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Do I pick up his pants ?

108 replies

Juneosb · 10/08/2018 15:59

Ok ,so 6 weeks ago my OH was finding his pants scratchy and decided to take them of in the front room .He managed to get them into the kitchen ,where he could have put them in the now empty washing machine ,but instead opted to place them in front of the washing machine next to the dishwasher where they have been now for the past 6 weeks . Now we both know they are there, yet neither of us are prepared to move them . They have since had food dropped on them ,water spilled on them and also kicked about a bit (I've kicked them back into the gap between the dishwasher and washing machine a few times ).Just wondering if anyone can beat my record of "hubby's pants being left on the floor where he left them "?. I'm hoping they can make it there till Christmas

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Oysterbabe · 10/08/2018 17:34

I would never move them ever. They'd outlive us both.

SilverySurfer · 10/08/2018 17:35

He sounds like a prince among men OP, a real catch Hmm

Unless your wedding vows included you being his domestic drudge, don't pick them up.

TheDowagerCuntess · 10/08/2018 17:36

Haven't you had anyone around to your house in all this time? No friends? Kids' friends?

And I'm assuming the sexual side of your relationship is defunct. It's not physically possible to want sex with someone who does this.

I know this is light-hearted, but come on.

Topseyt · 10/08/2018 17:37

I would just tell him that if he doesn't at least move them to the laundry basket then you will assume he no longer wants them and will bin them.

Shoxfordian · 10/08/2018 17:37

He's disgusting
Why did you marry him?

LeftRightCentre · 10/08/2018 17:37

I'd leave them there and him with them.

PyeWackets · 10/08/2018 17:38

Why are they still on the floor? I don't get it? Why hasn't he picked them up? Couldn't be doin' with this.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 10/08/2018 17:38

Now we both know they are there, yet neither of us are prepared to move them . They have since had food dropped on them ,water spilled on them and also kicked about a bit

I'm no neat freak but I couldn't live like this.

As a pp said upthread, what happens when someone cleans the kitchen floor?

AmayaBuzzbee · 10/08/2018 17:38

Bin them. If he hasn’t noticed them by now, he surely won’t notice them going missing.

llangennith · 10/08/2018 17:39

Made me laugh😂
Bin them and let him wonder...

InfiniteVariety · 10/08/2018 17:46

I get the point you are trying to make but it sounds utterly childish - why didn't the next person to put a wash on just include them?

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Juneosb · 10/08/2018 17:47

Our 20yr daughter thinks it's funny and she tells her friends about it.in fact she had a few friends around for a bbq not long ago and I think they were a talking point. Oh and his mum knows.

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InfiniteVariety · 10/08/2018 17:51

So even being humiliated by his own daughter can't change his behaviour?

youarenot · 10/08/2018 17:56

My DP did this with socks... only he'd dump them on a chair in the kitchen, along with any other things he said 'he can wear again' :-o bearing in mind.. I wash atleast 1 load a day, no excuse. He's not short of socks & pants and I think that is where the issue is.

I'd get annoyed after a day or so and put them in the wash. It kept happening every single time.. So I then got a bin bag, everytime I put them in. He ran out of socks AND pants before asking where they all were. Told him by his standards they weren't dirty and coulld be 'worn again' so didn't think he needed any washing and if he did, they were waiting for him.. in the shed.

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Juneosb · 10/08/2018 17:56

underpants

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rainbowstardrops · 10/08/2018 17:58

I think @YouTheCat has got it spot on.
Put them in his pillowcase and let him think he's won. Genius!

EnglishRose13 · 10/08/2018 18:04

My mum once did a similar experiment. A pile of washing sat on the kitchen table for over a week. No one took it upstairs.

Unfortunately for my mum, her cars keys had gone missing and were eventually found under the pile of washing.

She didn't try it again.

Lemond1fficult · 10/08/2018 18:07

In my house, I leave them for a while, then will eventually ask 'Any big plans for those pants?' with a raised eyebrow. He usually gets the message.

I'd just get too wound up, otherwise.

I do admire your zero-engagement approach though, OP.

welshmist · 10/08/2018 18:08

I have been known to throw clothing out of the window when it is pouring with rain. Teenage sons, one is now amazingly tidy and organised which DIL appreciates. One is fairly tidy still at home. The third one is still a sock/undie abandoning slob who DIL despairs of.

diddl · 10/08/2018 18:16

"Why hasn't he picked them up? "

Because he expects Op to?

Cookiefan · 10/08/2018 18:28

My partner gets like this. Just dumps his clothes on the bedroom floor instead of in the washing baskets in the spare room. Then asks why his clothes didn't get washed with mine. Can't wash something if it isn't there dear. Idiot. He still doesn't get it. I kick them under the bed if they are on the floor too so I can't see them.

He has his own chores by the way. I do clothes because it's my job around the house. Although despite his protests at not understanding washing machines I did manage to teach him. I did point out if he can't manage to remember a few buttons he should quit his job in IT. Think that made him realise he was being a twit.

Fang2468 · 10/08/2018 18:36

I once had a similar situation but It wasn’t pants and it was in the bathroom, and no one would admit to leaving it there.
I looked at the offending item for 6 weeks every time I went in the bathroom and thought I’m fucked if I’m moving it. I cracked after 6 weeks and went mad at the scruffy sods I live with.

Fang2468 · 10/08/2018 18:37

Should have said it was like it only bothered me and everyone else just accepted it Confused it’s not a good situation OP.

BertrandRussell · 10/08/2018 18:39

And this, my friends, is why we should only ever form adult relationships with adults.

LeftRightCentre · 10/08/2018 18:43

It's not funny, OP.

I agree, Bertrand.