Am I overly precious?

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Dd - bridesmaid next weekend with Dn for a mutual relative - bride picked dresses - we paid. Not my taste but fine. I told sil we had got some ballet pumps for dd to go with it asked if she wanted some for dn - said no would do own thing. Now sil has convinced mil that both will wear same shoes with a 1.5 inch heel and ankle strap. Dd hasn't worn heels before - I think it is unnecessary and she is only 7 so not awesome for dancing and playing post wedding - basically will be useless. Dn little older and used to heels.

I just said wear different shoes - they will still have the same dress and look fine - apparently I am massively overly precious. Really not sure if Iabu or not!

You paid for them so it's yours and your DD choice, it's got f all to do with your MIL or SIL, tell them to do one.

A 7 year old should not be made to wear heels, fuck that shit, say no. I'm 39 and can't stand wearing them, they hurt like a bastard

I don't see anything wrong with those Monsoon shoes. My friend got married recently. Her niece was her flowergirl. She's 7 and wore shoes quite similar to those.
I'm 38 now and had a pair similar to those ones about 30 years ago!

Not read whole. Little girls should not be wearing heeled shoes. End of story.
I was at a birthday party last week where the birthday girl aged 6 was wearing party shoes with a small block heel. I saw the poor child trip over and fall at least 3 times and I wasn’t even there for the whole party. Please don’t give into this madness.