AIBU to have just stormed out before I flew into a rage of epic proportions?

[Justaboutawake]

Apologies in advance if this turns into a long one!
Am on holiday with DP and DD. For context, first holiday in 10yrs for me and first ever for DD.
Have been here for 3 days and have so far been acting as referee to DP and DD who just can’t seem to get along in another country although they are thick as thieves at home. Gripes between them so far are not wanting to spend all day either around the pool or on the beach. Granted there’s not really much to do here but so far today we have spent an hour out side and have been back in the room ever since.
Well I’ve had enough and, to avoid aforementioned rage, have just grabbed my phone and stomped out of the hotel room because I haven’t paid 3 fucking grand to watch them sit on their phones in an air conditioned room. This is just the tip of the iceberg so far for me. Each night we’ve been to bed extremely early and up at the crack of dawn and for what exactly? To sit on our beds with me bored out of my brain whilst listening to them saying they’re bored??!!

Sorry folks. Rant over as I’m now sitting like a loner on the beach watching all of the other families have fun

Most people try to take a yearly holiday and they generally cost about £3k (in fact that’s quite a bargain- maybe involves a free child place) sometimes they don’t work out as well as you expect- we all make mistakes. Seems like there is plenty to do but OPs family aren’t interested

As others have maybe suggested. Leave them to it and enjoy this holiday as you time. Go do as you like and leave dad to care for your DD

There's no snobbery here, I spend a large percentage of my small income on holidays and would continue to spend more and more if I had more and more.

I think I'd book it over Christmas next time though - it's been hot here for so long that the sun isn't anything special, it's just more hotness in an unfamiliar environment.

OP you might need to demonstrate to your dd how to make holiday friends. She's never had to do it before, and besides, you can't ask her to do something you aren't prepared to do yourslef

How much input did dh and dd have on the holiday type/location? If they were pushing for a sunny beach holiday then Id say "you picked it. Im off to do just what you chose".
However if they would have prefered a camping trip or an adventure holiday then yabu.

OP you might need to demonstrate to your dd how to make holiday friends
why does she need "holiday friends" when she has her mum and dad there? i'd have felt like I was being pushed away if my parents had tried to get me to go off with other kids on our family holiday

What 10 year old wants to spend 2 weeks alone with two adults? I'd have cried if that had been my holiday at that age.

colditz lots of 10 year olds like their parents and want to spend time with them

They’re in the room tapping away on their phones.

OP is somewhere outdoors tapping away on her phone.

What’s the difference? The sun?

All inclusive, unlimited water park tickets. No bored kids for me come October.

I feel for the op and get why she is pissed off and needs to vent.

Sometimes it takes a few days to get into the swing of holidays. Hopefully you've all turned a corner now and will have a great time!

I took my Dd on her first all inclusive at age 9. I went in the pool with her, even though there were loads of kids. She then ended up playing with whoever was in the water each day. We supplied balls and all was well. Now she's 13 she will probably do the same this year too. We have ball games, and I'll play for a bit, and then read my book while she plays with other kids. Her brothers are a lot older grown up so she's like an only child. I ban the Iphone until the evening, or when we are sitting about somewhere boring for her.
Kick them out of the room, and give them balls to go in the water with.

All my kids love spending time with us on holiday..that's the whole point. Quality family time with no day to day distractions of work, chores etc.
They sometimes make friends (usually on campsite holidays though not beach holidays) but predominantly they want to be with us.
My lot love a game of family rounders more than anything else in life!
Having said all that I totally agree with the PP who said that sometimes you build up in your mind the idea of how a perfect holiday should be and then it's gets too stressful when it doesn't all turn out as planned!
Have a big glass of wine, enjoy your volley ball and then make some plans for tomorrow and agree you will each get a turn to choose something you'd like to do each day.

“Most people try to take a yearly holiday and they generally cost about £3k (in fact that’s quite a bargain”

Really???? Not in my world.

Well just pop down to your local
High street estate agent and you’ll see many people doing it crisp. Unless you think the travel companies rent and staff the shops for fun?

Travel agent, not estate agent, lol

Most people take a £3K holiday every year? Most people? Surely not.

For 3 people? £1k each?

That’s a perfectly standard holiday price. Look in the window of Tui next time you’re passing. There are loads of branches. Because so many people use them

It sounds like a divide over what's viewed as a holiday. You see it as sunbathing (& admit where you booked there is nothing to do). Your DP & DD see a holiday as doing stuff. Can you do mornings sunbathing then afternoons exploring, boat trips etc?

There’s plenty to do in the resort just not locally as much as it’s a small town.
Volleyball went down a treat and we’ve just come back from a lovely after dinner stroll and evening of playing games on the beach where there is an outdoor cinema event going on.
DD has stated that she likes everything in the resort and just didn’t know what to do next (bit overwhelmed I think) and DP has admitted that he wants to go explore so the plan for tomorrow is to catch a ferry to the next island and do some touristy shopping and sightseeing. Will then jump in the pool to cool off from the heat when we get back and take it from there.

I thought £3k was reasonable in August? Admittedly it’s been years since I’ve been anywhere and had always booked for September but it’s the best deal I could find that we all agreed on from a good few internet searches and from speaking to friends etc.....

I'm glad you are settling in more. I just wanted to add my DD is going on 10 and it seems an awkward age for them to 'make friends' even when sitting at the local park on a swing next to each other. I've always gone up and said - Hello, what is your name? Oh that's nice this is DD, her name is... - and just that bit of ice breaking goes a massive way, it's also an ice breaker with the parents too and you get speaking to each other.
Sadly gone is the age where they'll just speak to any other child and make a new best friend for a day!

I usually spend about £600-800 per person. £1000 each would be too much for me. This year it is £750 each for 11 days self catering in a nice place with three pools and nightly entertainment, near the beach. I'll do a Musings from Gran Canaria once were there, see if Dd does play as usual, she seems to think she's an adult this year.

Depends what your 3k covers. Pricy if it's just flights and accommodation, not bad if all inclusive.

sounds like they needed the short sharp shock you gave them, well done but sorry you had to get pissed off for them to realise.

If you dont mind spending £3k I suggest booking a place with a private pool rather than hotel.

At least if they are being indoor bores you can laze buy a pool with a glass of something cool.

I’ve now had a phone call asking where I am and am I coming back

What did they need you for? Can they not look after themselves?

Why do you have to sit in a room with them? Go and sunbathe and read and swim on your own! Enjoy the peace.