I hate that my house is the "go to" house

[saltybitchface]

My DD age 8 is popular girl with lots of neighbourhood pals. For some reason our home is the go to house. Every fucking day this summer my doorbell is rang before noon by some kid or another wanting to play either in my house with DD or in my back garden. I try and tell DD to go play at the park or go to the other kids back gardens, and sometimes she will, but usually they all return after a short time because they are bored 😑

Sometimes DH is sleeping during the day(shift worker ) and the kids (including my DD) can be too noisy. I also just want to get out of bed and look ugly in my ugly slob clothes and ugly hair and not have to keep and eye on the kids or even the fact that they eat the snacks I've bought for my own kids.

Why the hell don't these kids parents ever think to themselves, "oh you've been at such and such's house a lot this summer, maybe give her mum a break? Or I guess they are just happy that their kid is outside their house and don't care that I don't want your kid in my house every day of the summer hols! 🤯

I generally am of the "I hate unexpected visitors" crowd but for kids I know I don't need to be perfectly dressed or the house doesn't need to be super tidy, but man I some days I just want to sit and slob in front of the tv and I feel I can't relax at all when the door is going and kids coming and going through my house and garden 😭😭

AIBU or would this make you crazy too?

That was my house when the kids were young, we were the go-to house and in retrospect I don't regret it at all.

I loved the go to houses as a kid.

Nobody ever wanted to come to my house.

I also didn’t mind my friends mum walking around naked with a face mask, though

All the parents love the go-to house but you might not love it so much if it's your house all the time! I was that parent, and although I liked it that everyone liked coming here, that's great, my kids loved it, sometimes just sometimes spare a thought for the go-to parent!

It's the same when they get to teens and your the go-to parent to do lifts. One parent never ever did the lifts and you can't just refuse to take a friend of your DC in the car when they live just a few miles away. Very selfish of some parents.

*you're

You need firmer rules.

Pick one (or max two) days a week that you are happy to have people over and the rest of the time make it clear to your dc and friends that it's their turn to have kids over.

If their parents won't then it either doesn't happen (in which case I wouldn't be as generous either) or they can play somewhere communal if there is such a place.

Snacks - just get some Cheapo 30p biscuits and tell your dc that is all she can offer.

Don't open the door. Simple.

My house used to be like this. Just be more assertive.
You don’t have to be mean and hide away though.
Let them play for a bit then turf them all out, or when they knock in the door ask your daughter if she wants to go out to play with so and do?
Personally I liked the fact that my kids friends are comfortable in my house.
Now it’s normally teens coming around for ‘prinks’