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To be considering cancelling daughters jabs?

189 replies

Beautifulblue · 07/08/2018 00:16

My 13 month old is due her jabs tomorrow & im absolutely dreading it. I was already dreading it, because of the needles souly, I don't want her poor little legs & arms jabbed Sad last time was really quite traumatic. But today I bumped into a some what crazy aunt of mine who went on & on about how damaging immunisations are & how my baby could be left disabled. I don't believe it, in all honestly. I know how many children have them & are absolutely fine. But I didn't even tell this aunt she was having them tomorrow & now I'm stupidly feeling like I was meant to bump into her. Hmm oh goddddd, I'm so nervous!! Help!

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KarmaIsAbish · 07/08/2018 00:18

You know what's worse than holding a baby down for a 3 second injection?

Holding a dead baby.
Especially one that's died from a completely preventable disease.

belleandsnowwhite · 07/08/2018 00:19

baby will cry and then forget about it quite quickly. Children have been left blind, disabled or even dead from Measles.

ohcheeseandrice · 07/08/2018 00:19

Just think of it like this, it's a very small amount of pain to ensure your daughter will not have to endure days and days of potential pain if she catches the things that these jabs prevent.
You have to be brave for her, alternatively is there someone else who can take her if your that afraid of needles?

garethsouthgatesmrs · 07/08/2018 00:20

she will be fine. I got my DH to do them after the first one because they upset me too so maybe think of doing that in future. If you really can't face i could you rebook them and get someone else to take her? She will sense your panic so be as calm as you can.

Far better to have an instant of pain and maybe 24 hrs feeling a bit off colour than her coming down with menengitis or measles. Those are killers.

jaynelovesagathachristie · 07/08/2018 00:20

It's horrible I hate the jabs I hate the crying but it's so important my oh holds them when little I tend to cry when they are little. But them being ill wirh measles etc is far worse a bit of discomfort they'll have no memory of

PrincessoftheSea · 07/08/2018 00:21

She is lucky to be immunised. So many children in this world don’t have access to immunisation. I feel 🙄🙄🙄when I read posts like yours.

Timeisslippingaway · 07/08/2018 00:21

Everything will be fine OP, it is bloody traumatic going for jags, I felt awful holding my child down for it or was hell. I actually just posted on a thread the other day about this, I know of someone who was left severely disabled after having the mmr as a child. I still took my kids for theirs, the risk of catching one of these diseases is far higher, it's just not worth the risk.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 07/08/2018 00:22

DH has a friend who was left permanently disabled after measles. Don't risk it.

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/08/2018 00:23

I have a friend who has to repeatedly put her son through operations. He has a genetic condition that may end up killing him early. I think of her when I have to get DD immunized.

It's a couple of needles. To prevent much worse.

ToothTrauma · 07/08/2018 00:25

You’d be out of your mind to cancel.

Jozxyqk · 07/08/2018 00:25

I have one cousin that died from complications of a disease they were too young to get vaccinated for, another that is now disabled partly due to aftereffects of the same disease, & another family member who is disabled due to a different illness in childhood, which is now routinely vaccinated for.

YABU.

IJustHadToNameChange · 07/08/2018 00:26

You know that line "you've got to be cruel to be kind"?

This is what that means.

A little pain now will prevent a lot of suffering later on.

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Beautifulblue · 07/08/2018 00:29

Oh what ever @tobeornottobe1. Don't act as if I'm ungrateful for having them available, I'm not 🙄 That doesn't mean I relish the experience, I'm fucking dreading it. I'm scared! Not of needles I would gladly have them for her if I could. It probably is unecessary to worry so much but I can't help it. So don't be arse. Not tonight. Cheers.

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BlueBug45 · 07/08/2018 00:29

If you cannot take her then get her father to take her.

Oh and next time close your aunt down by repeating like a broken record that you don't want to listen to her nutty conspiracy theories. She may get offended but it is you who will have to cope with a dead or disabled child.

Etymology23 · 07/08/2018 00:30

Immunisations aren’t given for free at great expense by the government to disable young children. They are given because the proven risk reduction from them is many times greater than any possible minute risk of allergic reaction. This is an essential childhood medical procedure and you have to think of all the risks you are saving your child from when you allow them to be vaccinated.

Graphista · 07/08/2018 00:31

A teacher of mine recently died. They'd spent all their adult life suffering the disabling effects of having contracted a childhood illness before they had a chance to be immunised. They were in pain all their life and have now died a good 20 years if not more earlier than healthy members of their generation will due to their health being compromised as a result.

We're very lucky to have free easy to access immunisation in this country.

It's a few seconds your child won't even remember.

Get it done, so something fun after.

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Beautifulblue · 07/08/2018 00:32

To clarify, I will 100% be getting these immunisations done. If I were to cancel tomorrow I would re-book them. But I don't think I'll ever feel much better about it so probs best to just bite the bullet & get them done now. I like to think I'm a pretty chilled person in general, but I cried at the last lot when her little face looked at me & crumbled Sad I know I could never forgive myself if she got ill with something I could have prevented but it is still feeling me with dread right now.

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itchyknees · 07/08/2018 00:32

Pull up those big girl pants.

SpiritedLondon · 07/08/2018 00:33

Look at it this way... who would you rather have comfort her afterwards? Wouldn’t you rather give her a cuddle and soothe her? And next time you see your Aunt ask her if she’s had her own vaccinations done? If Yes. Oh right so shes walked around all these years benefiting from protection she doesn’t want your child to have.

MissConductUS · 07/08/2018 00:34

Visit a cemetery that was in use during the 1800's and early 1900's. Note the abundance of children's headstones. Vaccines are the primary reason why you don't see them in modern cemeteries.

Your child will hardly notice it's done.

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Beautifulblue · 07/08/2018 00:35

Sorry wrong name message was for @PrincessoftheSea!!
Today 00:29 Beautifulblue

Oh what ever @tobeornottobe1. Don't act as if I'm ungrateful for having them available, I'm not 🙄 That doesn't mean I relish the experience, I'm fucking dreading it. I'm scared! Not of needles I would gladly have them for her if I could. It probably is unecessary to worry so much but I can't help it. So don't be arse. Not tonight. Cheers.

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KarmaIsAbish · 07/08/2018 00:37

Oh what ever @tobeornottobe1

There's no one on this thread with that posting name?

whatdoyoudointhis · 07/08/2018 00:37

I understand the fear. Led me to be an anti vaxxer for a while.

I did continue with my "research" and my children are now vaccinated

I did vaccinations with a dose of vitC and homeopathy and Epsom salt baths afterwards. All other than the vitC is pseudoscience... but it got me to do it and feel like I had done it as safely as I possibly could. I also spread them out where I could. And I avoided calpol unless it was actually needed. It wasn't ever I don't think.

In the end i regret none of it and they're vaccinated. Thank goodness.

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Beautifulblue · 07/08/2018 00:38

You're right @MissConductUS I know that. We actually walked around a cemetery in a park near us just recently & there so many young children/babies & we all commented how 'that's just how it was then' & it's not like that today partly because of immunisations! I know all of this! You just spend your life protecting your child from anything that can hurt them then you take them to be jabbed with needles & injected with diseases!? Although I know why, I know it's for the greater good it just doesn't feel like a nice thing to do!

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MadameMaxGoesler · 07/08/2018 00:38

Get a grip.