More is DD BU? A flipping tote bag??? For School???

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DD is starting year 9. She has just showed me the bag she wants for next year. A flipping leather look tote bag.

Apparently "everyone has them in year 9".

Seriously, what the actual fuck is this nonsense?

Her school does not have lockers and she walks to after school sports several days a week. She really wants to carry all her books and sports stuff in a tote bag!? AIBU to be entirely baffled, generally wtf, and completely reluctant to go along with this!?

*Note - Have just had a flashback to the fashion at school when I was a teen for wearing a rucksack on one shoulder only. That was shit. Maybe I am BU and carrying your stuff around with self induced difficulty is a feature of being a teen!?!?

Yep. Just get a cheap one. Also try and get one with a zip so things don’t go missing. And a inner zip pocket so sanitary stuff not on show.

My dn starts secondary this year and i offered to buy her big girl school bag. I looked at hype with the intention of getting a backpack but her dm told me all the girls carry totes.

Fortunately dn isnt particularly fashion forward at the moment and said she would prefer a backpack so we settled on a pretty hype one which she is chuffed to bits with but i bet three months down the line she wants a tote like everyone else.

My DD talked DH into buying her a fecking £60 Kanken backpack for starting secondary school! I’m half hoping that it falls out of favour quickly so I can have it!!

My year 9 dd and all her friends have backpacks that they wear on both shoulders.

But then they laugh at the trying to be cool girls with their handbags in school.

I still wear mine on one shoulder. It's comfy. I didn't realise I was out of fashion!

It was record bags in my day. If you didn't have one you were mocked mercilessly. I still have wonky shoulders

It was these beauties when I were a lass.

Carried with the long strap ONLY mind, handles were for those losers who still took two bottles into the shower.

I was only about 4ft 6 so the bag containing every book I owned kneecapped me with each stride.

My DD is going into Year 9, her bag choice is a bit very impractical however I am quickly learning that I need to pick my battles and this is one I will let go.

Boys aren't getting off lightly though as boys bags can be expensive.

Ds is going into year 11 and likes North Face backpacks. Last years one was £55, this years is £80.

Ha as you know, it’s a rite of passage. We all carried rucksacks on just one shoulder even though it’s clearly not best for comfort or posture for fear of being called a ‘two strapper’.

My 7 year old managed to get her grandpa to buy her a ridiculously expensive smiggle bag which out of all their range is probably the most impractical bag of them all and when I told him that we had refused to get her one he said to me "knowledge you used to get a new bag every year and I even remember driving to Newcastle(we are in Scotland) to get you a jan sport one so I think you are being a bit of a hypocrite" my answer to that was "yeah but that was high school not primary don't get her started already"... I feel their will be double standards going forward 😂😂

Also I do have one overdeveloped —tit— pectoral muscle from years of one shoulder carrying

We (teachers) used to call them 'handbag girls' because it was always the low-achieving CBA girls who had them. Now, very few have a 'sensible bag'.

Sounds ridiculous to me.

Would stuff get wet?

Standard round here from Year 7. I personally don't get it.

You sound lovely Cynderella.

I’d probably let mine have one if that’s what they wanted but I’d say the same as another poster it wouldn’t be replaced when they realise they are not practical and also I’m blooming sure I’d be forking out for river Island bags at £40 a pop! If that’s what they want they would be funding that themselves! I don’t even buy them for myself!

Our Y5 girls all have pleather handbags over the crook of their arm and rose gold phones attached to their ear. Thank God for a son lol

Why are people so bloody snotty about teenage girls

noelheadbands - I still have my lilac and pink head bag lurking at the back of the cupboard!!! I must dig it out for a wee trip down memory lane- ( sigh) I thought I was super cool when I finally persuaded mum to let me have one instead of the dreaded satchel

Haha, in the early 70s, a vanity case, complete with little bottles inside, was de rigeur!

LongSummerDays with matching shoes if you could get away with it.

We had tote bags when I was at school.

And those canvas satchels with you favourite groups felt tipped all over them.

Happy days MyDog

My mom fondly remembers getting a briefcase for her 14th birthday- she thought she was the bees knees