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Things that DH does that annoy the hell out of you?

148 replies

SarahLibra1974 · 05/08/2018 16:17

Name three;

  1. He constantly flushes wet wipes down the loo.
  1. He never gives a straight answer.
  1. He will always try to please his bosses at work, even if it affects his family time, or time with me.

Go!

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Tunnocks34 · 05/08/2018 18:58
  1. Calls Matalan, Mata - land
  2. He does this thing where I’ll say ‘MrTunnocks can you get me a nappy for the baby please’ and he’ll say ‘yeah no problem’ but stay sta down for a good 4/5 minutes. Emevery time he’s asked you do something. It just drives me insane.
TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 05/08/2018 19:00

BirdsAndBlips - it's so tiring, isn't it? And yes, exactly, in many ways DH is lots "better" than so many men that I read about on here but even so...

I wonder that if I just left one day, he'd fight for the relationship then, or would he just be silently pissed off? sad? devastated? but wait for me to do something even then.

I have no idea Confused

ednclouda · 05/08/2018 19:01

oysterbabe omg you are living my life dh never is to blame they are idiots

LaBelleSausage · 05/08/2018 19:26
  1. Offers me a cup of tea, gets mug down from cupboard, puts tea bag in it, fills and boils kettle...then always gets distracted and forgets what he’s doing while the kettle boils so rarely actually makes the tea. If he actually manages to pour water on he teabag he’ll then forget it while it brews.
  1. He won’t put anything in the dishwasher until there are enough items to fill it to ‘optimise the use of space’. So the space above it and the kitchen sink are both constantly piled with things.
  1. He has more earwax than any person alive has any right to, and his hearing is terrible. I’ve offered to pay for him to get his ears vacuumed out, especially so I can watch it in all it’s sporny glory and the fucker won’t do it!
CanIhavedessertfirst · 05/08/2018 19:43

Will put his dirty plate/mug/bowl next to a sink of hot water, then, after I wash it, tell me he intended to wash it!

Will tell me something I've already told him, like it's his bright idea.

Yesiamhappy · 05/08/2018 19:50

Decide he is going to cook.....

Will start cooking when dinner is supposed to be served...
Will make enough for 2 with small appetites when there are 4 of us...
Use every utensil possible and some that are not just for the hell of it, not clear anything up when cooking..
Call us all to sit at the table 10 minutes before anything is ready (even though he comes to the table late 90% of the time)...
Expect us to all compliment him as though he is a Michelin started chef...

Yesiamhappy · 05/08/2018 19:52

Oh forgot - I have to be sous chef or at least stop what I am doing every 3 minutes to show him what to do / where to find something / check something he has done.....

Lynne1Cat · 05/08/2018 19:53

He slurps his tea
Snores
gets to sleep within minutes of getting into bed (leaving me listening to said snoring for ages)
Eats too quickly
leaves a mess in the kitchen
starts a DIY job, doesn't finish it for months, sometimes years
starts a job, then realises he hasn't got a particular tool, so then goes out to buy it.

MyBrexitUnicornDied · 05/08/2018 19:59

Takes forever to do anything.

  1. leaving the house, always involves me sat in the car with the kids for 5 minutes while he faffs about.

  2. making any kind of plans, involves hours of internet searches to make sure the venue is a good one. We’ve missed bookings before due to his faffing around.

  3. takes 2hours to do a weekly shop. And even worse I’m meant to be impressed by his efforts.

I’m probably too spontaneous though. So we balance each other out. But we do piss each other off considerably

Lana1234 · 05/08/2018 20:01

Snores (have had genuine dark thoughts when I’m trying to get to sleep and listening to him)
Doesn’t tidy up after himself to the point where he’ll have a chocolate bar and just put the wrapper on the floor?!
Eats all the chocolate
Has no concept of time

champagnesupernouveaux · 05/08/2018 20:02

Me, seeing that DH has his phone/iPad with him: "what's the weather like tomorrow?"

DH: "At 7am its forecast to be 24 degrees. At 10am it goes up to 26 degree. At 1pm it's 28 degrees. 4pm is still 28 degrees" and repeat solidly the exact forecast for the next 48 hours.

