AIBU to ask for your crap mum stories?

[Lovingit81]

I had an epic fail today with my two year old (nearly three) having a monumental tantrum in public. Long story short is that he couldn't have his own way and was tired and fell apart in the street. The worst bit of the story is I was trying to get him back in his car seat whilst juggling a baby (9 month old DD) and my dying  dog!

It was awful and I nearly cried in public. I know it's not his fault and he is only a baby but I'm ashamed to say I struggled to hold it together. I fought him the entire way like I was having an argument with an adult. Wrestled him into his seat (eventually) to screams of NOOOO MUMMY!! And then when we drove off I broke down in front of him. Feeling like an epic failure of a mum today. Onwards and upwards..,,,please share your crap mum stories to make me feel better 

OP atleast it was you who wrestled with your tantruming child. I once went to Aldi with my newborn and not very well two year old. Moment of dread when I realised I didn't have a pound for the trolley so went in and stood at till for change. Two year old threw complete head banging on floor tantrum which I could do nothing about because I was laden down with newborn and bags. I must have looked so lost a woman came from her place in the queue scooped up my toddler, carried him literally kicking and screaming out the shop and wrestled him into a trolley seat. I dont even think I uttered a word.

I dropped DS on his head as a baby while trying to catch him him as he fell off the changing mat. At his new nursery. The day we were looking around. In front of all the staff. I cried all day after that but he hardly grumbled and was completely fine.

Ds 2 climbed on the windowsill and was about to fall off straight onto a toy that had pointy edges. I panicked and grabbed his upper arms too hard trying to grab him before he fell that he had little finger prints all round the top of his arms. I cried because I felt bad, even though it would have been worse if he'd landed face first on the toy

We've all been there
When my son was 3 his tantrums were awful. Every day on the school run for his brother, he would give an epic performance. His trick was, as I was holding his hand, to lean back/drop to the floor/drag his feet and hang off my arm so that to a passer by it looked as though I was physically dragging him along. It was mortifying, I was convinced I'd be reported by another parent for abusing him. Little bugger.

My daughter (just turned two) dislocated her elbow after being rather toddlerish in Ikea! Refusing to hold my hand lifted her feet up so she would hang whilst I forced her to hold my hand and it popped! She does it quite a lot (pop her elbow out it doesn't take much to do it) but I hate it and feel instantly awful! She goes into shock and I had to drag her in my arms plus my 5 month old baby in his Pram through the rest of Ikea! I was able to relocate it once we got in the car 😱

My ds had a massive tantrum in the street once. I was quite new to letting him walk instead of taking the pushchair. So I had him and 2 bags of shopping and for some unfathomable reason he was carrying a giant inflatable BB8. And it was raining.
He was lying on the ground screaming and refusing to get up. I just sat down beside him and cried. I was so frustrated. I could see our front door but couldn't get there.

Not my finest moment, sitting on the pavement in the rain crying. But we all survived. Onwards and upwards.

This was earlier this year during the heatwave. Ds1 wanted to play in the garden so I put ds2 down for a nap and went into the garden where I was ambushed by my 4 year old and his water bombs.
I promptly made myself some and armed myself, launched one at him. It hit his back so hard I swear you could hear the crack 5 streets away, then bounced, hit the wall above him and drowned him. He screamed like he’d been shot, dh ran downstairs (thought he had been shot) and found me trying desperately to console a screaming, crying, drowned rat of a child, who was shivering with cold and had a humongous bruise across his shoulder blades: ooops

I’ve just remembered that dd (3) woke up and refused to get out of bed. She had form for being spectacularly awkward. She said her legs didn’t work. I told her I’d be downstairs when she was ready. 20 minutes passed, no dd. Went up and picked her up and stood her up except she couldn’t stand up and her legs crumpled underneath her. Went to a&e and it was ‘just’ hypermobility but I felt so so guilty! She reminded me of it for a very long time!

MeyMary, my friend's sister was left on a Tube when she was about 5 and the doors shut and it pulled away. They have a good laugh about it now. She's 47

We have all had those days. Tantrums on supermarket floors being a favourite I remember!

I forgot to strap my 2 yo into his buggy at the zoo and he then jumped out while it was moving and literally rolled right in front of the road train in front of a long queue. I felt terrible and very embarrassed! He is a strapping 19 yo now and he still loves me.

@Mothership4two
Good for them :)! I'm actually not sure my brother remembers... (I'll have to ask him when I see him next time.)
But it didn't seem to have harmed him...

I could write an essay....

