Aibu to think she's a tight bastard

[Billyboo1]

I've arranged a weekend away with friends. I paid from my own account £600 for the accomodation and £80 for my own train (week end away is nearer for her) I have also done a Sainsburys order with my own money for wine/breakfast when we arrive. Out of the 6 of us im the only one who has 2 kids and works part time. Everyone threw in nominal shared amount. Then I had msg to request £3.50 refund as she had worked it out and was pissed off at being overcharged. Almost demanded it instantly by PayPal. Later that day she was bosting about buying Sophia Webster shoes. I was actually out of pocket by £35. But just gave the 'rounded up figure for ease'. She msgs on a group chat and non of the others told her to pipe down. I don't even want to go now. I'm so fucking furious.

I somehow managed to miss a whole page - oops! Glad you messaged, she's the one that looks like an arse - enjoy your weekend away :-)

So basically you stated a charge without showing exactly what it was for. You rounded up. According to her calculations that meant she was charged £3.50 extra. If you charged all five or your friends 3.50 extra you'd be up by £17.50 so actually, I can see why she's annoyed. OK it's not a good start to the holiday for her to mention it, but I can see why rounding up in your favour annoyed her. She couldn't know, because you didn't tell her, about the extra charges which meant it wasn't in your favour at all.

You couldn't be bothered to work it all out properly and she pulled you up on it. It's all a bit 6 of one and half a dozen of the other. Lesson learned. In future, do what you've just done first. Work it all out to the exact penny, and ask for that.

I did. At the point of everone paying it was equal give or take the odd pound to 'round up and divide' she clearly checked the booking page and it was 20 quid less que said rage. I took so long sorting the rest equally and correctly that when the shitting key charge came I just rounded it up and took a hit cos they are friends.
I shouldnt have mentioned the 35 out of pocket cos yes I'm 100% at fault for taking a hit as we had already spent ages sorting out splits,/food orders. I won't ever do that again even if it's for friends.

I should have clarified that it was the fact she clearly thought i had ripped them off as she was checking the booking site when (Given the extra i had paid for my friends) ripping them off couldn't have been further from the truth.
I clearly have issues with being clear lol.

I didnt round up in my favour. I stated the charges. Thry agreed when split I rounded up by a quid or 2 for an easy number.
She asked for 3.50 after checking the booking site. Clearly questioning my truth. I've sent her the invoices now so they can see everything and are now paying.

Let us know how she responds to that OP!

At least you've come out the bigger person, I'd have done the same thing as you in your position, regarding faffing around with the £35 - at least you've come out looking like the bigger person - I bet she sat spitting feathers right now - ha, ha!

They have all paypalled the extra key charge money over. She kind of apologised and said she is sorry but shes mega stressed over money as had a £200 credit card debt and thinks she got a bit ridiculous when trying to sort her budget for trip away. Fair dos. She also mentioned sleepless nights over her debt but I just thought oh well. All sorted now. But pissed off at my honestly being questioned. Hopefully if I'm clearer in the future and not willing to take a hit for friends aka mug I'll never have to worry ha. I'm just going to forget it now but i wont do this again. Lesson learned.

She's a tight arse. I couldn't be doing with all that faffing over a couple of quid, why should she care? I'm surprised one of your other friends didn't say something too.

Billyboo1

well done Lady

Wherever I've worked I've had to organise team away days like this. It's a minefield, so I feel your pain, but in nicest possible way, you dug your own grave not religiously splitting it 'as is' with no 'rounding up'. Someone always, (sigh, yes always) wants an item by item breakdown of costs or moans about costs. . I have a 'template' 'this is the event directions/hotel/schedule email & costs spreadsheet now which usually quashes any naysayers.

If your tight friend is so strapped for cash that she’s having sleepless nights, what’s she doing buying posh and expensive shoes?

Perhaps she should return the shoes!

Speadsheets are the way forward 😁

I think you have to deal with these things when they happen otherwise it just causes resentment. Speak up or put up I'm afraid.

£200 debt ! Sorry but if she can afford weekend away & shoes that’s hardly any figure to cause a sleepless night!

I have to get rid of tight friends personally. I don’t mind being with anyone poor and even paying for people but I can’t stand tight self entitlednees.

Perhaps if I'd known she was having sleepless nights over £3.50 I would have given her a tenner so she could sleep cos she's my friend. Perhaps shes not a great friend and in fact a dick. Lesson learned.

It’s a huge responsibility researching, coordinating and organising a group holiday. I hope they appreciate your time and effort. It can often be a thankless task

Are you serious £3.50? For taking the hassle away from everyone by arranging everything. I would say that's taking the blatant piss by her.
If it was like £35 (like your out) then YES would make sense her asking for refund. But £3.50 what a shallow twat! And on top of that needs it too! What for?

"Hi CF, your message had me recalculate the totals, and you're right, I had done my sums wrong and you actually owe an additional £7 each. My details are xxxx sorry for the misunderstanding and thank you for drawing attention to it. See you soon

YANBU she is a tightwad. What the hell is £3.50 on a weekend away, about half a glass of wine?
I couldn't be arsed with people like this.

AND MAKE SURE THE TIGHTARSE BUYS HER SHARE OF DRINKS.

If one of my friends had gone to all the trouble of organising a weekend away, I wouldn't have been double checking prices on the internet or quibbling over £3.50, even if I thought she had cocked up the bill.
You don't question a friend's honesty over that piddling sum.
She has just embarrassed herself on the group chat and made herself look petty.
Going forward though, let her do her own organising.

I can understand why you're annoyed about this, she's basically accused you of trying to steal from them. It's not ok. And demanding 3.50 is beyond ridiculous. Even if you had got it wrong and over charged it's three quid. She owes you a big apology.

OP, well done on sending the message off to the group requesting the rest of the money you’re owed and showing the receipts as proof.

Not trying to be a dick here, but you keep referencing that you “rounded up” and it wasn’t in your favour originally.
Do you actually mean you rounded DOWN?

Ie if the bill came to £62.54 for 6 of you, you rounded down to £60 and split 6 ways so a tenner a head?

Rounding up isn’t something you do when splitting costs among friends.

I'm glad you got it sorted OP. Personally I bloody hate being the one to organise stuff like this. There's always that one person who never does any of the work but loves to complain at the last minute that it's too expensive or isn't close enough to X despite all of this being discussed early on and them never raising any alternatives.

What is "split wise"?