To be annoyed at husband for saying if he was a woman he would pay to have a C section?

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I had my baby in January and my Labour was normal and classed as 'quick'. However I was/am astonished at how painful the whole experience was and when talking about it at a bbq last weekend my husband piped up and said 'if I were a woman I'd pay for a private section, I wouldn't have that happen to my vagina'.

He never at any point mentioned or suggested that I should consider a private section which means he's happy for me to go through it but he would never do it himself. It also makes me feel like he's maybe not happy with my post baby vagina?!?

I know it's petty and hypothetical and I would never have paid for something like that knowing my pregnancy was low risk etc even if he had offered/suggested it. I'm proud of what I went through and have a healthy gorgeous girl.

It's just a very thoughtless and arrogant thing for him to say and I've been dwelling on it and when I brought it up he's just said I'm being argumentative.
AIBU?

All 3 of mine were via c section, so I have no experience of ‘normal’ birth.

If I were in your shoes I would find this a very badly worded compliment. I’m sorry that he hasn’t ever expressed it to you directly, but it genuinely sounds as though he was impacted by your experience.

I (personally) would see his words as a sign of support - just not expressed in the right way to you.

I think he sounds very sensible.

I don’t get this being proud of having a certain type of birth either. It’s not an exam or s competition.

Thank you to the people that have said this is a badly worded compliment, I think that is/was probably the case.
Just a sensitive subject and an unthoughtful comment that's annoyed me.

Maybe part of your sensitivity is because he's never said anything complementary or shown any gratitude that you gave birth to his child?

There is nothing wrong with choosing an ECS. If you go private, you even take a little strain off the NHS.

There's nothing inherently "superior" in choosing a more painful way to give birth.