their pic online. Try swiping right on somewone who looks nice and have a chat, you may start to fancy them.

I’ve done that, I’ve spoken to people, I go out, I interact with people at work, hobbies, social occasions. Nothing. I just don’t fancy people anymore. Surely in 10 years I should feel a spark of something with someone somewhere? I don’t even mind if it’s reciprocated at this point I just want to feel it!

I am the same. Not quite 10 years yet but totally uninterested. I looked at men on the beach I could not fancy anyone. I speak to lots ofmen daily and nothing. No mental spark nor physical.
I am nit worried at this point as I thought it’llcome back at some point.

Same here. I can appreciate someone is goodlooking, but have no sexual attraction towards anyone. Tbh I find it liberating, I can't believe I spent most of my 20's so interested in them .

What about women?

Let’s face it though, the novelty wears off once you realise most of them are not that great 😂

It's just you. The dating pool is rather murky. I think all the good ones have been snapped up...

Damnit, ** NOT just you!

Caveylass has it in a nutshell!

I was feeling pretty much the same,in that I'd not even remotely fancied a guy for at least 7 or 8 years. I was beginning to think 'Oh well it's my age/going through the menopause etc,when totally unexpected I came across a photo of a guy who I'd had a crush on in my late teens. He was in a rock group who were very big at the time,and I was a huge fan of theirs. When I saw this photo,to my embarrassment,I got a got a severe dose of the fanny gallops! . Mind you,he was only about 30 years old then,that was 35 odd years ago!

@ALongHardWinter it can come back then!
I don’t know if I mind or not, I think Caveylass is probably right. My friend has all sorts going on, I was amazed she could find 3 men to even fancy let alone not be able to choose between them! It got me thinking.
I don’t want a relationship or anything, but I do miss the thrill of finding someone attractive.

Smellbellina - Oh yes I can safely say it does come back! sneaks off to have another look at photo

Absolutely the same here...I've had a few dates just to 'get out' but not a stir in the old pot! I could barely stifle my yawns and just wanted to get back home and watch Catfish, as the convoluted love lives on there is far more interesting 🤷‍♀️ I've actually cancelled a date tonight...we'd been chatting over a week or so, it was ok actually, and then we spoke on the phone last night to 'firm up' the arrangements for tonight...I'm so glad we did. He was about as exciting as a dead trout. I couldn't wait to get off the phone so I could text him to cancel (yeah, too chicken to do it mid-conversation 😳)

So no OP, you are not BU...the pond is full of dead trout. It's not you...you're a rainbow fish. One day a beautiful dolphin will splash by and spot you. Until then...swim free and enjoy the waves 😊

Ah chucks thanks @ChaffyMcChaff. Honestly it’s been so long I can’t even remember what it feels like. I’ve tried dating too but it just feels like such a chore, and all the texting that’s required!
Maybe I need a look at that pic @ALongHardWinter, go on give us a peek..

Love Catfish! That’s my evening sorted...

I get zero physical attraction from just looking at a person. It's quite inconvenient actually. I can't decide whether I actually fancy someone until I am in bed with them most of the time. In a way it us good though, it has made me much more open minded in my approach towards dating in the past (happily married now to a man I though I wouldn't fancy at all, I realised I was very wrong when I saw him naked ).

Here you go then. Snowy White.

I can tell that you are totally underwhelmed! . I think I'm unusual in that I've always gone for blond men.