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Original poster

To stay late at work.. SO MANY VISITORS!!!

60 replies

w4ytoomuch · 14/08/2018 08:06

So currently, in our house we have

Me
DH
DS
DSD1
DSD2

MIL
SIL
SIL
DNephew
DNiece
DNiece

FOR TWO WEEKS

WIBU to have to unexpectedly stay super late at work?
The real kicker is that SIL has a phobia of dogs so my best pal, DDog, has had to stay at a (very nice dog loving) colleagues house Sad. Should I just go with the dog?!

Honestly, I get on well with the family but it's just so much. It's DSD2's bday this week and the first time we've had her for it so I understand everyone wants to be here. But for two weeks?! Argh

Anyone got any tips how to deal with so many guests? I'm running out of towels 🤣

OP posts:
JingsMahBucket · 14/08/2018 08:54

@Nofunkingworriesmate

Why are your guest waiting till 2 o'clock to go out with OH ??

She didn't say that. She said that her OH returns around 2pm to start taxiing them about.

The guests could be occupying themselves around the neighbourhood until 2pm for all we know. They could be going to the parks, pool, community center, in the garden, etc. Stop jumping to conclusions.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/08/2018 08:55

How would your ds feel if you did this? Is he old enough to take himself off?

Sounds ghastly to me with all the relatives. But I do understand your dh wants to be with his children and if this is the only way it can happen right now, that’s as is. I assume you knew before you married so he hasn’t sprung this on you.

MadisonAvenue · 14/08/2018 08:57

YANBU. Either work late or go shopping, find a shopping centre that's open late (but say that you have to work).
Or do you not have a work trip?

When my mother in law stays the dog gets extra long walks, and lots of them.

Original poster
w4ytoomuch · 14/08/2018 08:57

DH isn't my sons Dad, no. But DS is 15 and isn't bothered by it at all so long as he can get to his PlayStation (he gets on with them all but especially the nephew)

The girls will get alone time with their dad as they're staying for just over three weeks in total. But right now they're loving having time with their cousins. Once everyone's gone he's taking them for a long weekend to centre parcs

I'm only a couple of days in and so far it's ok but I haven't had to cook yet Grin

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Inertia · 14/08/2018 09:00

Definitely lots of dog visiting/ walking to reduce the imposition on your friend- this has the added bonus of giving you a bit of peace, and means that your husband has to take charge of all parenting and entertaining while you take responsibility for the dog.

Inertia · 14/08/2018 09:01

Just looking at your list again- how on earth does everyone fit in your house? Is it some kind of 8 bedroomed mansion?

cheesefield · 14/08/2018 09:10

Just reading this is giving me a panic attack!

bimbobaggins · 14/08/2018 09:13

A long lunch with this many would be enough for me.

TooTrueToBeGood · 14/08/2018 09:22

The real kicker is that SIL has a phobia of dogs so my best pal, DDog, has had to stay at a (very nice dog loving) colleagues house

Poor dog. No way would I send mine off to accommodate a visitor. Maybe you could tell a little white lie in a day or two and tell SIL dog is not settling and will need to come home. Your visitors might just cut their trip short.

Original poster
w4ytoomuch · 14/08/2018 09:25

Is it some kind of 8 bedroomed mansion?

5 bed, so we're mainly comfy! Just! Grin

It's the dining table and crockery sets that's the problem haha

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ThisIsntMeHonestGuv · 14/08/2018 09:30

Jeepers!

That is my idea of hell. Much as I love having my kids and their partners come to stay (so total 5 people in the house including me), I love the quiet when they've gone.

You are a saint for even agreeing to that!

It's such a shame that work is busy soo busy just now, but you just can't get out of the extra work.

Leonard1 · 14/08/2018 10:02

Have had a lifetime of house guests. Can’t deny it’s tiring but the adults all need to muck in and cook a meal etc after the first few days. You are not there to wait on everyone. its Keeping food stocked up and on top of washing is hard. Delegate! Ask who is cooking the eve meal and ask who is doing the ironing! You are not wonder woman!

Maelstrop · 14/08/2018 10:35

2 weeks? I’d go nuts! I hope everyone is cooking and buying food.

TooYoungToBeSoTired · 14/08/2018 14:38

YANBU. 2 weeks is a long time, esp if they’re not very helpful guests. That being said, I do find the stance on MN on guests a bit extreme, nobody here likes guests ever and you’re some kind of a saint if you have them for more than a day. If you’ve got family living far away/abroad, it’s pretty standard to have them over for a few weeks at a time.

AJPTaylor · 14/08/2018 18:22

Tell them you are working late.
Go to the pictures
Go for a meal

mostdays · 14/08/2018 18:27

If she hadn't left early as she's under a 3 line whip to Be There and Do Family Stuff I would think you were my colleague- who doesn't even have a bedroom atm with all the relatives staying.

YANBU.

Gaspodethetalkingdog · 14/08/2018 18:30

Oh dear, I worked late, went to see DDog and had an accidental couple of glassses of wine so can’t come home. You and friend share a takeaway on the sofa with dog and bottle of wine....

bluerunningshoes · 14/08/2018 18:33

absolutely
do some overtime
come home only once dinner is finished & dishwasher is running.

IsaidMrDarcynotArsey · 14/08/2018 19:18

Sainsbury’s ( other supermarkets available Grin ) usually do a plain white 12 piece crockery set this time of year for those going off to uni. Under a tenner if you need extras for dishwasher rotations. If you know anyone who has a Costco card the crystal cutlery is dishwashable I store it in a large plastic tub after its been used and washed - frees up the real stuff for dinner time, less investment than real cutlery and they are recyclable.

Rebecca36 · 14/08/2018 21:07

It sounds as though you like them but I can understand it's a bit much after a while. Yes, stay late at work! Not unreasonable and will give you a break from everyone.

Don't stress - they'll be gone soon and will have had a lovely time. You seem like a nice person.

divadee · 14/08/2018 21:18

I have been at my mother in laws house since Sunday. We leave tomorrow but if partner said to leave tonight I would be on it like a shot. I hate it. I want my own bed with peace and quiet. I want to do things when I want too, not when mil deems we can. I can't wait for tomorrow morning. I have even almost full packed tonight while mil has started the melodramatics of her baby boy leaving. *sigh.

BlueJava · 15/08/2018 01:13

I'd have said no way! So YANBU to work late/see the dog/get a takeaway whilst out/go shopping/whatever to escape!

Sweetpea55 · 15/08/2018 09:45

The grown up guests should be helping out by cooking for you,ready for when you get in.After all, youv been at work all day.
And Id be visiting friends a lot..

Sweetpea55 · 15/08/2018 09:49

who is doing the ironing!

Well that shouldnt be you,,Not their stuff anyway Id be showing them how to operate the washing machine as well.

Vaycayheyhey · 15/08/2018 09:55

OR, you could collect up all dirty sheets and towels and disappear with them to a service laundry or laundrettes and happily mumsnet for two/three hours before the soothing folding of said towels before returning home - ‘you’ time but also unarguable ‘helping out’.

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