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AIBU 'anyone for a cup of tea?'

55 replies

absoluteclassic · 28/07/2018 22:09

Ok so after having people round for dinner I generally ask if anyone would like a cup of tea. This is often met with 'oh yes I'd love a coffee, thanks'. WHY!? I asked if you would like tea you CF. I am rubbish at making coffee, it is mysterious and scary to me.

Then roll in the demands of how they precisely want their coffee and none of that instant stuff will do.

AIBU!?

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AgathaRaisonDetra · 28/07/2018 22:11

Yes.

kayakingmum · 28/07/2018 22:13

That is a strange response, but if you know what they are going to say you could always get in there first and say- Anyone for a tea? I'm afraid I don't have coffee.

MrsEricBana · 28/07/2018 22:13

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Those CLCFs (Coffee loving...). I guess they assume you mean who wants a tea or coffee, but I'm with you, all I ever want is a nice cup of tea.

TheShapeOfEwe · 28/07/2018 22:14

YABU 😂 It's not like they're demanding a rare vintage brandy. Offering both tea and coffee regardless of your preference is just good hosting.

Coffee is easy - one scoop of ground coffee per cup in a cafetière. Pour over water that's just off the boil. Leave to stand for 3/4 mins. Stir for a few seconds. Plunge slowly. Put milk or cream in a jug and sugar in a bowl, bring it all through on a tray and let people make it how they like. Voila!

strawberrypenguin · 28/07/2018 22:14

Sorry I think you are a bit. I only drink tea but use 'anyone like tea?' as a catch all for 'who wants a hot drink?' Being given a coffee order isn't a problem. Same way as if someone asked if I wanted coffee I'd ask for tea instead!

nocoolnamesleft · 28/07/2018 22:14

YANBU. Coffee is the devil's brew.

ProudThrilledHappy · 28/07/2018 22:14

Coffee is far easier, no messing around with letting the bag stew a bit and getting it to the required strength that each person likes!

LBOCS2 · 28/07/2018 22:16

YABU for offering tea after dinner.

meiisme · 28/07/2018 22:16

I feel your pain. Usually I preempt requests for coffee by very apologetically explaining how rubbish my coffee making skills are and invite guests to make it themselves if they want some. Not amazingly hospitable, but more hospitable than serving undrinkable mud (that is inevitably abandoned after a sip).

absoluteclassic · 28/07/2018 22:16

Haha😂😂 I know I am being a bit unreasonable really but agree with @nocoolnamesleft it is the devils brew.

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TakeMeToKernow · 28/07/2018 22:18

Lol. You’re BU, but I sympathise. First time I made the stuff (instant), I stuck in 4 tsps like it was hot chocolate.

If people have demands for peculiarities (anything more challenging than adding hot water), I’m shameless enough to ask them to come join me in the hot drink preparation.

gaggiagirl · 28/07/2018 22:20

Oh. I'm a coffee wanker.
My relatives will say 'would anyone like a cup of tea' and me and DH are the 'ooh we will have a coffee please. Filter or caffetiere please. No instant thank you'
We are absolute wankers.
In our defense. If the kettle is going on surely coffee can happen too?
And when I say no instant, I mean I won't have a drink at all if thats the only coffee option so the host doesn't have to worry about it.

MajesticWhine · 28/07/2018 22:23

YABU - it's not that difficult to make a decent cup of coffee.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 28/07/2018 22:24

Tea after dinner? Get practicing making coffee fgs woman Grin

absoluteclassic · 28/07/2018 22:25

Who wants coffee in the evening? Does it not keep you awake? 😂

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Disquieted1 · 28/07/2018 22:25

YABU
One should never offer a cup of tea in polite society. One should simply offer tea and serve in a teapot.
A cup indeed!!

absoluteclassic · 28/07/2018 22:25

Haha I do actually make a teapot

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Glumglowworm · 28/07/2018 22:26

Why would someone who doesn’t drink coffee own a cafetière!?

I don’t drink tea or coffee. when I dated a tea drinker I was happy to buy tea bags and make sure I had milk in (I normally only have it if I’m in a cereal phase). I would buy instant coffee for a coffee drinking guest but no fancy gadgets or expensive shite!

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 28/07/2018 22:27

I don't drink coffee in the evening normally but when out for dinner I do. ☕️

Fifthtimelucky · 28/07/2018 22:30

I don't drink coffee but I have a cafetière and a coffee pot. I don't drink tea but I have 2 teapots. I don't drink wine, but I have wine glasses.

I don't assume that my guests won't like things just because I don't!

RitaMills · 28/07/2018 22:32

Oh shit, I do this 100% of the time, tea is fucking minging so I just see tea as meaning hot drink... didn’t realise I was a CF. 😬

petrolpump28 · 28/07/2018 22:36

tea is very working class

absoluteclassic · 28/07/2018 22:39

@petrolpump28

Err doesn't the queen drink tea? 😂

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LBOCS2 · 28/07/2018 22:41

Not after dinner Wink

Baubletrouble43 · 28/07/2018 22:43

Coffee is easier to make than tea. Visitors who want tea give me the rage as it's such a high maintenance drink. And don't get me started on the bastards who want sugar and milk in it too. YABU. Coffee rules.

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