To ask how to deal with this

[itsawhopper]

I’ll keep the details out of it as I don’t want to out myself. I’ve also name changed.

My DH was out with his mates on Saturday night and I received a text from him asking me why his mate was telling him that I’d done xyz. Not an affair or anything but would have made me pretty deceitful and a liar.

I strenuously denied what DH was saying but he was furious. Cut to yesterday and DH went off on one to me about what his mate had said. Despite my denials he was completrly furious. I was incredibly upset and decamped to my parents house. I have two children - one of whom is 5 weeks old and I just didn’t need the stress.

Today I texted the wife of the guy who said these things and asked her clarify. She phoned her husband who said that he only said these things to my DH as a wind up but never actually got round to telling him that it was a joke.

The guy has since texted my husband to tell him it was a joke. However, my husband hasn’t contacted me. He’s due in from work soon and I’m not sure how to handle this?

Any suggestions? Now I am bloody livid.

Does his friend and wife know the damage that has been caused?

I wonder if he was told this stuff and because he believed it was unfaithful that night.

Therefore he is trying to push his guilt onto you to make himself feel justified in what he's done

I explained to him about the conversation and he saw where I was coming from

You’re the one to be explaining! . He should be explaining how he’s told his friend that he will not tolerate his behaviour and he should be grovelling to you. In fact he should be furious with the friend for the attack on you and your relationship. It matters not whether he honestly believed the friend. He was wrong, the friend’s worth defriending, and you were unjustly attacked and hurt.

FFS. You have a 5 week old child. Seriously. Wtaf are you two doing behaving like, and hanging out with people that are so immature and irresponsible.
I hope your DC's survive your ideas of parenting. Seriously this is just ridiculous.
Now just grow up all of you.

for you op, what an awful situation. I hope your dh has apologised and his idiot mate too. Definitely wouldn’t confide anything in his wife, I would keep them at arms length.

What do your parents think? Mine would be shocked at carry on like that. Who needs that type of stress with two kids. He sounds such a cock. Is he v young?

@itsawhopper - how are thing's now? Have you managed to sort out the issues?

It sounds like he was just waiting for a fight to be honest. Why would he just believe his friend without question and watch his wife and kids leave the house?!