To ask for your CF wedding tales?

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A guest’s plus one (someone I’d never met before) wore a white mini dress to my wedding. I laughed it off at the time (more focused on getting married!) but lots of people were a bit outraged on my behalf that she wore white.

Anyone got some more lovely tales of CFs trying to steal wedding thunder? I do love a good CF story!

Random lady from work invited herself to our wedding, DH didn't know her. At the reception she was shocked to find that we hadn't booked (or paid for) a room for her for the night in the hotel and complained to anyone who woud listen.

My 2 dc were chosen to be the flower girl and page boy at my best friend's wedding. Her cousin's wife (who lived abroad at the time) 'jokingly' said that they would only come to the wedding if her 2 dd's were chosen as the bridesmaids...🙈 My best friend explained that she was only having adult bridesmaids but the cf dressed her dd's up in matching bridesmaids outfits anyway and came to the wedding!!!! The bride was not amused (& neither was I).

I had a few...
One guest cancelled the day before then rang me on my way to the church via my father (no idea how she got the number) to ask if she wanted to come now could she and also could she bring a new partner?! For clarity I had originally invited her and her dh but she cheated on him two months before the wedding and he left her. She's a charmer!
I also had one guy who brought his identical twin (never met the twin) because they never go anywhere separately apparently (which didn't quite make sense and we have known each other since uni and hung out lots minus said twin?)
Oh and my mil wore white and refused to talk to me as I'd stolen her son? Also her sister stole the bridesmaids flowers (4 bouquets) and left with them. I only know it was her because she put a photo on fb saying how she had made a window display in her cafe with them?!!!!

However I can safely say none of this had any impact on my perfect day and my husband and I had the best time. A wedding is just a wedding at the end of the day and cf stories are always there to be looked back and laughed at!

Oh lordy, recent wedding, one of the bridesmaids just lost all sense between being asked to bridesmaid and the wedding itself. In a nutshell:

*Dominated the hen activities and insisted on walking everywhere at top speed, despite three of the hens having mobility issues. Top CF moment there was insisting on visiting the observatory on the outskirts of the city that the bride not only had no interest in but due to the bride's severe agoraphobia was too afraid to even set foot inside.

*Bitched loudly and endlessly about how lazy and unprepared the bride was (as the bride had a small budget, many parts of the wedding were homemade or done as a favour by friends and family)

*Got the hump when I asked her to clear a space for me to assemble the wedding cake on the one usable surface in the bride's house, so no, she couldn't eat her cereal there

*Refused to go to her dress fitting because of a grudge she had against one of the other bridesmaid's partners who happens to live in that house

That was before the wedding. During the wedding and reception:

*Texted a play-by-play during the ceremony for a friend that couldn't make it, instead of livestreaming it like she promised. It looked like she was messing around on her phone the whole time

*Went to the off license to get cheap alcohol so she wouldn't have to spend money at the bar set up by a family friend

*Told a room full of people the whole wedding offended her from an organization standpoint

*Drank most of a bottle of Jack Daniels (without a glass) before food was served, and bitched about the food loudly, oblivious to how much the mother of the bride looked like she wanted to stab her with her fork

*Interrupted the speech to thank herself for tweaking the audio after I was personally thanked for the wedding cake

*Slammed her bridesmaids shoes down on the table in front of me and another bridesmaid because she had picked up the wrong ones (we had two sets)

*Picked a fight with the bride's brother over afters food being served, insulted his parenting and bragged about being an astrophysicist

*Left in a huff without saying goodbye to the bride

I've posted this before, we had a "no children" wedding but caved on the reception and said guests could bring them there just not the church.

Only a handful took us up on it including one who saw fit to bring her toddler who unbeknownst to us had been D&V for the past few days.

Of course everyone in her family kissed and fussed over the cutesy toddler.

They then hugged and kissed me and DH.

We then hugged and kissed most of the rest of the room.

