JetBlue bridesmaid

[mzmum78]

AIBU to think this "friend", the bride in question, is a massive bitch ? Just one of those awful entitled bridezilla who expects everyone else to prioritize her big day over anything else. Clearly this relegated bridesmaid had good reason for only being able to attend parts of the endless preparations and celebrations. In my opinion it would be the world to me just to have the person there when they could be and grateful for any effort made to do so.

I do get why the bride has changed her mind about the BM, though surely the better option would have been to just ask one more person to be a BM and accept that one of them isn't going to be doing much on the day. Asking for the outfit (a jumpsuit!!) back was the bit that tipped it into crassness IMO

But BM was a bitch to take to social media and share this with the whole world

It sounds like the bridesmaid isn't able to attend the whole wedding, so the bride wants to ask someone that can. That bit is fair enough to me.

But then they're both in the wrong on other points, the bride by telling her by email, and the bridesmaid by posting it to social media.

I can see it from the bride's position actually.

So just have one BM that leaves early? Surely whoever is 'stepping into her shoes' (jumpsuit) will know they're a back up which is equally awkward! Bridezilla. Good email but still bridezilla.

@OlennasWimple there's no mention that she was the only bridesmaid in which case more understandable I guess. I rather pictured several bridesmaids all at the whim of bridezilla and expected to have 100% attendance for the nxt year etc. She does refer to the bridal "party"

@Bombardier25966 I got the impression that the "whole wedding" was all the other events she mentions such as bachelorette party, rather then just the ceremony / reception

The response to the email would surely be
no. We are not totally cool.
But it looks as though she's trying to get a sympathy refund which is pretty unreasonable too. I can see why, as you could get a stomach ulcer with anger having wasted the money on the flights for the dead duck that was that friendship.

I don't. What happened to the days of the btidesmaid just turning up to the wedding?
The bride sounds self entitled and selfish.

This bride is awful. It sounds like she thinks the bridesmaid isn't doing a good enough job because she was not able to attend the whole hen trip (sounds like it was a whole week!). Some brides are so entitled. "Drop everything to do what I want for my wedding".

Asking for the outfit back is so tacky. If she wanted someone else to be a bridesmaid why not just have an extra one and buy another jumpsuit?

If I were the friend I would be cancelling the flights and sending her the bill.

The first thing that jumped out at me was......Bridesmaids in jumpsuits??????!!!!!! What colour? Are they sparkly? I need to know!

The bride is being a dick, so the bridesmaid couldn't make all of the wedding big deal. Also the whole tone of the email was very self centred. We are totally cool as if the bride maybe the only that would be upset?

It also seems a bit out of order for the bridesmaid to take it so public. Neither have come out of it covered in glory have they!

I thought the bride's email sounded fine, although she would have been better just getting another bridesmaid alongside the one she had.
my friend had her bridesmaids in jumpsuits, they could be adjusted at the top so they suited each of the bride'said - halterneck/2 straps/1 strap/strapless, they were lovely and from a bridal shop (very posh wedding, see not tacky at all)

@mzmum78 She refers to the wedding and the hen party separately. The bridesmaid was not attending the hen and part of the wedding. You've made up things about the bride to make her into a bridezilla. You've judged without knowing half the facts - none of us do, as only one side has got to give her version.

Is she making them wear jumpsuits instead of a dress so they don't outshine her or something?

We are totally cool as if the bride maybe the only that would be upset?

I thought that was off too, but then I wondered more about the back story. Has this bridesmaid been a pain in the arse expecting things to be arranged around her travel plans? Has she shown zero interest in the preparations until now? We don't know.

Two sides to every story, and I wouldn't judge on so little information.

Jumpsuits can look fab. I've seen brides in them too!

I didn't think that the BM was the only one - I was suggesting that rather than having, say, 5 BMs (of which, one couldn't go to the hen and wouldn't be there for the whole wedding), I would have 6 BM so that I still had 5 to do whatever she needs them to do, plus the friend who she was close enough to to ask in the first place but who isn't able to be much assistance

I think my sympathies are actually with the bride here. I think she is trying very hard to be understanding. Unless I am missing something massive.

@Bombardier25966 ok perhaps t means she would have to leave the party bit early but presumably was trying to be there for the ceremony, photos etc. In my mind it doesn't matter she was busting her balls to stand up for her friend.
It’s bc etiquette and friendship wise this is a horrible thing to do. The only bridesmaid duties are to show up to the wedding sober and stand up at the front. They are supposed to be there bc they are your nearest and dearest and you want to honor that.

@OlennasWimple I can't imagine replacing a BM because there are so many things I needed them to do the day of my wedding that I had to have 5 rather than 4 people doing for me.

Seems alright to me tbh. Not really a big deal at all

The bride was clearly trying to deliver her message as nicely as possible, was she right to dump her friend? Probably not but the bm is awful for sharing this on sm.

@Bombardier25966 - Jumpsuits can look fab

Maybe but I think they're generally not particularly flattering. Even in the pic you posted, to me, they only look vaguely ok, presumably because they all have lovely figures.

All a matter of personal taste though.

Yes jumpsuits can look fab, just not the ones you’ve linked to Bombardier, 😂 how can something be so unflattering that they make slim women look so dumpy. Maybe that is the look the bride was going for though! All eyes on meeeeee!