To wonder why the HV feels it’s okay to say this...?

[CarrieBlu]

Had my DC2 a few weeks ago, all going well for both of us. However, in each visit I have had since with the Health Visitor, she keeps on saying to me “have you sorted contraception yet? Otherwise you’ll end up in this situation again” and it’s really starting to annoy me. It makes it sound like my pregnancy with DC2 was some sort of accident (it wasn’t, she was planned and very much wanted). After all, what if I wanted to fall pregnant again soon, and have another child with a small age gap, how is that any of her business? Why does she see falling pregnant again as such a negative thing? Maybe I don’t mind “ending up in this situation again”

I know I’m probably BU, I just came away from our appointment today feeling annoyed and needed a little rant.

Sounds like she's the kind to open her gin without fully engaging her brain.
As others have said its fine to ask the question but not in the way she did.
I know it's easier said than done but could you politely point out that what she is saying is inappropriate/ rude as I get the feeling this one be the last annoying thing she says. She probably won't realise she's being crass as nobody ever points it out. She may continue but she may think before she says something next time.
I had the weirdest HV with my last baby, she has since retired and I get somebody else for his 2yo check next week but she used to turn up as if she was dressed for a night out, full make up, heels, sparkly outfit and big, big hair. She was a giant snob but loved coming to see us because we had a big house and were a 'professional couple' and often told us that and spent more time discussing that stuff than talking about the baby she'd come to see - I found it very cringeworthy but it was hard to put a finger on exactly what she was doing wrong (although her baby advice was shit - thankfully I'd had an amazing HV when I had struggled with DS1 - I'm disabled and I just remembered a lot of what she said)
I did challenge her a few times on what she said and she backed off a little bit for a while.

Mouth not gin - don't know where that came from!

I got asked this repeatedly after I had ds, each time I politely pointed out that I'm a lesbian and we don't generally have an issue with accidental pregnancy. Didn't deter them, one person ploughed on with the whole spiel and left a leaflet, despite being told this. It was very odd
I think they just have a mental "script" and can get stuck in it even when it doesn't fit so don't take it personally.

I was asked that a lot after having DC I said I'm using condoms of which I was told by one gp that it isn't effective and I should use hormonal contraceptives . As PP have said it's a tick box exercise they have to say it at every appointment just like how every time they say are you up to date on your smears to which I've repeatedly told her I'm not yet 25 !

This thread has just reminded me I needed to book an appointment to get a coil - DS is 9 weeks and I've been putting it off for ages. We've been using condoms which we both hate, and in the moment could easily be convinced not to use one.

I DEFINITELY don't want any more children, and have been asked about contraception at every appointment. I'm happy to be asked though, and really, needed reminding repeatedly or else I would be "in that situation"!

I'm a fully functioning, professional adult too, so no excuses for being lax!

I was delighted when dc3 arrived a year after dc2 but equally a little surprised! I think they are under heavy instruction to deal with contraception!