Would you report your neighbour to social services?

[Guacamole2506]

Just that really. My next door neighbours are clearly very horrible to their children. It’s a grandmother, mother and granddaughter who live there. Not sure on the child’s age as I think there are other grandchildren who don’t live there but are often round the house so not sure which ones actually lives with them. There’s constant screaming and crying coming from next door - you can tell the child is very upset or in pain. The grandmother seems like a bully always shouting ‘shut up or i’ll rip your f*ing head off (or things similar to that).

I’m working from home today and just realised how loud they are. I’ve been up since 8 and 5 minutes haven’t passed where I haven’t heard the grandmother shout or the child scream.

Would you report this to social services? Even if physical abuse isn’t happening the child surely cannot be happy living there?

Whilst I have no doubt that parenting a child with ASD can be challenging, it certainly doesn't justify an adult screaming at a child that they are going to rip their fucking head off!

As Mum to 3 autistic kids I fully agree with this!

What about NSPCC?

My ex neighbour was like that to her kids, but was mother of the year if she thought anyone was watching. She also changed schools a lot, blaming teachers.

I'd be close to outing myself if I mentioned the outcome to her kids, but I dearly wished I'd reported.

If you are not sure, you can call the NSPCC first. They will advise and also they can then make the referral to Children's Services.

We ALL have a responsibility to safeguard children. Especially in school holidays, when a child doesn’t attend school or their normal clubs possibly. The summer is a miserable time for children who are abused.

Oh yes I'd def report.

I’m definitely reporting - going to ring NSPCC as previous posters have suggested. I’m going to try and work out the age of the child - as I feel as though I may not be taken as seriously when I can’t even tell them how old the child is

If you know what school the child attends and the address it's a good start

Yes report it because maybe all they need is some support and education AND then they'll be screened for the at risk list.

@bullyingadvice2017 I don’t even know if / what school the child attends! I work 7-3 so typically don’t see them doing the school run

My eldest has ADHD and ODD/CD and I have just self referred to children's social services. I am a mental health social worker. It is OK to need help and it is far from being a black mark against you to take offered help.
I picked up the phone and called the Early Help Hub after a morning in which my son said to me "go and get raped you fat fucking whore" and I had to leave the house otherwise I would have smacked his face. I scared myself a little.
It is ok to need help. People have this idea that if you need social services support you will forever be seen as scum. It's not true.

mostdays I hope you get the support for you and your son. Asking for help isn’t easy, but it is bloody brave. Well done.