My DD's favourite game and thing to do with me is the game I detest! AIBU to not play it with her when she is an only child..

[PeppyPiggy]

My DD's an only child, turning 3 in October.

Her favourite game and thing to do, for a long time now, is to take her toys and say "mummy make them talk", I then make the toys into characters with little voices. It's very sweet and I understand why she loves to play this game the most. I am a very introverted personality type (INFP) anyone who understands introversion properly will understand why I can't play a game like that all day :( ..It drains me and I find it really hard work. My brother is also very introverted, he is great with my DD and chatting with her, He is super creative and smart! He went to Cambridge and yet he even can't hack more than ten minutes of the "make the toys talk game" It's incredibly draining for us. I will always try to introduce something new, reading, building, art ..But DD knows what she wants.

AIBU to play DD's game for a limited time of ten mins and then say enough? The game is clearly a good one for development and makes her happy and I hate that I get so drained by it.. Wish she had siblings

i also hate doing this with my almost 3 yr old - currently it’s CONSTANT pirate adventures, something DH is brilliant at and i just cannot muster energy for

it’s got nothing to do with me being an introvert though, it’s just dull for any adult!

i will say that i expected this when i had a child though and i’m an only with no prior baby experience... i’ve told myself to suck it up and enjoy every phase because one day she’ll be 11 and sick of me and won’t want to play any more - i want to make the most of it!

I am really surprised by the replies... I didn't realise this was the universal view on the "make it talk game"

The upset comments about me mentioning introversion are really quite ridiculous. I mention my introversion because clearly, the game is a social game. I was not aware that this is the standard view of the game. DD's dad is great at it and can play it for hours and he is far more social than me.

wafflyversatile - Relating my negative feelings towards a social game and my introversion is not an unreasonable thing to do, it is a logical train of thought.

Rainatnight - I work relentlessly. You don't understand what introversion means or have encountered people who don't and confuse it with general fatigue.

God I had this down so well I could do it while watching TV.

My advice is to practice, if you can master doing it while thinking of other things your kids will never be board in a waiting room again.

See this is one positive of having ASD kids

My ASD child loved it more than my NT one (though he loved it too).

I just used to not play it. I read them books, I'll do Lego or dress toys, I'll sing songs. But I don't do toy voice crap. You can say No. You can say Lets play something different

I mention my introversion because clearly, the game is a social game

Your OP made it sound like you were talking about a diagnosed illness rather than the results of an online quiz.

It doesn't matter what the game or activity is the repetition really grates! (Repetition is also developmentally beneficial) DS insists on our acknowledging his statements (usually what car he,is looking at) and will repeat it until we say "yes it is".

The problem is these games always seem like a good idea at the time.. He has recently started giving me strings of addition sums to do at top speed. To start with I encouraged him "ooh interested in maths!" Now I set limits on how many I'll do.

DH has suggested buying an alexa or something to do it. Maybe they could make the toys talk too?

I think I have a fantastic tip here. When mine were little- I regarded looking after them as a job. When you have a job-some bits are crap and some bits are brilliant. But you still do the crap bits as well as you can becaue it's all part of doing the job properly. So the pretendy stuff, if you don't enjoy it, is like doing the tick box paper work in a job. Tedious in your head but vital for the business.

My son likes these games! Def not just girls.

BertrandRussell "tedious in your head but vital for the business"
You reminded me of when I first started my business, I would do all-nighters repetitively packaging products... It was awfully tedious but so necessary. Thank you, that's a positive approach. Yesterday I changed it up a bit and did twenty minutes in the morning and twenty minutes before bedtime, DD's favorite toy horse ended the game by galloping into bed and falling asleep lol. Worked well!

But OP which uni did DH go to?

Nrtft (just page 1) but wanted to add that I am an ESTJ and find this game annoying after a while too - I don’t think it’s to do with your Myers-Briggs personality type! It’s just that it’s fun for kids, not so much for adults!

Don’t beat yourself up - you are allowed to not enjoy every child’s game, just like every parent has that one kids tv program that REALLY winds them up (I’m looking at you Paw bloody Patrol). What games do you enjoy? Play one of those and I’m sure your child will enjoy it because they’ll sense your energy for the game.

Myers-Briggs is bollocks.
Some bits of looking after children is boring.
Sometimes we have to do boring stuff.
It’s OK to decide the games you want to play sometimes so long as the kid gets a turn to choose too.
Bribery is a perfectly acceptable child care technique.

But as an ENFP I would say that wouldn’t I?