Would you report your neighbour to social services?

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Just that really. My next door neighbours are clearly very horrible to their children. It’s a grandmother, mother and granddaughter who live there. Not sure on the child’s age as I think there are other grandchildren who don’t live there but are often round the house so not sure which ones actually lives with them. There’s constant screaming and crying coming from next door - you can tell the child is very upset or in pain. The grandmother seems like a bully always shouting ‘shut up or i’ll rip your f*ing head off (or things similar to that).

I’m working from home today and just realised how loud they are. I’ve been up since 8 and 5 minutes haven’t passed where I haven’t heard the grandmother shout or the child scream.

Would you report this to social services? Even if physical abuse isn’t happening the child surely cannot be happy living there?

Oh what an awful situation, yes I'd report better safe than sorry.

Poor child !

If I was concerned about a child's well being I would always report to social services.

I'd report. The odd bad day is one thing but it shouldn't be constant.

Sadly some people live like that.

Can you move?

Yes. I’ve done it before. It a neighbour but a Mum at nursery who kicked and punched her 3 yo son on the way home. I stepped in at the time, and then reported her to SS after going to see the nursery head.

That poor wee soul didn’t even react even when she kicked him off his feet, not a sound.

I’m definitely going to do it! We often hear them shouting but being at home all day today has made me realise the extent of it all. Im terrified of me reporting them and them working out it was me - but I guess I have to think of the child more than myself

They can’t disclose who reported if that helps OP?

I mean obviously nursery Mum realised it was me, but I told her to her face that I’d done it.

But they won’t know it was you. If you’re worried you can do it through the NSPCC and they can refer to SS.

Yes I would, because it’s everyones responsibility to safeguard children. Poor kid.

I would yes. It is up to SS then to decide whether to follow up or not and to take any appropriate action. However they can do nothing in they are not notified of potential issues.

Yes I would report in this situation. Assuming you have other neighbours nearby I’m sure you won’t be the only person who’s concerned.

You need to do it. Reality is they will probably know it's you but SS will never say that to them.

Yes reported a neighbour previously as did the neighbours the other side. It made precisely no difference though as being screamed at and sworn at constantly wasn't considered enough to need intervention. We moved as did the other neighbours as we couldn't stand it any longer. I felt so sad for those children.

better safe than sorry - report it

@YeTalkShiteHen we live in terraced housing so im guessing they’ll presume it is either me or the neighbours on the other side. They don’t get along with their other neighbours so I don’t think they’ll presume it’s us. It really upsets me thinking that social services may not even look in to it properly - all I’ve heard is screaming and shouting, I don’t really have any solid proof

When I was younger, about 9 or thereabouts, I saw something that is with me to this day re something two little sisters done in front of some of us,
I should have told my parents who would have rung SS but I didn't . I live with that to this day.

Contact the SS OP because I would do so in a case like this. Without a shadow of doubt.

@fleshmarketclose seems like a similar situation to ours! The street was fine until they moved in. Admittedly we’re not living the best area at the moment as we are trying to save money, I’m just wondering if this kind of behaviour is the norm to some people?!

Definitely and with out any qualms or hesitation at all.
That poor child

You can call and request a welfare check detailing your concerns.

The thing is, I always hear the grandma shouting, never the mother. Makes me wonder if the mother and granddaughter are both stuck in a controlling relationship with this woman? It’s so awful. I’m looking at the best way to report it now.

I've no idea but it is horrendous to live at the side of and once Children's Services didn't get involved it seemed we had no option. My son was the same age as her son I'd be starting the bedtime routine, bath,supper, story bed and she would start screaming "Bed! Get to Fucking bed!" "Get up those stairs you little cunt!" The little lad would be crying and you'd hear her dragging him upstairs and the door would slam. "Get out of fucking bed and I will batter you!" and then not five minutes later "Get in your fucking bed! You will fucking cry if I have to come upstairs!"
It was every single night like some perverse bedtime routine. It made me a nervous wreck, I spoke to school and HV before I phoned Children's Services. I asked the other neighbours (they were joined we weren't) and they had reported as well. It seemed she stayed below the threshold

‘shut up or i’ll rip your f*ing head off (or things similar to that).

Goodness! Yes, of course it's concerning.

I’d report it. Nothing might happen immediately but there is this thing for child abuse now called “ the hub”
If you report something it goes on a central file. If a schoolteacher also reports, there are visits to A and E and the police are called to a house with young children all this information should be added until it starts to build a picture. Eventually it will trigger a response.

There is an app called SnoreLab you can get that records sound. We have it for our dog. It will pick up the sounds coming through a party wall if it's quiet in your house.
You can then play this back to SS as evidence.

You wouldn't want your next posting to be, it's to late now, that poor child.
You are a responsible adult, report it now, you could be saving this poor child from God knows what harm.

Take a recording to demonstrate to SS what is going on.