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AIBU?

To stay late at work.. SO MANY VISITORS!!!

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w4ytoomuch · 14/08/2018 08:06

So currently, in our house we have

Me
DH
DS
DSD1
DSD2

MIL
SIL
SIL
DNephew
DNiece
DNiece

FOR TWO WEEKS

WIBU to have to unexpectedly stay super late at work?
The real kicker is that SIL has a phobia of dogs so my best pal, DDog, has had to stay at a (very nice dog loving) colleagues house . Should I just go with the dog?!

Honestly, I get on well with the family but it's just so much. It's DSD2's bday this week and the first time we've had her for it so I understand everyone wants to be here. But for two weeks?! Argh

Anyone got any tips how to deal with so many guests? I'm running out of towels 🤣

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Porpoises · 15/08/2018 12:13

It sounds like you are doing a really lovely thing for your step kids OP :) Hope you have some fun times, and can escape to your dog if it gets a bit much!

CSIblonde · 15/08/2018 12:07

2 weeks OP! I'd be short circuiting thru lack of quiet down time. Whatever gets u thru do it. Poor dog, can you visit him, that'd give you time out & doggy fix.

LadyCassandra · 15/08/2018 11:04

MIL is coming for 4 weeks soon. I usually stay late at work, or find things to do. She’s lovely but it’s full on sharing a 2 bed apartment with her when we have 2 DS.
This time we have a DD and I am on maternity leave. There is no escape

luckycat007 · 15/08/2018 10:59

That sounds absolutely horrendous.

I'd last five minutes.

AviatorShades · 15/08/2018 10:53

w4too.. there you go then! It's all turning out splendidly

FASH84 · 15/08/2018 10:53

In the circumstances it seems like you have nice and helpful guests and DH is also doing his bit, it will be tiring but hopefully fun. (I'm one of the weird people like your DH who loves a houseful). Good luck OP

w4ytoomuch · 15/08/2018 10:39

Oh and I barely iron my own clothes so no one else has a chance!

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w4ytoomuch · 15/08/2018 10:39

So I made 3 huge lasagnes yesterday they went down well. Now MIL has said she's happy to take on cooking duties for a while, DH can't wait cos no one cooks like Ma 🤣.

It's very likely I will put on a stone in two weeks though

The kitchen was also spotless when I came back from work and was cleaned by the masses after dinner.

So really I could have a lot more to complain about.... so far so good!

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Vaycayheyhey · 15/08/2018 09:57

Btw I’m not suggesting it’s your duty to take on boring domestic tasks, just from long experience with large family and visitors I know all the socially acceptable /unarguable tricks.

Vaycayheyhey · 15/08/2018 09:56

Someone I know once organised click and collect then said she was doing ‘massive grocery shop’ - had two hours off, grabbed groceries from c&c on way home.

Vaycayheyhey · 15/08/2018 09:55

OR, you could collect up all dirty sheets and towels and disappear with them to a service laundry or laundrettes and happily mumsnet for two/three hours before the soothing folding of said towels before returning home - ‘you’ time but also unarguable ‘helping out’.

Sweetpea55 · 15/08/2018 09:49

who is doing the ironing!

Well that shouldnt be you,,Not their stuff anyway Id be showing them how to operate the washing machine as well.

Sweetpea55 · 15/08/2018 09:45

The grown up guests should be helping out by cooking for you,ready for when you get in.After all, youv been at work all day.
And Id be visiting friends a lot..

BlueJava · 15/08/2018 01:13

I'd have said no way! So YANBU to work late/see the dog/get a takeaway whilst out/go shopping/whatever to escape!

divadee · 14/08/2018 21:18

I have been at my mother in laws house since Sunday. We leave tomorrow but if partner said to leave tonight I would be on it like a shot. I hate it. I want my own bed with peace and quiet. I want to do things when I want too, not when mil deems we can. I can't wait for tomorrow morning. I have even almost full packed tonight while mil has started the melodramatics of her baby boy leaving. *sigh.

Rebecca36 · 14/08/2018 21:07

It sounds as though you like them but I can understand it's a bit much after a while. Yes, stay late at work! Not unreasonable and will give you a break from everyone.

Don't stress - they'll be gone soon and will have had a lovely time. You seem like a nice person.

IsaidMrDarcynotArsey · 14/08/2018 19:18

Sainsbury’s ( other supermarkets available ) usually do a plain white 12 piece crockery set this time of year for those going off to uni. Under a tenner if you need extras for dishwasher rotations. If you know anyone who has a Costco card the crystal cutlery is dishwashable I store it in a large plastic tub after its been used and washed - frees up the real stuff for dinner time, less investment than real cutlery and they are recyclable.

bluerunningshoes · 14/08/2018 18:33

absolutely
do some overtime
come home only once dinner is finished & dishwasher is running.

Gaspodethetalkingdog · 14/08/2018 18:30

Oh dear, I worked late, went to see DDog and had an accidental couple of glassses of wine so can’t come home. You and friend share a takeaway on the sofa with dog and bottle of wine....

mostdays · 14/08/2018 18:27

If she hadn't left early as she's under a 3 line whip to Be There and Do Family Stuff I would think you were my colleague- who doesn't even have a bedroom atm with all the relatives staying.

YANBU.

AJPTaylor · 14/08/2018 18:22

Tell them you are working late.
Go to the pictures
Go for a meal

TooYoungToBeSoTired · 14/08/2018 14:38

YANBU. 2 weeks is a long time, esp if they’re not very helpful guests. That being said, I do find the stance on MN on guests a bit extreme, nobody here likes guests ever and you’re some kind of a saint if you have them for more than a day. If you’ve got family living far away/abroad, it’s pretty standard to have them over for a few weeks at a time.

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Maelstrop · 14/08/2018 10:35

2 weeks? I’d go nuts! I hope everyone is cooking and buying food.

Leonard1 · 14/08/2018 10:02

Have had a lifetime of house guests. Can’t deny it’s tiring but the adults all need to muck in and cook a meal etc after the first few days. You are not there to wait on everyone. its Keeping food stocked up and on top of washing is hard. Delegate! Ask who is cooking the eve meal and ask who is doing the ironing! You are not wonder woman!

ThisIsntMeHonestGuv · 14/08/2018 09:30

Jeepers!

That is my idea of hell. Much as I love having my kids and their partners come to stay (so total 5 people in the house including me), I love the quiet when they've gone.

You are a saint for even agreeing to that!

It's such a shame that work is busy soo busy just now, but you just can't get out of the extra work.

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