Things that DH does that annoy the hell out of you?

[SarahLibra1974]

Name three;

1. He constantly flushes wet wipes down the loo.

1. He never gives a straight answer.

1. He will always try to please his bosses at work, even if it affects his family time, or time with me.

Go!

Oh yes that reminds me, can't turn over in bed like a normal person. It's like the orca show at SeaWorld.

Leaves his skid marks on the toilet for me to clean (not envy!)

Snores like a dying elephant

Over-plans EVERYTHING and completely melts down if one of the elements of the plan is out of place

Otherwise fairly easy to live with. The skid marks are the key problem.

Leaves crumbs on the bench then acts as if it's a massive deal to clean up after himself

Gives me his dirty dishes as soon as I'm done washing up for the night!

Treats the toilet mat as a "drip mat" disgusting!

Cracks his knuckles - all evening
Everything has been closed or shut noisily - as if being a man means you have to let everyone know you are here
Never remembers my friends names - but he can tell you who his primary school teachers were called

Gawd there’s loads but here are a few:-
Not emptying bin in kitchen but continuing to ram rubbish in it
Wet towel on the bed
Leaving crumbs on the worktops
Leaving his work bag on the worktop every night
Leaving a collection of shoes dotted around the house
Asks me where things are before attempting to look
When we are driving down the road to the airport after about ten minutes suddenly asking me if we have the passports
Keeps buying new clothes and not getting rid of old clothes so the wardrobe/ chest of drawers are rammed
I’m sure there are loads more but I better stop now

So many of you are married to my OH!

@largepiecesofcrookedwood, yes! The obnoxiously loud sneezing gets my goat too! Similarly, not wiping down the surfaces when he washes up, leaving crumby/greasy marks overnight and leaving skidmarks in the loo for me to clean.

Mine also leaves the empty cat food pouches on the counter rather than binning them and has recently been using the tea towel by the sink to wipe his sweaty forehead. vom

1. leaves the mental load of our relationship/family to me, so that I have to make every decision, think about everything.

2. is never wrong or willing to entertain the notion that he is.

3. cannot do anything with the children if I am not around. Days I work they don't go to clubs that I have paid for, and he won't do anything nice. They just sit around and eat ready meals because he won't cook either.

GandolfBold

Ex was largely like that, although he would at least do very basic meals.

Even my DCs cook better (and do), it's nice to come home to a meal sometimes, instead of having to cook every day.

The only thing that drives me crazy is he thinks I am in his head and know what he’s talking about. He’ll just start talking with ‘Oh, he said to me about that thing’ . What am I supposed to understand from that?

I am making headway, it’s happening less because I stop him in his tracks with ‘Right. Who is ‘he’ and what is ‘that thing’ because I am not inside your head and what you have said makes no sense to me’

Makes toast and butters in on the kitchen side THEN gets a plate.. leaving crumbs.

Leaves cupboard doors open.

Clothes on banister,doors,chsirs,floor, everywhere really.

Chews his good loudly

Never finishes anything

Says he doesnt want the blanket then ends up wrapping it round himself.

Blames everyone else for everything he does wrong

I could go on

Talks crap on a night when we've barely spoken all day and I'm trying to watch something

When I use the toilet at night I don't turn the light on si as not to wake him considerate right? What does he do? Leaves the seat up so I almost end up with my arse halfway down the pan! Yeah thanks for that.

Oooooooh, great thread.

3 things though? Are you fucking kidding?

A few that people have already mentioned, but here's my (long) list...

Obnoxiously loud sneezes. (Though they are quiet when we're in a very quiet place - like the library, or Church, or a Christening, funeral, or wedding.)

Sometimes, when I am in the middle of a serious rant about politics or climate change, or something very serious, he tilts his head, and says 'awwww you look cute when you're trying to talk smart!' Last time I said 'FOR FUCK'S SAKE! I am in the middle of speaking. Can you NOT?' He was so wounded, as he was being 'nice' to me.

Does a household task, and announces that he has done it FOR ME.

Has a new ailment every other week. Yet despite numerous visits to clinics and specialists and GPs, no-one has ever found anything wrong with him. Also when I have something wrong with me, (like I have a certain pain or am suffering in a certain way,) he always has to 'top trumps' it with something WORSE that what I have.

Phones me at work to ask 'what's for tea?'

Licks every yogurt lid 100% clean. (Weird and annoying.)

Sometimes, when he is watching something I am not interested in, I read a book or magazine, but he insists on gives me a running commentary, (on his programme that I am flat out not interested in!) I have said (time and again) 'WHY do you keep running through what is going on? I don't CARE coz I am not watching it! So I am not interested in it.' All I get back is 'well I am interested in it.' WTF? So because HE is interested in something, I have to sit there listening there listening intently like a good little wifey, because HE is interested in it?