Fang2468 · 05/08/2018 20:05

Starts doing a bigger ‘more interesting’ job, rather than the one that needs doing right at that moment in time.
Like today, instead of just making jacket potatoes, decided to empty and clean out the whole fridge and freezer. Cue whingeing kids for the extra 45 mins saying how hungry they were. The example where I found him helping fix a neighbours fence, when I was waiting for him to come back and put a cranky baby in the car so we could go on holiday is a particular favourite example too Hmm

yaria · 05/08/2018 20:12

@champagnesupernouveaux OMG I feel your pain ... wind speed, direction, mm of rain, the whole caboodle ... and that's when I haven't even asked him about the weather Confused

onanothertrain · 05/08/2018 20:14

Says he's making dinner and then ask my opinion on the recipe he's found every 2 minutes.
Can't ask a direct question so will ask have we anything planned on 20th November rather than say I'm out with the boys on 20th Nov.
Always has to be right

QueenDoria · 05/08/2018 20:16

I hear ya sisters!

DoloresTheNewt · 05/08/2018 20:18

yaria and champagnesupernouveaux
There you go, one man's wine etc. I ask DH about the weather for tomorrow when he's resting his tablet on his paunch looking at the BBC news website, and he just says "hot". I don't want one word, I want to know morning, lunchtime, hottest point of the day, and evening, plus as a bonus what might happen on the following day.

TorviBrightspear · 05/08/2018 20:20

A good number of these match my ex. It's why he's an ex.

ILoveMyDressingGown · 05/08/2018 20:42

When he breathes at night he breathes in through his mouth and in through his nose and makes a clicking noise on the crossover. It does my head in!

Eats in the living room when everyone else isn't allowed to do so (my rule as I hate the thought of crumbs and spills on the settee).

Tells me not to panic about things when I'm not - I just like to plan for certain eventualities in advance, like the time when I wasn't sure if the settee would fit through the door and he said it'll be fine, I'm just panicking like usual, he's checked the sizes etc and don't worry, it will fit. It didn't fit; we had to wait two weeks, keep half of it at my sister's house and shell out £400 for the window to be taken out and replaced Angry

Aprilsinparis · 05/08/2018 20:49

Blimey! All of the above.......and the way he breathes....in.....and......out

motortroll · 05/08/2018 20:49

Omg I was going to start this actual thread earlier! Not sure I'd have put a limit of 3 on it though!!!

  1. Sits down as soon as he comes in and puts the tv on then sits on his phone. Completely disregarding what else is going on eg kids doing hw!
  1. Leaves stuff lying everywhere
  1. Comes up with exciting stuff for us to do....except it's actually something he wants to do and he thinks I/we will come along and then he won't feel bad about spending family money and time on himself!!
Collywobbles1984 · 05/08/2018 20:59
  1. When he's telling me he's going to do something he'll whisper it, like he's talking to himself. I've started asking why he's whispering to me, is the fact he's about to water the plants a huge secret?
  2. He'll open his post, unfold the letter and then leave the envelopes and papers unfolded on the side then get annoyed when they get misplaced or damaged
  3. Every time he walks into the room, or I walk into the room, or get up to go to the loo, put the kettle on, he'll ask if I'm alright. Yes dear, much the same as when you asked me 2 minutes ago! I could go on if I really think about it...
Collywobbles1984 · 05/08/2018 21:01

Oh yes
4) He'll happily leave the kitchen light on ALL day when it doesn't need putting on but at night he switches it off every time he leaves the kitchen, so I go to make tea, wash up etc and walk into pitch darkness

TheFlis12345 · 05/08/2018 21:03

  1. Trails off half way through a sentence.
    " Do you know where we put the........"
    "On Thursday are we still going to......"
    I have taken to adding my own sarcastic version of how I think he sentence might end.

  2. Does half a job. Will happily empty the bins but forgets to put new bags in. Makes the salad for dinner but leaves the rest of the lettuce and cucumber on the side rather than putting it back in the fridge. He knows he does this though and is trying to get better!

  3. Man looks. All the time. "Where is the butter? I can't find it In the fridge, have we run out, do we need to add it to the shopping list?". No, just move the milk and it's right there! No everything can be right at he front of the fridge of cupboard.

He is generally wonderful, very eager to please and good around the house though, just not as good as me Grin

Collywobbles1984 · 05/08/2018 21:04

Expects me to arrange everything on days out and remember everything we need to take, and if I've somehow miraculously forgotten one thing, makes a huge song and dance when he's a fully grown adult too who is equally responsible for our DC

LostNAlone · 05/08/2018 21:06
  1. Leaves the wardrobe and every cupboard open..
  1. Leaves his wet towel on the bed..
  1. Leaves crumbs/spills/food wet on the side..
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