Aibu to think she's a tight bastard

[Billyboo1]

I've arranged a weekend away with friends. I paid from my own account £600 for the accomodation and £80 for my own train (week end away is nearer for her) I have also done a Sainsburys order with my own money for wine/breakfast when we arrive. Out of the 6 of us im the only one who has 2 kids and works part time. Everyone threw in nominal shared amount. Then I had msg to request £3.50 refund as she had worked it out and was pissed off at being overcharged. Almost demanded it instantly by PayPal. Later that day she was bosting about buying Sophia Webster shoes. I was actually out of pocket by £35. But just gave the 'rounded up figure for ease'. She msgs on a group chat and non of the others told her to pipe down. I don't even want to go now. I'm so fucking furious.

Well you're a mug for not working it out properly. As you are in charge of the finances it's your problem to sort out. Ya still bu to be annoyed at someone for failing to do a proper job.

Splitwise is your friend.

Who would go checking like that and then demand 3.50?? What a twat.

I'd say "I don't want you all to think I've charged too much - I actually paid a further £35 out of my own pocket for key holding. I'm not splitting it 6 ways but wanted to clarify I'm not short changing you all."

Why would you want to surround yourself with people like Her .....

fuck that OP

Send her the invoice for the place and the info re key collection charge. Then you either a) passive aggressively thank her for making you double check and ask everyone for the extra. You so glad she made you double check can't afford to be £35 down. Or b) making a joke about bad maths skills and you will leave that up to someone else next time, without asking for money and move on and still enjoy the weekend.

You don’t need to screen shot the receipts. Just tell her that infact your £35 down due to key charges and she can check online with the company if she would like verification. Let her do the leg work. Don’t use your time

She has flagged up that she wants evidence so use it to your advantage

Send screen shots of everything including the total and dividing by 6. "Sorry guys I made a mistake, please PayPal me the extra £x"

Just send a very sweet message explaining you didn’t want to quibble over £35 but actually the costs were x, y and z then say nothing else and await ‘friend’ realising she has made herself look like the tight arse she is

Just send a message - sorry guys the accommodation wasn't £x per person but £X + 6 so if you could all send me the £6 that'd be great.
Thanks £3.50 friend for making me check the figures as otherwise I wouldn't have realised!

‘Silly me my matches was out. I’ve rechecked and everyone owes me £xx due to key charge’

I've sent all screenshots of receipts and payments over. Given complete total with stupid £35 key collection charge and given Everyone a new payment figure. Feel a bit pedantic but it will make everything completely equal and prove there was no 3.50 overcharge lol. I'm more bothered about the pipe up around 3 pound bloody fifty as i would never have done that and resent the accusation that I would be trying to profit £17.50 ,from my friends. Btw I hadn't responded yet. Was fuming a bit too much so thanks for all your help and making me send a calm and reasonable response ha.

if she's being an arse (she is) then you need to list ALL the costs.
explain you just rounded but actually you are out of pocket.
You can't however round "up" and then be £35 down

If we don't understand it it's no wonder your mates don't.

I guess if she truly believes she was £3.50 out of pocket you had "made" 3.5x5 = £17.50 which i suppose is not insignificant...

so YABU to not be clearer on the exact costs
but YANBU to be pissed off about it

sorry, cross posts. Well done OP (and for keeping your cool)

Result she's tight and now you all know!

Please do what Tiptopj suggests. Pleeeeease.

I will always be clearer or in fact never do it again ha.

Good for you OP.

Lesson learned, don’t be responsible for group payments again!

Xpost!

Never!

Just write an explaining message now with all costs made clear. Simples.

Well done op for clarifying and asking for a new figure. I agree, if she was freaking out over £3.50 and nobody stepped in to say “I don’t care about a £3.50 overcharge”, you are right to adjust the amount to make it completely fair. If it’s a fair and even split they want, a fair and even split is what they should get 🤷‍♀️.

I think you did right, OP.
try not to let the pettiness of one ruin the trip!

She clearly suspected i was lying. They are serviced apartments and are now for whatever reason £20 cheaper for the weekend we are going. They are all pay palling the extra key charge and I've made a point of highlighting that no one was charged 3.50 more. I might accidently cause £3.50 ,worth of vodka related damage to her tacky shoes ha ,(joke,,,)

Most of your 'fucking fury' was caused by your own lack of organisation. If you had sorted the finances properly in the first place, you would have avoided these problems.

How frustrating - this would really grind my gears!

As others have suggested, definitely let them know you're out of pocket - I'd go back and say

"I was worried I'd miscalculated when you said that, I'd hate for anyone to be out of pocket (including myself!) so I've just double checked everything and I've realised that I've actually undercharged you all - I've screenshot all the confirmations - we can sort it all out when we get there (works out at £35, so a fiver each) Looking forward to our weekend away"

Don't let it take the shine off your weekend away (and yes, I do think she's being a tight B, you've organised it all!)

In my experience, these things never go without a little blip somewhere along the way, you can't please all of the people, all of the time.