Things that DH does that annoy the hell out of you?

[SarahLibra1974]

Name three;

1. He constantly flushes wet wipes down the loo.

1. He never gives a straight answer.

1. He will always try to please his bosses at work, even if it affects his family time, or time with me.

Go!

@bluemascara that is one of my pet hates too

1. Leaves above an inch of murky water in the washing up bowl, no idea why, I must spend hours a week walking pas5 emptying the bowl for him to fill it up again.
2. Can’t shut drawers or cupboards fully
3. Is an absolute moody fucker if he’s tired to the point I avoid sitting in the same room as him
4. NEVER walks the dog (his dog from before we were together)
5. Critiques greasy spoons cooked breakfast and gets sulky if he didn’t like it

God I make him sound like a twat but in other ways he’s great

1. Bites his nails, the noise makes me shudder😂
2. Thinks spending money on me for my birthday on Monday will please me more than putting in some effort to just “DO “ something nice for me😂
3. Is absolutely always right and that pisses me off😂

1. Never initiates or engages in difficult conversations about our relationship - just goes silent. Ditto for anything where he might need to apologise - he never acknowledges it even when he knows I'm upset. If I don't start the conversation, it will never happen. He hates admitting that he has done anything wrong and he just shuts down completely.

2. Expects me to know or confirm everything. Even when said things have been discussed when he has been present and actively participating. Example: long conversation about what we are going to do - X or Y. Agree on X. All happy about X. X is CONFIRMED. Get ready, set out. "So, where to? Are we heading to X?" It sounds so petty, but it's everything, all the time. I'll buy a chicken - "I thought we could have chicken for dinner". Him: "That's a good plan." A couple of hours later: "What shall we do for dinner then? Any ideas?"

I get very tired of being responsible for the emotional well-being of our relationship and for the practical directing of our day to day life.

Oh it wasn’t meant to be three! I will remove 2 and 3 then from my list (he’s justified moody at moment and pissed me off and I am used to walking round shutting doors and drawers)

Breathes.

1. Fills the dishwasher but doesn't turn it on
2. Shrinks my clothes as he does everything in a 30 degree long wash no matter what the fabric
3. Operates a 'sniff & see' approach to meat & dairy use- by dates (I'm emetophobic so probably being a bit U on that one)

But I'm grateful he does his share of the housework otherwise!

Breathes.

Snores.

Merrily trips off to bed early, then listens to shite radio 3 and 4. Falls asleep without still on so I end up listening to it. Wakes up and declares "I was listening to that!" if I try and turn it off.

Conversely, tuts at me if I get up to go to bed before him. He gets told "Don't fucking tut at me!"

Decides he needs to take a poo 5 mins before we leave the house, every single time 😭😭.

@DrMadeline he needs one of those speaker pillows to connect a music player to - my DH has one and it's fab

This annoying thing he does with my Audi

You mean your car

1. Falls asleep on the sofa, every evening & any afternoon that DD isn't home for the weekend. Then can't go to sleep at night because of his "insomnia".
2. Leaves his stuff everywhere. Bits & pieces of shopping he's bought for himself, empty sweet packets, post, clothes he needs to put away but won't ever get around to, about 31723 books on every subject under the sun, etc. Then complains I'm uptight about the mess - er no, I'd just like to be able to see the floor & tabletops occasionally.
3. Is fussy about food. He's not a fussy eater, as such - but he needs literally all day to plan what he's having for his dinner. And he's often incapable of doing so, if he's in pain, ate his lunch too late, he's too hungry, grumpy, stressed, depressed... I would do it but he rejects literally everything I suggest, even things that are some of his favourites. He won't eat the same as me - I like healthy vegetarian food, whereas he frequently orders a kebab at about 10pm when he gets so hungry he basically can't think & I've given up trying to talk to him. We can't ever try somewhere new to eat if we go out for dinner, he takes about an hour to choose, & if he considers that the food isn't perfect the place is forever blacklisted.

The main one is that he likes to leave things out "for ease". For example, the anti-bac wipes we use to clean up after our toddler are always left on the kitchen side instead of being put in the cupboard. If I put them away he will tell me he can't find them.

We meal plan and take it in turns to cook. We purchased the ingredients for his meal at the weekend. He said he was leaving them on the kitchen side for when he needed to use them, in four days time!

The big one is not listening to me - even if I am answering a question he has bloody well asked me! So, for example, he asks me what’s for dinner, I tell him, and five minutes later, he asks me again.

When we are going out, he has to have a last-minute faff - we can all be waiting by the car, in the rain sometimes, and he disappears back indoors to do I know not what, leaving us all there waiting, like Piffy on a rock bun. I have learned to have my car keys with me so we can, at least wait in the car whilst he goes back inside.

But he cooks, washes up, and does all the ironing, so I am a lucky woman.

Procrastination is his worst thing!

Asks a question then immediately starts talking about something else, then tells me to calm down when I say that I was talking.

Can never plan anything in advance or discuss any plans.

Cannot retain any info. Friends will be popping by and he's asking 'so they have a kid, yeah? What's it called?' erm she's 3 and you've met her hundreds of times, ffs

Putting things in the dishwasher when I'm still using them, then denying that he did.

When I call him up on something he said he'd do/say when he hasn't, he says 'if you'd let me finish, I was just about to do/say it!' Um, no you weren't!

He'd say mine are leaving cupboard doors open.

Being too blunt.

Shouting when I'm cross. He hates me swearing too.

All the boys in the family put things down when they've finished with them, rather than putting away. Except the dishwasher which drives me nuts!

Lots of things, however they centre around the fact that he is indecisive and also he procrastinates which drives me nuts. I however am impulsive, irresponsible and high maintenance so I'm fairly certain I have the better end of the deal!!

He's very lovely however:

1. He's a noisy eater (that seems to have developed over the last few years) and b) whenever he lists things he starts numerically and finishes alphabetically ( or vice versa). As shown here!

I however have a list of faults as long as your arm - and he doesn't murder me in my sleep so I'm winning.

1. Says we're going out in a minute without considering the fact that I have to pack a suitcase full of things to be able to leave the house with 2 small children

1. Has a completely different idea to me on whether a piece of laundry is dry yet

1. Says something, I don't hear it so say "pardon?", and rather than repeating what he said, he just moves onto the next part of the story which I haven't got a clue about because I missed the first part

@peachgreen you said the toothbrush; please can you clarify that you and DH don't actually share a toothbrush??

Today?

Exists.

He never knows what he wants for dinner.
He is too sensible to let me get a puppy.
He smokes too often.

Theonlylivingboy I'm with you, sadly - I don't know if it's because I know it should be different, he's actually "better" than most men and a true feminist ally but still...