Around 80% of our guests came down with what in hindsight I'm pretty sure was norivirus, including my elderly grandparents

I got hit worst and couldn't move out of bed for 5 days, it's a good job our honeymoon wasn't booked for another 6 months because I couldn't have gotten on a plane!

My mother-in-law wore what she said was cream, only it wasn't cream, it was ivory. I'd told her when describing my dress that it wasn't brilliant white, but was an ivory kind of colour, so she definitely knew. On the wedding pictures with the camera flash our dresses look exactly the same colour. Her hat was the same colour as her get-up, too. It really annoyed me. Still haven't said anything to her and it didn't ruin my day or anything, but a number of people did come up to me and ask wtf my mil was thinking when she chose the outfit.

we went to a wedding few years ago where at the end of the night we caught sight of the bride passionately kissing the grooms brother! It was maybe 30 seconds but it happened and we were

Was a bridesmaid at a different wedding where the other bridesmaid (was 5 of us) told bride she should have lost some weight beforehand, as 'she would have 'made a better impression'

I feel like I've been to some boring weddings. The only CFery I've witnessed was the groom's family bringing in their own drinks because they refused to pay the bar prices. Then they left all the empty bottles and evidence under tables in the venue! They have form for this at anything they do.

My DSis was a bit of one at our wedding (although it was more the boyfriene) because she wanted her boyfriend at the time to be at the whole wedding event. They weren't together when invited went out. Because one if my bridesmaids couldn't make it in the end, he got a place but I just didn't want him there. Didn't like the guy at all. He was an emotionally abusive arse and it was him telling my DSis that he should be there for the whole thing. Thank God she's seen sense and left him now.

My DH and I both insisted we didn't know who one of the guests were at our wedding. It turned out she was DH's great uncle's new bit of stuff - they were both in their 80s. She was lovely!
His 2nd cousins had matching bridesmaids style dresses because hadn't asked them to be bridesmaids and his mother told everyone she felt bereaved because she'd lost her son.

I have never been to a wedding where all drinks were not included? Is it a thing not to provide all the food and drink? Surely you invite as many people as you can afford to cater for?

I've never been to a wedding where the drinks were included. We included drinks at our wedding breakfast but I wasn't subsidizing my alcoholic relatives for their piss up. They'd only turned up for the party despite being invited to everything else because they didn't want to get up early on a Sunday (wedding was at 11:15). Ah maybe there was CFery at my wedding but I'm just used to select aunts, uncles, and cousins being like that.

But no, food paid for I'd expect but not drinks. A glass for the toasts is nice but I'd never expect anything.

...btw, she had threatened to write him out of her will when we got engaged because she didn't want him to leave her (said some horrible things to spoil it but didn't stop us getting engaged and planning the wedding). Then told me it wasn't personal....
...now we go to see her when I remind him he should see his mother occasionally!

I have never been to a wedding where all drinks were not included? Is it a thing not to provide all the food and drink? Surely you invite as many people as you can afford to cater for?

No rules! I went to two weddings this month. One was all-included. The second was bring-your-own booze and food!

Both were lovely.

I’ve never once been to a wedding where all drinks were provided? I wouldn’t ever expect to have my drinks paid for, food yes but not drinks? There’s often been some wine on the table and a glass of something for the toast but that’s it.

We flew long haul for our wedding with around 28 guests, so not a large wedding.
Best man proposes to girlfriend day before our wedding, which was lovely and special for them, however, Best Man & Bride to Be announce it at our wedding and she starts talking throughout ceremony about her wedding plans, her theme, what she didn't like at our wedding, how she wouldnt have a dress like mine etc. This carries on throughout meal and the Best Man speech is about a minute about my husband and the rest about his proposal and how wonderful his fiancee was. Wouldn't have minded so much if theyd been a bit more tactful (I know they were excited) but she really is an unpleasant woman and has a tendency to make everything about her.

