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Do I pick up his pants ?

108 replies

Juneosb · 10/08/2018 15:59

Ok ,so 6 weeks ago my OH was finding his pants scratchy and decided to take them of in the front room .He managed to get them into the kitchen ,where he could have put them in the now empty washing machine ,but instead opted to place them in front of the washing machine next to the dishwasher where they have been now for the past 6 weeks . Now we both know they are there, yet neither of us are prepared to move them . They have since had food dropped on them ,water spilled on them and also kicked about a bit (I've kicked them back into the gap between the dishwasher and washing machine a few times ).Just wondering if anyone can beat my record of "hubby's pants being left on the floor where he left them "?. I'm hoping they can make it there till Christmas

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rubyjude · 10/08/2018 16:44

Anything my husband leaves on the floor, that don't even make it into the washing machine that is RIGHT THERE gets put into and on his side of the bed. I'm not his maid.

MiggledyHiggins · 10/08/2018 16:44

Underpants or trousers?

diddl · 10/08/2018 16:45

" Rubbish left on the floor gets put in the bin in our house! "

By whom?

Yupindeedy · 10/08/2018 16:46

Simple rule in our house... anything left on the floor more than a few days gets binned as clearly nobody needs it and I’m nobody’s skivvy.

howabout · 10/08/2018 16:48

Do you have a laundry basket?
Is he afraid of the washing machine?
Kind of think you are both unreasonable for leaving minging pants on the kitchen floor for any length of time - I couldn't and would have had to have gone ballistic when first discovered.

Tiredmum100 · 10/08/2018 16:49

Your husband is being disgusting. Why on earth should you be picking them up when he clearly can't be bothered. Is laundry 'women's work'? I'd stick them in his pillow case too. Or show him this thread so he knows what a pig he's being.

Aprilshowersinaugust · 10/08/2018 16:51

My own dirty pants story :
My exh had no clean pants one day and wore a novelty Xmas pair - for ten days!!
Ex h........ Scruffy twat!

INeedMoreCakeInMyLife · 10/08/2018 16:52

I'd of caved in within ten mins and told him to move them. Luckily dp has only ' missed the laundry bin' Afew times and left things in he heap he's taken them off. ( normally we he's in a rush) I just tell him and he moves it.. Altho I do normally wait until he's just aboutto leave or has got Comfy lol

CatkinToadflax · 10/08/2018 16:52

It sounds like your DH may be suffering from a similar genetic blip to one sadly affecting three generations of my DH's family. In his case it's socks and affects his dad and both of our DSs as well. Unfortunately there seems to be no obvious cure, although one (unsatisfactory, temporary) treatment is for me to go round the house gathering them all up and chucking them in the laundry basket.

Petalflowers · 10/08/2018 16:52

Trousers or undergarments, what is he wearing now?

theSnuffster · 10/08/2018 16:53

6 weeks, that's impressive! We once had a similar stand-off in our house, pre- children, with a pair of socks. They were left on the floor next to the laundry basket. OH would repeatedly kick them behind the door rather than pick them up and put them in the basket. I think I lasted just over a week before cracking and shouting at him.

MerryInthechelseahotel · 10/08/2018 16:53

Is he called Bob?

Member745520 · 10/08/2018 16:53

What happens to them when one of you washes the floor?

DontCallMeCharlotte · 10/08/2018 16:54

I would have buckled the next time I went into the kitchen to be honest and then whinged for a bit. I couldn't bear to have them on the kitchen floor and I'm not exactly fastidious.

Perhaps Kirsty Allsop's DH pulls this shit and that's why she's so anti washing machines in the kitchen?

ILoveDolly · 10/08/2018 16:55

My Dh would do things like this and there'd be a standoff but now our daughters are older they tell him straight off no messing. As they are not tidy themselves, he knows that if it disgusts a child, its definitely disgusting.

Botanicbaby · 10/08/2018 16:56

Ugh I’m so glad I’m not with a disgusting lazy fucker who would do this. There’s no way I’d be picking them up and I couldn’t get past having a partner who’d think it was okay to take them off and leave them there in the first place.

diddl · 10/08/2018 16:58

" I couldn’t get past having a partner who’d think it was okay to take them off and leave them there in the first place."

I know!

The expectation that someone else will pick them up when he can't even be bothered to!

CocoaGin70 · 10/08/2018 16:59

Take them to where he works and leave them on his desk.

welshmist · 10/08/2018 17:00

Post them to his mum to wash with a little note telling her why.

speakout · 10/08/2018 17:01

OH was finding his pants scratchy and decided to take them of in the front room

That's so funny- the sort of thing a two year old would do.

What adult takes off his pants in the front room because they are "scratchy"?

Did you have guests present?

FaithEverPresent · 10/08/2018 17:01

DH got in the habit of leaving his undies where they dropped. I was sick of picking them up (it bothered me, it didn’t bother him). I cracked and decided not to move them despite how much it irritated me. Instead I kicked anything that dropped under a chair his side of the bed. It took 10 days until he ran out of pants. He asked if I knew where he might have clean ones. I replied that I had washed everything that went in the washing basket...he finally realised he needed to wash the enormous pile of clothes under the chair. 14 pairs of pants!! came through the wash. He suggested he needed to buy more pants..I told him what for. I had an ongoing thread about it on MN and it became known as ‘Pant gate’.

If he gets into old habits again I remind him that we don’t want a repeat of ‘Pant gate’ and I will not pick up his grundies again!

I do like the inside the pillow case idea. The other option is to tag and shame him on social media.

PickAChew · 10/08/2018 17:02

O ly to bin them as he so obviously doesn't want them.

TeeBee · 10/08/2018 17:03

He is grim. Grab him by the ear, frog march him into the kitchen and get him to pick his own dirty grot up and tell him that nobody should have to live in a pit just because he is a pig. Then clip him round the head for good measure. I'm not even half joking. I've been known to do that to my teenage grot bags who think they don't need to tidy their rooms.

happypoobum · 10/08/2018 17:04

What cocoa said.

Tbh I wouldn't find this remotely funny.

TeeBee · 10/08/2018 17:04

Welshmint, why his mum and not his dad? Looks like someone has already taught him that it is women's work to pick up after him. Maybe his dad needs to step up.