AIBU to ask for your crap mum stories?

[Lovingit81]

I had an epic fail today with my two year old (nearly three) having a monumental tantrum in public. Long story short is that he couldn't have his own way and was tired and fell apart in the street. The worst bit of the story is I was trying to get him back in his car seat whilst juggling a baby (9 month old DD) and my dying  dog!

It was awful and I nearly cried in public. I know it's not his fault and he is only a baby but I'm ashamed to say I struggled to hold it together. I fought him the entire way like I was having an argument with an adult. Wrestled him into his seat (eventually) to screams of NOOOO MUMMY!! And then when we drove off I broke down in front of him. Feeling like an epic failure of a mum today. Onwards and upwards..,,,please share your crap mum stories to make me feel better 

My dm left my outside the coop in 1965! In my pram. Apparently she forgot me.

i lobbed baby Annabelle out of the door once

Understandable.

Op so sorry about doggie

Ohyesiam Because they say you should cry infront of babies/young children as they pick up on it and it makes them feel bad. And it’s not nice for them to see Mummy falling to bits I suppose.

shouldnt*

Oh, I have loads. The worst and most memorable was taking my new born DD for a walk in the pram. Got to the end of the street before realising she was in the moses basket at home. I can only blame sleep deprivation. She's 18 now, so totally survived the ordeal!

My parenting moment I’ll never forget is DD1 saying to me “why is DD2 in the blanket?” and after a few moments of blank from me I realised that I hadn’t strapped my small baby into the pram and at some point she’d slid down into the foot muff. The looks I got fishing her out were awful.

Also the time I decided to join in the frisbee game the girls were having in the park and let go too soon and launched the frisbee into DSD’s face. Thankfully she found it hilarious, and equally her Mum nearly pissed herself laughing when I had to shamefaced explain the bruise on her DDs forehead.

You're doing great, OP, though I feel your pain.

I have too many to list, but the one that I remember best is taking DS1 in the car for a medium-length journey when he was a baby and taking a corner slightly too abruptly towards the end. It turned out I'd strapped him in his seat but hadn't strapped the seat itself in, and he rolled across the back seat and was upside down until I found somewhere to pull over.

DH had to talk me out of putting DS up for adoption for his own safety.

PS Not her fault at all, but one of my friends had to leave her second child in the pushchair as the first child had suddenly taken off for a busy road. She managed to catch the first child before they got run, but turned round to find the pushchair had rolled and tipped into a pond. Everyone was fine, but I don't think she ever recovered!

When dd was a newborn and ds was 3, I went into town with them to get some shopping. Dh was working abroad and I was beyond exhausted. I parked the car, walked a good distance to the shops and realised dd had done a poonami. All up her back, through her clothes everywhere. Went to change her and threw everything in the bin because it was literally saturated. Went into changing bag and realised I had NOTHING for her - no nappy, no change of clothes, nothing. Thankfully the baby change area had a sink and paper towels so I cleaned her up and cleaned the buggy. They I had to take a naked newborn out to go buy clothes and nappies whilst ds trailed behind me silently like he knew I was on the verge of a breakdown.

Ohyesiam - crying in front of my son upsets him and distresses him. He does not have the full understanding of what has happened. Especially not when he was 2 or 3.

Ds aged 3 was getting a new scooter, I knew this since I bought it as the old one was too small. Took both boys out for a walk, ds 3 refuses to scoot, when he did he kept going into his Brothers ankles on purpose. Just a little git on what I wanted to be a lovely family walk through the woods. After the 6th tantrum, 7th time going into brothers ankles and him scooting on his arse on it I got it and lost my shit and threw it far into the woods bad mum. He is nearly 4 now and still remembers it and says mummy threw my scooter whenever scooter related conversations come up even though he has his lovely scooter that's the right size now. I feel guilt to for leaving it to in my anger knowing someone had to take it and clear it. Never again.

I think you did great today op

I don't know why crying in front of your kids is one of the reasons on a crap mum thread either. My son has seen me cry and he's 3. I'm a single working mum and I am very open and honest about feelings. He asks why I'm crying, I tell him it's because I'm say and give him an age appropriate explanation. He always gives me a cuddle, kiss and tells me he loves me. I think it's made him empathetic, I don't believe it's had a negative or stressful effect.