Tbh giving certain family members a card for free drinks and not others is a recipe for hurt feelings and CF behaviour!

Anyone had extra uninvited guests turn up and be refused a seat /"mealy?

I suppose I could add that MIL exhibited some CFery, actually now I think about it - mostly I'd thought she was fine but I've realised that her CFery was before the wedding.

We had it in the UK and she was coming over from Australia for it, and wanted her sister to come too - this was fair enough, I'd met her sis (DH's aunt) and MIL had had some blood clot issues, her sister was a nurse, they wanted to do some touring around after the wedding. So far so reasonable. BUT then MIL decided she wanted to invite her friend along too. I had met the friend once - she was ok - but the whole 3 of them would be staying in my house (only a 3bed) for at least 2 weeks around the wedding.

To add to the situation my mother was in hospital, very ill, didn't make it to the wedding; and I was pregnant.

How I didn't kill anyone is actually a bit of a mystery.

They did all fuck off the night before the wedding though, to a local hotel, because I had my own friends coming to stay and of course DH had to not be there the night before, so he took his family and their friend to a local B&B instead.
DH's brother decided to come over at the last minute too - and he stayed at one of their cousin's house (they have family in the UK too) but after the wedding the cousin threw him out because of his disgusting lack of hygiene, and DH said he could stay at ours because his mum and her entourage had all gone off on their tour of the UK and Europe!! He lasted 2 nights before I told DH he had to go or it would be a very short marriage.

SO MUCH STRESS! And yet a fabulous wedding itself.

My FIL ordered our wedding flowers without telling me or discussing it with me or my husband! Out of principal I didn’t use them (they had £500 worth of flowers all around their house!). He also created a email invitation for our wedding (with flying doves and flashing love hearts, classy right ) and sent it out to all the guest on DH side of the wedding. Neither my husband and I knew anything about this till we got it inviting us to our own wedding. The best part, it was addressed from my parents!

Not sure if this can be classed as CF. At the end of my wedding when it was time for my new DH and me to go to our bridal suite for the night, my mother insisted on coming with us to our room to help me get undressed. I kept saying that DH can help me and in the end my father had to drag her away.

My sister is getting married next year and I'm a bridesmaid. I'm a good 5 stone heavier than all the others and will also have had my baby a couple of months before. I'm not allowed to wear any kind of bodice/corset because "it'll push your boobs up too much and I'm not having you look like a French whore at my wedding"
The only come back I could think of was "But I'm not French!"

My uncle had a plus one, invited his girlfriend - no problem. She brought along her 3 grandkids without even asking.

He dumped her shortly after so in my wedding pics are 3 children that were never introduced to me and I’ll nevrr see again

My 'friend' invited me to her wedding, I was actually friends with her and the groom equally but she was always the spokesperson for the pair of them. It was taking place in a fairly popular walking holiday destination a few hours away from us. A couple of years before they'd tried (and failed) to set me up with their friend, he was recently divorced and clearly not ready for a relationship but otherwise nothing really wrong there.

I was living with my boyfriend when I received the wedding invite, it was only for me (again no problem there) so I rsvp'd yes. A few days later I was told by bride to be that she had organised my accommodation and I was staying in a b&b in a twin room with said friend! I messaged back thanks but no thanks, I'd sort my own accommodation. She was furious and told me that friend was really upset as he'd missed me and felt that I was giving him the run around! I'd got his hopes up and then dashed them 'just like last time'.

I contacted her again and told her that my boyfriend and I were going to be taking a holiday in the same place as her wedding and that I would be attending and then going back to the accommodation shared with my boyfriend. She told me that she wasn't paying for a random to be at her wedding (she's met him lots of times but her choice, fair enough) so I let her know he wasn't expecting to come to the wedding but he'd be in the area. She said that was unacceptable and that I couldn't have my boyfriend near the wedding venue as he wasn't invited and as she had personally booked most of the b&bs for the wedding he had no right to be in the area.

