In-law’s significant birthday

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Would you expect to be invited to an in-law’s significant birthday party?
Just that really.

I think it depends on the family dynamics really. I would be expected to be invited but that's because I get on with in laws and they are inclusive of everyone

Depends on the IL, how significant the birthday is, what the activity is and how good the relationship is. But yes, in an ideal world. M

Depends how close I was to them. Not just because I am an inlaw.

If my husband was invited then yes

Like pps, I’d say it would depend on how close we were, not just the fact we are in laws.

Yes of course, unless there is something seriously wrong with the relationship in the first place.

Depends what the event is. If a party then probably yes.
If a dinner for them and their friends then no.
If a round the world cruise yes please then no.

If my husband was invited, yes.

All too vague to answer. Depends on the kind of party, depends on the other guests, depends on the relationship etc

Depends what in law. Cousin in law not so much. Mother in law, yes if my dh was invited. Brother in law, only if other women were also invited. If my dh wasn't around then only if I got on well with my ILs (jf close family), but if everyone and his dog was going I'd expect add invitation. I think it also depends on who else is invited.

Eh yeah, I can't see why you wouldn't be unless there is some sort of family break down( in which case neither of you would) but if you are still attached to their son/daughter I would expect both to be invited.

Husband’s brother’s wife’s 50th.

No I wouldn't but that's because we're not particularly close to bil and sil

Yeah why wouldn't you be invited if its a party? Do you get on?

So it’s sil by marriage not pil?

I wouldn’t expect to particularly although both sil and ex sil have in the past.

Actually thinking about bil’s wife then no, definitely not lol

you would think, when you said IL I assumed MIL/FIL. My DH's BIL had a big 40th birthday party in January we weren't invited despite him being invited to my husbands couple of years previous. Doesn't really bother us but we invited them to be polite, they are not it was no surprise.

Yes unless there was some reason that would stop that like an argument, bad blood etc

And the occasion is? Is dh invited?

Depends what the event is and who else is invited?

MerryMarigold 50th Birthday party

The key question is, was your DH invited or not?

Not necessarily, especially when it’s an IL by marriage.

It’s my DM’s 60th in a couple of months and she has only invited her side of the family - her children and grandchildren, her DM, her DSiblings and their partners and children. She has not invited my dad’s siblings or their partners, even though they all get on. Probably just didn’t want such a big number of people.

My SIL (DH brothers wife) yes, I would and have been - not to 50th but other birthday. But we have a good relationship.

I guess it depends on the relationship, if you don’t get on or don’t see each other, then probably not.

No, I've never been invited to a BiL's or SiL's significant birthday party, nor have I invited them to mine or my husband's.