AIBU concerning family mocking accents

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I'm rather upset and would like to know if AIBU or perhaps just hormonal. I'm on holiday with my British husband and British born/raised adult children. We're in another country but there are many Americans on holiday here too. I'm American myself. As I have lived in the UK a long time, my accent is softened, but still there. My family have what would be called a "posh" English accent.

My husband and one daughter are continually putting on fake, exaggerated American accents and mocking what they hear Americans saying. I have quietly asked my husband to stop this, saying its rude and people around us would be upset. He replied that he doesn't give a shit. All jokey.

Without going too much in depth, I'll simply say, I'm American. This bothers me. Causes me to feel upset not only by my perceiving their rudeness but also mocked myself (even though I don't have this particular southern states American accent).

AUBU to feel upset/hurt? Should I be more forceful in asking them to stop? I feel I'd be told AIBU and ruining their holiday.

It's fucking rude. I'd be embarrassed to be with them, and let them know it. What complete dicks.

YANBU - you have told your DH that you find his behaviour upsetting and he is choosing to ignore you.
It's also incredibly rude of them to continue and shows them up to be immature twats.

My own DH has a shocking habit of attempting various accents at home - they're all terrible (bar the cockney accent) and especially his "Scottish" one. I'm not even Scottish but I get offended on behalf of all Scots for his ineptitude and trying to pass off his feeble attempts as a "Scottish" accent. But at least he doesn't do it in public! I'd be MORTIFIED if he did and would probably walk off and distance myself from him.

Why don't you mock his posh English accent, see how he likes it. He sounds like a bit of an arsehole by telling you he doesn't give a shit when you are originally from that country.

YANBU. I'm from the Midlands, and one of DH's relatives insists on mocking me in the a pseudo-Black Country accent sounding something like Noddy Holder and Barry from Auf Wiedersehen Pet's adenoidal love child. It might be mildly amusing if it sounded anything like my accent but it doesn't (my home town is over 40 miles from that area). The rude twat spent most of his life in stockbroker belt country clubs and make wild judgements about Northerners whom he clearly considers to be inferior in all aspects.

I'd be embarrased and mortified even if I wasn't American.
The fact that he "doesn't give a shit" despite the fact that you are American is disgusting.

Racists? How?

Anyway...

My DH and I do accents all the time. He's British I'm not and has the "posh" accent.

We've lived all over our favourite accent is southern American (veeee-hic-kle). We lived in Louisiana and got pulled over... it's still a favourite joke.

I'm surprised you've singled out only your husband because your daughter is also doing it.

Perhaps have a word with her, if he has no one to find it funny with maybe it will then sink in.

We've lived all over our favourite accent is southern American (veeee-hic-kle).

I don't pronounce vehicle that way, and don't know anyone who does, and I live in the Southern US. I think maybe they were having you on a bit.

Smokeybaconcrips: don't think men can help it

Sorry - did you actually, really, genuinely post that?

There's no excuse whatsoever for DHs infantile behaviour

Thank you. I am contemplating showing them this thread.

I’ve never met an American visiting UK who hasn’t tried to imitate our accents, complete with “jolly good show”, it’s cringy but not racist.

You are not being unreasonable! It is grossly ill mannered to take the mick out of people's accents.

Some real treasures on this thread, OP.

I think your husband is bang out of order, both for being so rude and encouraging your daughter to join in.

If his idea of a good time is taking the piss out of others, maybe he ought to try being a bit kinder.

I’m sorry you’ve been so hurt by this behaviour - I’m not surprised it’s upset you. Your family is supposed to be your team - they should try acting like it.

I’ve never met an American visiting UK who hasn’t tried to imitate our accents, complete with “jolly good show”, it’s cringy but not racist.

I think there's a difference between trying to copy an accent and mocking an accent, especially after someone has told you that it upsets them.

A bit of imitation and jokey light-hearted banter is fine.
Nasty mocking isn't.

I have friends with quite posh English accents and they always laugh at my regional dialect and joke about 'things Maisy says...' It's all good humour. I would be beyond pissed off if they started mocking, being awful about my region etc and using their fake accents to take the mick in a horrible way.

People keep telling the OP to take the piss out of her husband's British accent....he's British. ..he's going to have a sense of humour and be able to laugh at himself.

Take them to Butlins for your next holiday and ask some common people to take the piss out of their accents.

Troodie that's a mean comment!

Your husband and daughter sound absolutely charming. Perhaps you could be rather more cross with them when you point out they're mocking you at the same time, really not on.

Light hearted Tara, I look and sound like Kat Slater

Yanbu. It is rude and condescending to imitate an accent in that way. Once it's been pointed out they should stop. I used to do it in what I thought was an affectionate way with scouse. My partner (scouser) told me it was inappropriate and I will never do it again.

It's ironic because a posh British accent is the one accent that will unite everyone else in the UK in mocking it
A bit of light hearted mockery is one thing, persisting in it when you have asked them to stop sounds like bullying

Fuck him and her OP. I'm an American with a British husband. DH wouldn't dream of being so rude and disrespectful. Sorry OP but you got bigger problems if he finds it funny to upset you when you've been clear about it.

Just tell some of those good ole southern boys your twat of a husband is making fun of them....see how funny it is then.

Of course it's an -ism or an -ist. Everything is these days.

I think you're being thin-skinned but that's the American way.

American's are fair game for many, many reasons. Gun laws (as a PP) mentioned are only one of them.

I'm an American living in UK too. I am constantly hearing British people putting on a false American accent (poorly I might add) and it boils my blood. It's xenophobic and no different than putting on any false accents which might more obviously be considered racist.

What the actual fuck - some of the bellends on this thread

• It’s fine to be xenophobic if it’s towards Americans.

• It’s fine to be racist if you are a man.

Really?! Seriously??

Imagine the OP had said she was Pakistani. Now is it still ok?

Fucks sake.

OP - YANBU. Every single time they do it, you need to repeat “That is very offensive” on a loop. Don’t argue, don’t engage, just keep repeating the message.