AIBU to ask for your crap mum stories?

[Lovingit81]

I had an epic fail today with my two year old (nearly three) having a monumental tantrum in public. Long story short is that he couldn't have his own way and was tired and fell apart in the street. The worst bit of the story is I was trying to get him back in his car seat whilst juggling a baby (9 month old DD) and my dying  dog!

It was awful and I nearly cried in public. I know it's not his fault and he is only a baby but I'm ashamed to say I struggled to hold it together. I fought him the entire way like I was having an argument with an adult. Wrestled him into his seat (eventually) to screams of NOOOO MUMMY!! And then when we drove off I broke down in front of him. Feeling like an epic failure of a mum today. Onwards and upwards..,,,please share your crap mum stories to make me feel better 

Sounds like a good mum story to me. You didn't give in to a tantrum, he was safely strapped in and you even held it together until you were mostly out of public. Stop being so hard on yourself and have some chocolate!

I cried on the bus on the way home once because DS was screaming, and had been for the majority of the day and night before teeth problems. And a old women said something and I burst.

Sounds like you did good to me. Lots of chocolate.

I forgot to strap my baby in his buggy and then capsized said buggy upside down as I went through my front door. Luckily the footmuff saved him!

You do realise these are good mummy stories as it’s not a typical day

Awww op you sounds like an amazing Mum. You’re multitasking and had toddler strapped in safety while taking care of your 9 month old. I think it’s easy to get frustrated when you have so much on your plate and they’re really trying at this age. I only have one, a 17 month old toddler and I get frustrated and don’t have the extra of a baby too. So I’m much worse than you!

Sounds like you did great
You didn’t give in, you kept him safe in the car, you managed it all whilst dealing with your baby and dog.
Well done mate!

It’s hard to remember in the moment but try to take some deep slow breathes before you start driving, it’ll help your body feel calmer

I’ve also cried infront of ds too no matter how many times I said I would never do that!

Oh I came on to say about my mum who sent me to school p3 in my nightdress because she couldn’t find my uniform.....

But this isn’t that kind of thread. You did great OP being a good mum has it’s ovassions to and everyone’s allowed to break down over it, am sure we all have!!

I think it's probably the dying dog that's made the difference today. Look after yourself

Thank you for your lovely messages. I know it wasn't a typical day, just one of those you want to forget! I will be eating a lot of chocolate tonight once I stop feeling sick on the mum guilt eughhhh!!

Backboiler that made me laugh out loud!

Yes the dog issue is probably what has tipped me over 

Housewifeoflittleitaly I love your story

Three things spring to mind that have happened that I am ashamed of.

1 Toilet training got to me so much once that I got under my duvet and cried! My darling boy kept trying to make cheer me up.

2 My son saying to me aged 2 'you do like me when I'm happy'. I think I was biting my lip and storming off having not dealt well with his meltdown.

3 Kicked the furniture recently and really bruised my toe - again, I wasn't coping well with his frustrations.

Hmm...pattern emerging here.

I told my child yesterday that if they didnt get back in bed I would throw bunny in the bin.... :(

I lobbed Baby Annabelle out the back door once in frustration at DDs behaviour ..... still feel bad about that and she's 17 .... it was her pride and joy.

These are nothing compared to mine!

I turned round for 5 seconds ds pulled my straighteners down and burnt his whole hand!

He fell down the stairs just after I put the stair gate up (I didn't fit it properly)

Don't be hard on yourself though we are just learning

Have just posted another thread cause my 18 month old just ate animal shit in the garden. You're doing a great job OP!

Our children are 13, 11 and 8 so I have lots of moments I consider failures. But just this morning I woke up at 7.30 to 24 messages from ds (11) who’s had a sleepover but couldn’t sleep and wanted me to pick him up at 1.30 this morning. It was heartbreaking. I feel awful as my phone was on silent. DH is away for work so no help. I have felt bad all day. And I’ve just had to wake him from a nap so he sleeps tonight. Lesson learned - will always check my phone is on loud when they are away.

I can clearly remember one very rough day when my eldest was 5 and my youngest was 2.
They'd driven me up the wall, round the bend and then some. I was exhausted as ds2 was a non sleeper.
I was trying to get through to my drs surgery for an appointment and my brain gave up and I couldn't remember how to bring up the number pad on my phone.
I went into our small hallway and burst into tears.
I then heard ds1 say "Let's leave mummy alone for a bit, she's very sad."
I cried even more.

We've all been there OP.

My DD (2yo at the time), once had an epic meltdown after a gymnastics class. She refused to put her shoes and socks back on and was screaming and writhing like something from a horror film. I had to carry her out the the car under my arm. Couldn't get her into her car seat so I just shut the car door, sat on the floor and cried. Called my DH who had to come rescue us.

I'm really sorry about your dog

I sent my kid to school with a broken ankle.

I forgot to send one of my kids (12) to school. We all overslept and oldest DS and I ran round to get out the door, it was like I forgot he existed.

Returned home and DH (who leaves and comes back before me) sat on sofa asking did I forget something.

Hugs, my worst one was when DS2 was a month old, DS1 3y 2m. We were at soft play and DS1 was having a whale of a time playing with some other kids, I obviously wasn’t thinking and went to change DS2’s nappy, I didn’t think DS1 would even notice. Came back and he was hysterical. I felt awful.

Not my story. But my DM once forgot one of my DBs on public transport.

She turned around, the door had closed and the tram was driving away. With my DB still in it.

He was extremely anxious in public transport for the next few years / insisted on taking someone's hand etc when it was time to get off to make sure wouldn't be left behind :-/

I recently forgot to ask my goddaughter whether she was wearing knickers. She flashed the whole church...

Why do
People think crying in front of children is bad? I’ve not come across that before and a couple of posters have mentioned it.

OP we have all been there your a great mum