Been on the motorway for half an hour and my 4yo announced that no one had done her seat belt up.

Did a 15 min journey on a motorway when dd1 was a baby and when I got to my destination I realised that although she was strapped in to her seat, the seat wasn't strapped in to the car.

Once heard the ice cream van and me and dd went two streets away to find it then remembered baby dd was asleep in her cot.

Dd2 was in her pushchair and dd1 was on the buggy board. It was just before Xmas and the pushchair was laden in bags. Dd1 jumped off the buggy board and the pushchair fell over with dd2 in it.

Cut dd1 finger with nail clippers and made her bleed.

I am sure I'll think of more!

I wrestled my tantrumming ds into his car seat having collected him from his cm after a really shit day, turned around in a huff of physical and mental exhaustion, accidentally clipped the door lock with my elbow as I swung around in said huff to slam the door shut. And ended up looking on helplessly just as the door slammed shut and I caught sight of my car keys lying on the passenger seat. Had to call the AA out.

Failed to steal dd into her buggy just as she was learning to sit up unaided. Ds distracted me and dd went toppling forward out of her buggy and onto her face.

I've also licked what I thought was Calpol off my hand, only to discover it was ds's snot.

Honestly, I have tons of these stories. My dc are two of the most loved and well cared for children you'll ever meet. I could still write a book about all the times I've felt like the worst mother on earth! Comes with the territory op, you're doing just fine.

strap not steal!

My daughter was talking about her job in the future and she said she wants a job where when she is a mum, she can pick her up from school 😢😢😢😢

@Ohyesiam I think it is a mum thing, feeling the need to at least appear to be in control. I cried a few times in front of mine and felt crap about it afterwards. It probably did them good, Mum's only human, but tbh they didn't seem to care very much anyway.

I had one day where 2yo DD was just pushing all my buttons - I'd ask her not to do something, and she'd eyeball me whilst deliberately doing just that - and so on. I finally lost it and shouted at her, really shouted. She just looked away and carried on playing, not fussed in the slightest. I broke down and sobbed, said she was making me very sad. She laughed.

It was awful. But I walked away and left her to it for a bit, shortly afterward she said sorry and was the most adorable little person for the rest of the day. It passed and 98% of the time she's utterly delightful! But we just all have those days.

I shouted at DD(13) the other day and told her to "go find somewhere else to live because I don't give two fucks anymore". We got over the argument quickly but i still feel horrible for saying that to her, she could say much worse to me but I'd never want her to think I don't care about her

I’ve started doing it the opposite way.

I used to cringe and berate myself trying to get my kids on side for fear of what strangers think.

I get them on board now.

“Excuse me my son is having a tantrum and won’t let me strap him in his seat without kicking me. Can you do it please? “ the shock on ds face!!! He just gawped at this woman. Not a murmur.

Im not a mum, but my brother is older than me,

We lived on a farm growing up, he used to chase me with the cattle prod (gave a small electric shock) for fun, to be fair he never actually used it but threatened too, fast forward to his kids now and while they cant picture it,

I often hear them remind their dad about how he used to chase me with a Tazer. Its been updated for modern times, I feel bad and while Ive tried to explain to the kids, they say Im only saying that in case he tazers me again

After a few days of feeling like the worlds worst mum to my almost 6 month old , I am crying laughter tears at this thread and thinking oh so I'm not an awful mum , I'm just a normal mum!

Thanks you

We had one of those twisty lock things on the inside of our front door so I didn't have to keep hunting for the keys when anyone knocked on the door. When my son was 2 he got a chair to reach the lock, key himself out and was discovered by the neighbours several houses away wheeling along his Thomas the tank engine bag. They returned him much to my embarrassment as I hadn't noticed he'd gone. Needless to say we changed the lock and keep the keys very high up now

Too many to list. But once my then two year old was playing up so I demanded she hold the buggy strap and not let go for anything.
Crossing the road I feel a bit of resistance just as I bump up the other side pavement, I realised she’d tripped and I’d dragged her along the floor.
The drives at the lights looked horrified . She had a grazed knee and grazed wrist.

She was still holding the strap though

My one year old drank washing up liquid I left in a shopping bag on the floor.

I punched my 13 year old in the face the other day, from quite close range. I was asleep and having a nightmare so tossing and turning and he got close to my face to wake me up to see if I was ok and I panicked and swung in my asleep state and got him square in the jaw.

You're my hero, OP.

I would have done it with tears lashing down my cheeks, screams to the god of the universe and very inappropriate language for the children. Yes, I would have made a scene.

You have my respect.