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Original poster

No Birthday present from DW

93 replies

penk29 · 14/08/2018 18:25

So it was my birthday on July 29th. We have two DDs I got a card from them and the wife. My side of the family came round did normal birthday greetings and gave me cards and presents. Still nothing from the wife.

So the day ends and no present from wife or kids in sight. So just leave it although was a little miffed. So fast forward to today August 14th and wife comes in a drops a Poundland back in my lap and says happy birthday. I was a little shocked as like it was nearly two weeks ago. So I said thanks and opened the back. She walked out the Room didn't even stay to see me look what they was. So in the bag was a box of cereal bars a bag of crisps and some shortbread.

AIBU to feel a little pissed off?

OP posts:
NellMangel · 14/08/2018 19:18

How odd. Do you think the kids chose the Poundland stuff? Anyway definitely ask her so you'll know whether to bother in future.

ThreeHousesNoHouse · 14/08/2018 19:20

Don’t ask internet strangers. Ask the person you married.

Jupiter9 · 14/08/2018 19:20

Perhaps that was your dinner.

madcatladyforever · 14/08/2018 19:21

My ex husband did this kind of thing all the time, no presents couldn't be bothered on my birthday to even be nice to me and expected the world on his birthdays. treated me like dirt then dumped me because I refused to go to a swinging club with him. Turns out he was always up to something behind my back.
Beware, something is up.

Original poster
penk29 · 14/08/2018 19:21

Housework we do together and share out across the kids as well where they can. We both work the same hours etc and we hardly ever argue (sounds too good I know) hence my sudden WTF

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Teachtolive · 14/08/2018 19:24

Either she's pissed at you for something or she's a horrible person. The only way to know is to ask her.

Aprilsinparis · 14/08/2018 19:24

Cereal bars, crisps and shortbread?? You have got to ask her, why cereal bars, crisps and shortbread. Why??? Ask her now, go on ask her, I am dying to know, what is going on, and believe me, there is something, and I don't think it has anything to do with Pandora charms.

Eliza9917 · 14/08/2018 19:26

Omg I need to know the reason why Grin

NaomiNagata · 14/08/2018 19:26

Seriously, just ask her!

If you cannot talk to your spouse then you shouldn't be married. Just talk.

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 14/08/2018 19:27

Please ask her OP!

Kittykat93 · 14/08/2018 19:27

I honestly cannot for the life of me understand why you've come on the internet and asked strangers rather than asking your wife. Just ask her why she's got you a crappy Poundland present two weeks late!!! Confused

LittleMe03 · 14/08/2018 19:32

I never understand these sort of threads. You've been married to this women for 15 years. Why wouldn't you ask her what's going on and ask if you've upset her in some way?

If this happened to me I wouldn't be coming on Mumsnet to question it. I would be talking to my spouse

Deadringer · 14/08/2018 19:41

It's very weird, you really need to ask her what is going on.

Aridane · 14/08/2018 19:42

OP - it definitely has to be your fault. Thems the rules.

HelpmeobiMN · 14/08/2018 19:46

‘the wife’ is a regional dialect thing so PPs complaining about it should get lost.

OP your wife has been really unfair and behaved badly - YANBU to be upset. Unfortunately you’ve fallen victim to the MN double standard where you’re getting a harder time because you’re a man than you would if you were a woman. But YANBU to want a small amount of thought and care to be shown.

AfterSchoolWorry · 14/08/2018 19:46

A box of cereal?

That's an insult.

Takfujimoto · 14/08/2018 20:03

I have no advice apart from asking her op.

Please come back and tell us what you've done though 😂

Aintnothingbutaheartache · 14/08/2018 20:09

I’ve been told off by MN for being a gob by shite so............
Well, it certainly sounds like the wife is upset with you about something. Have you tried talking to her about it?
If it’s unusual for you not to get a birthday gift then there’s definitely something happening.

Didntwanttochangemyname · 14/08/2018 20:12

Ask her!

pilates · 14/08/2018 20:13

Can you ask her please? I am intrigued too.

Victoria889 · 14/08/2018 20:16

Yanbu op I'd be very upset in your shoes, you seem to be getting a hard time on here and I'm not sure why?

buckeejit · 14/08/2018 20:23

I'd ask. If there's something undisclosed she's clearly been off for a while.

Have you noticed any change in
Behaviour recently? Do you honestly think she's happy?

MrsMozart · 14/08/2018 20:29

If the rest of life is normal then you definitely need the conversation with her.

Original poster
penk29 · 14/08/2018 20:34

My sister is going to see if she can find out if theirs some hidden meaning and if not then am going in. God help me wonder if a&e can remove a cereal bar from ones behind lol

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PaintedHorizons · 14/08/2018 20:40

I would also be upset OP. It is rude an horrible.
We don't do presents but making someone feel special is important

Hope it sorts itself out

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