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AIBU?

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Aibu to think she's a tight bastard

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Billyboo1 · 28/07/2018 19:06

I've arranged a weekend away with friends. I paid from my own account £600 for the accomodation and £80 for my own train (week end away is nearer for her) I have also done a Sainsburys order with my own money for wine/breakfast when we arrive. Out of the 6 of us im the only one who has 2 kids and works part time. Everyone threw in nominal shared amount. Then I had msg to request £3.50 refund as she had worked it out and was pissed off at being overcharged. Almost demanded it instantly by PayPal. Later that day she was bosting about buying Sophia Webster shoes. I was actually out of pocket by £35. But just gave the 'rounded up figure for ease'. She msgs on a group chat and non of the others told her to pipe down. I don't even want to go now. I'm so fucking furious.

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Orangecake123 · 29/07/2018 18:03

I would just show the real confirmation emails of how much you've paid to the group and ask them to make up the difference.

Fuzzywig · 29/07/2018 18:04

You need to recalculate and tell them the true cost otherwise everyone will want £3.50 refunding leaving you over £50 out of pocket.

Cindersquit · 29/07/2018 18:05

Break down the exact cost of everything to everyone. To the exact penny.
Then say so actually I’m owed xxx from each of you. I was just going to leave it, what’s a few ££ between friends, but given you think I have overcharged I think best to be exactly clear about the costs!

Cindersquit · 29/07/2018 18:06

Oh and yes she is tight can’t stand people like this.

Cindersquit · 29/07/2018 18:09

Oh just read all of the thread. £200 debt is funny. Probably about the cost of her weekend away. So this is just her priorities.

Boulty · 29/07/2018 18:32

So she has sleepless nights over her 'debts' then boasts about buying shoes and agrees to a weekend away when she says she struggles to find £3.50 and needs it....

She needs to get herself sorted and write a budget plan up and stop buying shoes.

StealthPolarBear · 29/07/2018 18:45

I still don't understand the rounding up issue. I'm wondering if it was literally pennies, eg 59.95 between the six, a tenner each.

adayatthebeach · 29/07/2018 18:57

The people profiting from over priced “designer” shoes are laughing at us all the way to the bank.

BewareOfDragons · 29/07/2018 19:03

She's not losing sleep over her supposed £200 credit card debt ... she went expensive shoe shopping and bragged about it all while demanding £3.50 back from you. She's taking the piss.

I'm glad you pulled her up on it by sending out the receipts and asking everyone to pay what you'd accidentally shorted yourself out of. She might be saying she didn't mean it that way, but she clearly did.

Tara336 · 29/07/2018 19:27

ONe of my ex friends used to drive everyone mad with splitting a bill after a meal. She’d be getting her calculator out working things out to the last 20p it was so irritating as we would be sat their for ages while she insisted on doing this. In the end We just stopped eating out with her as it spoilt the evening

charlestonchaplin · 29/07/2018 19:31

When you say you rounded up, do you actually mean you rounded down?

GabsAlot · 29/07/2018 19:32

if youre down 35 how do u ower her 3.50 i dont get it

timeisnotaline · 29/07/2018 19:39

Well handled op. Personally if a friend did the organising I’d let her have the 3.50 and buy her a drink. Ungrateful and tight (given the shoes she’s not broke but making poor choices)

BitOutOfPractice · 29/07/2018 19:41

When you say you rounded up, do you actually mean you rounded down?*

No, she rounded up then got hot by another charge that wasn't covered by er sums so ended up down overall but decided not to mention it because it was too much hassle.

The friend wasn't even quibbling about that but was suggesting that OP had overcharged them by £20 because she found the apartment for £20 cheaper on a web site. But in fact it had been £20 more when OP booked it.

I think I've got that right.

BitOutOfPractice · 29/07/2018 19:41

got hit by another charge. Not hot

PeakPants · 29/07/2018 19:44

If she is so stressed over £200, maybe she shouldn't be buying Sophia Webster shoes. Not least because they're overpriced tat and most of them are hideous.

starlight13 · 29/07/2018 22:03

YANBU

Any rounding up of a few pounds is perfectly justified because you have had the effort of organising it.

With regards to this particularly awful sounding woman - she surely won't be a friend anymore? Life's too short to surround yourself with these types.

Enjoy your holiday but please make sure that you show everyone the breakdown and that they know that you have paid for all of these extras.

Booboo66 · 30/07/2018 08:37

He quibble wasn’t even over op’s rounding up (which was only £1 or 2 between all) it was because she’d gone online as she clearly didn’t trust her friend and found the accommodation, the price of which had happened to go down as frequently happens. I bet she’s sorry for quibbling the £3.50 now when she actually has more tomoay out. Wonder how she’s even managing that if she was so desperate for the £3.50

PaulRuddislush · 30/07/2018 08:57

I hate this kind of thing. Years ago I went to a friends house with another friend. I took 2 bottles of decent wine, friend brought nothing so I gave her one of them to hand over.

We got a taxi home together, I got out first and gave her money to cover my share of the fare. She phoned me in the morning to say I owed her £2. I was so pissed off I glued 2 pound coins to a bit card and posted it, barely saw her after that she'd annoyed me so much.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 30/07/2018 14:50

Paul, you should have told her she owed you X amount for the wine and texted her your bank details.

PaulRuddislush · 30/07/2018 15:00

Lol it was years ago before digital banking. I think she even phoned me on the landline.
I can't be bothered with petty penny pinching and just avoid those who are.

Crunchymum · 30/07/2018 15:10

OP gave the group the costs, one friend then came back and said she had overcharged her (and everyone else?) by £3.50. In the meantime there was an additional £35 charge made on the accommodation booking that OP had not factored in to the overall cost.

The OP has now put them all straight about the fact she was out of pocket and hadn't overcharged anyone.

I'm still a little lost as to where the one friend got £3.50 from? And was she suggesting that everyone was overcharged by that amount? So she was saying OP had made a profit of x5 £3.50.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 30/07/2018 17:30

Personally I would be delighted to write off an "iffy" £3.50 for someone else to have the hassle of making all the arrangements.

I am one of those lazy cows who will pay up and turn up, but can't be arsed to organise. There's a lot of work in fanning about with all of the bookings for this, and payments for that. I love anyone who's prepared to do it on my behalf and will joyfully buy them a drink for their trouble.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 30/07/2018 17:30

*fannying, not fanning

Though fanning as well, if you like, in this weather

OrangeKettle · 30/07/2018 17:37

Omg I'd LOVE a £200 credit card debt. Does she want to swap for my 4k one?

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