Not always - but sometimes - he starts talking over me, when I am talking about something else. I am literally mid-flow, and he zones out and talks over me. It makes me so angry. I have actually just started ignoring him now, and I talk over HIM with what I was already talking about! He looks surprised that I have ignored him. WTF did he expect?

Tells too many lies, and makes shit up to make himself and his life sound more exciting, or to just 'flower things up.' I had a bad cold/sore throat a couple of years ago, and was off work for 3 days, and when I spoke to a colleague of his a few weeks later, (when I saw her in town,) she said 'oh it's nice to see you better; when did you come out of hospital?' I wasn't IN hospital!

Also, 7 years ago, he told his workmates our daughter had got into OXFORD university and turned it down to go to Birmingham (where she went.) She applied for OXFORD, but was not offered it, and actually didn't get in, and she was furious because she felt he was disappointed she didn't get in. (He wasn't, and was actually proud of her, but he was just lording it over people.)

He hangs around in the kitchen when I am cooking - or trying to do my hair and make up to go out. He knows it annoys me, but still does it. When I sigh and say 'can you move out of my way, I am trying to get tea,' he says (in a 'jokey' way) 'yeah ok I get it, I am annoying you.' I just think 'yeah you know it pisses me off and yet you still do it!'

Often asks where something is - without even bothering to look for it. He just wants ME to look coz he can't be arsed.

Spends 20 minutes looking around all the non-foodstuffs in the centre aisles in Aldi and Lidl. But still never buying anything.

@littlestrawby

EVERYTHING is my fault. No matter what the issue is, he always finds a way to twist it around to being because of something I did or did not do. !!!

@OysterBabe

My DH is another one who has to find someone else to blame when something goes wrong. He can be really quite creative finding ways for things to not be his fault.

OMG, my DH does EXACTLY THIS. So does the DH of my best friend. Why do men do this?! It used to upset me so much, but now I take it with a pinch of salt and take the piss out of him. If something goes wrong (ANYthing!) I say 'I suppose that was my fault - I mean everything is. I wasn't there and was 20 miles away, but it was obviously me.'

Same when he cant find something. It's me who has moved it - never him, and even if it turns up in a place he KNOWS he put it (like in his LOCKED WORK BRIEFCASE,) he will say 'you were mithering about something at the time - THAT'S why I mislaid it.' My fault, always.

He is a massive hypocrite. He will pull me up on snapping at him or saying something in a slightly unfriendly manner (obviously only when he deserves it ;)) yet he will always speak rudely or dismissively to me as he sees fit.

Again , my DH does this. He will be arsey with me, or make stupid sarcy remarks, and I am supposed to take it on the chin, but if give him the same treatment, he goes into a massive sulk.

EG, I will come in from outside and say 'It's cold out there,' and he ignores me. When I say 'did you hear me?' he says 'yes.' So I said 'why didn't you not answer me then? He says' because what you said didn't require a response.'

Yet when I did the same to him a week later, he huffed and puffed and went off on one, and stormed outside. Likes to dish it out but doesn't like to take it back!

I have made him sound like a right cunt haven't I?

Well he is sometimes..............

Then again, so am I, and he isn't like this ALL the time. He has some good and decent qualities. But this thread isn't about that is it?

I can’t make a comment that is negative in any sense of the word. This would result in being called ‘moany’ and I could never complain about my situation or try to make him see my point of view, then I’m ‘making myself the victim again’

1. *He loosens the lid on carbonated drinks because he 'doesn't want them too fizzy'.

Drink something else then, you berk. Flat pop is vile.*

THIS!

1. If I have the temerity to imply his involvement in something that's gone wrong, I get "oh so it's my fault?" Er yes.

1. Uses kitchen implements for garden jobs e.g. using the best sharp knife to dig out moss from between paving stones [facepalm].

delphguelph

I have misophonia, so the all - time worst thing he ever does is makes 'mouth noises' when eating if he's sleep deprived.

Also, he is grammatically impaired and will say things like 'can you borrow me that' or 'he learnt me' .

Waits for me to clean the bathroom before havin g a shave and leavin g his stubble all over the sink and tiles. Guaranteed if I've cleaned the bathroom - he'll be in to have a shave an hour later.
He also stuffs carrier bags into random spaces in the kitchen - wedged in between the fruit bowl and coffee maker, on top of the radiator etc instead of putti ng it into the cupboard he stands in front of whilst doing this.

He does this annoying thing were .... He doesn't exist and I'm alone 😂😂

-Leaving all dishes 'to soak'

-Choosing to do things at the worst time. So I call out that dinner is ready and he'll get his coat on to take the dog for a quick walk

-Letting the kids get away with anything and sneaking money to the elder kids. He is such a soft touch. Sometimes I love that about him, but today I've found out he's given more cash to our daughter who has him wrapped around her finger, just because she's decided to go on another holiday on a whim.

Urgh, leaving things to soak. The worst one is the food bin. He'd leave it with a few inches of rancid water in it for days if I didn't interveen and actually clean it.