You'd be hard pushed to think that my boyfriend was a decent person at this point, he was seriously questioning if there were rumours going round about him. I have no idea why she behaved in this way except that she wanted me to be with their friend and so had to shun boyfriend. Anyway, we continued with our plan, I attended the wedding and then it was announced after the wedding breakfast that there wasn't an evening reception but the local pub had a disco on that we were all welcome to attend.

So a few of the guests headed to the local pub and joined in with the disco, with loads of other holiday makers in the area (pretty much the only evening entertainment for miles) and when I got there my boyfriend was also there. I didn't see the harm since there were loads of strangers there and it wasn't really the wedding anymore. The groom came over and said hello, boyfriend bought him a drink and groom sat with him for a chat. During the chat, bride comes over and absolutely explodes at boyfriend and me, the groom told her she was out of order and he didn't understand the issue. She was having none of it, was screaming about how the guest list was not fluid and that he wasn't invited.

We decided to leave at this point, later on I received a text from bride saying how I had disrespected her friend and her, how she had tried to make it possible for me to be welcomed into her friendship family (!) by getting together with friend but I had thrown it back in her face. It was the most bizarre text ever, to go with the bizarre situation.

The friend also texted me saying it was a shame I'd decided to 'kick him' again and how he had so much to offer me that I wouldn't be getting in my life with boyfriend. It was weird, as if they'd concocted this little fantasy of how I was actually with friend and what life was actually like with us together.

I cut all ties with her and the groom (no point risking seeing their friend and groom was married to batshit bride which would have made things difficult for him I'm sure). A few years later boyfriend and I were getting married, but we'd only gone and booked the venue that she worked at! And I didn't know this until the day of the wedding when, she had included herself in our day. She'd put herself a space at the table (the venue organised everything) and also another space for a plus one, ordered themselves meals - everything!

The plus one was her boyfriend - she'd had an affair and left groom shortly after their wedding. As soon as I saw what she'd done at our wedding I spoke to the manager and he was mortified, he made her and the boyfriend leave despite them having a room there. She was also sacked from her job and we were given a very generous refund for our wedding because of it.

I often think about the whole situation and I realise that it sounds too weird to be true but it absolutely is. She's moved about an hour away from us, she's tried to contact me over the years but I have ignored.

During the planning of our wedding mil insisted on paying for the honeymoon as their contribution and set a budget for it with the only condition that it was all to be funded by them alone. No problems, appreciated the gesture. We were able to book a short break - 3 nights half board guided tour in Europe. Not much left to pay for and no free time as the tour was pretty full on. Mil knew this and that we'd budgeted for the 3 meals.

As people were asking for the wedding list we put one together with virtually everything between £5 and £30 (bits for the house and garden) as we were aware how much it costs people to attend a wedding and didn't want to be CFs ourselves.

Get to honeymoon location and ring mil to say we'd arrived. She got very grumpy when we said we hadn't opened cards and gifts before we set off for the airport. When we got back and opened everything we found out that mil had told all her side of family to ignore the wedding list and supply euros for the honeymoon despite knowing full well that was last thing we wanted or needed.

It made writing the thank you letters really awkward as they'd all given more money than we could ever have spent and mil would have known how much they had contributed. We eventually spent it on a family holiday a couple of years later.

A friend got married at a well known historic venue. Her il's turned up very casually dressed and stood out like a sore thumb amongst the wedding guests who were all dressed smartly in the kind of outfits you expect to see at a wedding. They then started telling the other guests that they hadn't realised it was going to be dressy. WTF.

My Brother's wedding. A good amount of the gifts were stolen from the wedding reception venue by the staff there. My Father also found they were loading the drinks. (All alcohol paid by groom's father, my Dad, and they were randomly opening bottles and pouring one drink here and there to raise the bottle count at the end of the night). This was a very ritzy/5 star and well-known venue too!