WaterOffaDucksCrack The op mentions breaking down infront of her dc so I think we’re just saying we’ve all done it she’s not the only one hence it being on the thread

I also believe all children are different as a pp mentions her ds not being able to deal with the emotion. Each experience is our own.

Wateroffaduckscrack - because me crying distresses my son. See my previous posts. It's great your son is ok with it. My son is not. Crying infront of children is not awful by any means. We are all different and so are our children.

A spider landed on me in a restaurant and I (in shock, horror and disgust) flailed about trying to get it off my arm. Unfortunately in doing so I also hit DD in the face.

I felt sick. She was very stoic and gracious about it, which only added to the guilt.

The worst thing I've ever done was tip the front wheels of the pram down the gap between the train and platform, rushing to get off a very crowded train and the doors were closing. I fell right over the pram but luckily I'd strapped DD in well so she didn't fall out and wasn't hurt at all. I then had a complete melt down, crying and hyperventilating about what could have happened, and I still had to get on another train. I still feel bad about it. We all have bad days so try not to dwell on it (easier said than done I know).

I panicked because (daft) DH had sat my son (probably about 4/5 months old) up on the sofa as a joke (stealing my seat) whilst I left the room, and then went out to watch the football with his mates. I panicked when I walked back in the room seeing him still sat there (as he could have easily fallen), picked DS up, tripped over his bouncy chair and fell into the armchair and the bookcase. Luckily I managed to lift DS out of the way so I took the brunt of the fall. I knew he was ok as I was leaning over him crying in pain and worry and he just laughed at me cos my hair tickled his face. Still took him to be checked out though.
DH was very apologetic and felt really guilty that he had left DS on the sofa whilst I was out of the room (was in the kitchen sorting out bottles and formula measurements). He honestly didn't think I would have been out of the room for that long.

When I was pregnant my two children (11/7) used to help me get dressed because I could barely move from SPD. When my 3rd DC was 2 weeks old, my OH went back to work (he works away) and between them cooked all the meals, did all the tidying, looked after and exercised our dog and also kept on top of their work... without any help from me. At all. I was absolutely awful. Then a couple of weeks later I was going into septic shock and didn’t know, and they both cleaned my vomit up, helped me on the toilet, filled baths for me, looked after baby until ambulance arrived.

I feel like the shittest mother on the planet whenever I think about it all. No child should have to do that- although I’m trying to treat them like little kings now I have my energy back and I’m not falling apart!

I was waiting for the bus with DS then aged about 9 or 10. We were jumping off a wall doing karate kicks in the air- don't ask! I miss timed it and caught him straight on the chin. He thought it was very funny and even now talks about 'the time mum kicked me in the face'. He's 21 now.

Again at the bus stop DD2 in full teen strop, made me so angry I pushed her and made her drop her spicy NikNaks. This is her favourite story to tell people too. She's 23 now.

If crying in front of your kids makes you a bad mum I must be horrendous. I suffer from depression and anxiety and had a full on anxiety attack in front of my 4 year old and my 11 month old, tears and hyperventilating, the works.

God too many to mention!!

Worse probably DD fell out of bed and I gave her a quick head rub and popped her back to bed where she fell asleep

Woke in the morning to see shed hit her face on a cupboard and covered in blood needing stitches to the wound.

I put the lights on after that!

I had a migraine I sacked on CBeebies while I lay down crying because I felt so bad I fell asleep I woke up two (ish) year old dd had covered me with her fav blanket got a bowl just in case and sat by me playing quietly the back door was wide open she could have wandered off anything could have happened 😞

A friend of mine said "If ever I shout at my kids so loud my throat hurts, I think of you."

Wanna hear a crap mother story?

I was out shopping today with my two DDS (5 & 2) and witnessed a woman shouting at her young DD. She was shouting right in her face and practically touching her with the tip of her nose. If that wasn't bad enough, she was calling her a ''F***ng selfish brat''.

You don't sound like a crap mum at all. We all get a little tired and emotional and being a mum to two young children is stressful enough and doubly hard when they have tantrums etc.

I've locked myself in the bathroom plenty of times and sat on the floor just to hide from the kids for 2 minutes so I can get a little peace and quiet. They always find me tho..