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AIBU to have just stormed out before I flew into a rage of epic proportions?

75 replies

Justaboutawake · 05/08/2018 15:52

Apologies in advance if this turns into a long one!
Am on holiday with DP and DD. For context, first holiday in 10yrs for me and first ever for DD.
Have been here for 3 days and have so far been acting as referee to DP and DD who just can’t seem to get along in another country although they are thick as thieves at home. Gripes between them so far are not wanting to spend all day either around the pool or on the beach. Granted there’s not really much to do here but so far today we have spent an hour out side and have been back in the room ever since.
Well I’ve had enough and, to avoid aforementioned rage, have just grabbed my phone and stomped out of the hotel room because I haven’t paid 3 fucking grand to watch them sit on their phones in an air conditioned room. This is just the tip of the iceberg so far for me. Each night we’ve been to bed extremely early and up at the crack of dawn and for what exactly? To sit on our beds with me bored out of my brain whilst listening to them saying they’re bored??!!

Sorry folks. Rant over as I’m now sitting like a loner on the beach watching all of the other families have fun

OP posts:
marvellousnightforamooncup · 05/08/2018 15:54

YANBU.

Snap them out of it by going on a excursion or something.

Laureline · 05/08/2018 15:55

How old is your DD?

YeTalkShiteHen · 05/08/2018 15:56

Oh fuck that OP, I’d make a list of things you want to do for the time you’re away and just go and do them.

gamerchick · 05/08/2018 15:57

Well, you're there. May as well make the best of it. Leave them to their own devices and get chatting to people/read a book by the pool with cold beers/go exploring. Make the use of the evening entertainment and let them stew in their room.

TresDesolee · 05/08/2018 16:00

YANBU to please yourself - they certainly are. I’d be off with my book and my headphones to the beach or pool without a second thought.

How old is your DD?

Are you somewhere hot? Do they not like the heat? My older DS genuinely hates high temperatures - he spent all last holiday in Greece hiding in the air con bedroom. Fine with me so long as there’s no moaning about being bored.

Original poster
Justaboutawake · 05/08/2018 16:01

DD is 10. It just bothers me that they harped on about going on holiday for months and are behaving like absolute dicks now we are here.
Have planned a day out tomorrow (just a cheap ferry trip to the next island as all of the tourist ones are super expensive at £100 each)
I’ve now had a phone call asking where I am and am I coming back. May let them worry for a bit and have some me time

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Fang2468 · 05/08/2018 16:03

Sod that, go back get a book, stay in the beach then get a drink in a bar (on your own). Leave them to bicker in their own.
What about hiring a car from tomorrow? - get a plan together to make the most of your holiday.

Fang2468 · 05/08/2018 16:05

Are there any other kids of dd’s age to hang out with? I think my holidays improve immeasurably when my kids make some friends.
They have to be pushed in the first place to join the sports stuff to start talking to other kids though.

SecretWitch · 05/08/2018 16:06

Do your own thing. You haven’t traveled to provide entertainment for the both of them. Ring and let them know your plans. Invite them to join you if they wish, otherwise, off you go to enjoy your precious vacation time.

TresDesolee · 05/08/2018 16:10

Can you just tell your DH that you are absolutely not spending your holiday in the hotel room, that you want to enjoy the sun and the facilities, and that that’s what you will be doing until he and DD stop bickering, at which point they are welcome to join you - but that under no circumstances will you be spending your holiday in the bedroom?

Sounds like he needs to snap out of it tbh. (Ten year olds have a bit more latitude, although ideally she should snap out of it too)

Permaexhaustion · 05/08/2018 16:13

Why on earth are you joining them in the room if that's not what you want to do?

Decide what you want to do with the rest of your day, invite them to join you.

Troels · 05/08/2018 16:15

Bang their heads together, silly beggars.

vandrew4 · 05/08/2018 16:15

why did you spend £3 grand on a holiday where there's nothing to do for your 10 year old?

jelliebelly · 05/08/2018 16:17

What did you expect a 10 year old to do on a beach/sun holiday? Are there activities she can do? Kids club? What do you want to do? Think I'd please myself and leave them to it tbh!!

crosser62 · 05/08/2018 16:17

You made me chuckle with "3 fucking grand" Grin
I have absolute and 100% sympathy with you on this. I stomped off yesterday because of little bastard behaviour.
I've got a 3 fucking grand holiday booked in October, dreading it really for the same reasons that you say.
I fully intend on taking books, headphones and doing my thang.. oh yes siree, I'm going to have a good time with or without the ungrateful little shits... I'm talking to you too dh.

MothertotheLordsofmisrule · 05/08/2018 16:17

Is there a kids club or similar?

Dd could do that for a day to break up the holiday.

vandrew4 · 05/08/2018 16:18

crosser have you also booked a place where your children will get bored?

daughterofanarchy · 05/08/2018 16:20

YANBU. Or th same situations as you (on holiday) but I felt completely overwhelmed at home a few weeks ago and I did storm
Off. Felt better for it to be honest x

Ihatemycar · 05/08/2018 16:21

Where are you holidaying? People may suggest things to do.

Loopytiles · 05/08/2018 16:22

Is the problem that DD prefers the beach and DP the pool, or vice versa? If so then could DP just spend part of the time separate from you and DD?

DD isn’t really being U to complain about heat, she couldn’t know whether she’d like a hot holiday if she’d never had one before.

sonjadog · 05/08/2018 16:23

Could you research what activities there are to do around where you are staying and do some of them together? They might not be people who enjoy sitting on the beach/at the pool all day?

RedSkyLastNight · 05/08/2018 16:24

So you've booked a holiday abroad with nothing that any of you want to do and have spent most of the day in your room?

Possibly this was not the right holiday for your family ...

Loopytiles · 05/08/2018 16:25

It annoys me when parents (who have paid loadsamoney) have organised an outing or holiday and encourage DC to get excited, without having much understanding of the likely experience, then get pissed off when DC misbehave or don’t like aspects of it.

(have done this myself!)

Nikephorus · 05/08/2018 16:29

why did you spend £3 grand on a holiday where there's nothing to do for your 10 year old?
And when you now can't (presumably) afford any excursions.... A holiday for a third of the price with lots of fun / interesting stuff nearby would have been much better.
I'd be bored rigid stuck on a beach / by a pool all the time. There's only so long I can sit reading for...

vandrew4 · 05/08/2018 16:30

And why are you going to bed super early? Why not play cards/ other board games/ walk to a bar / organise your own mini olympics/ cook a meal together/ eat out together?