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to be annoyed by people who let their kids run round supermarkets 'playing'

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ProperLavs · 26/07/2018 15:04

Actually screaming and running into people.
I had an interesting 'conversation' with a woman when i muttered for someone to stop them screaming and running around. This woman, who didn't actually have anything to do with the kids, who were roughly 4 and 2, told me they were only playing.

I told her it was a very busy supermarket and they shouldn't be playing here
She then muttered about some people having to take their children shopping. I told her I had had to take all of mine (6 under 8) and no they were't ever allowed to run round screaming whilst I ignored them.
Wtf is wrong with people?

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ProperLavs · 26/07/2018 21:35

Ooh, I've never made it to discussions of the day before.

A while back in Primark a young woman pushed me deliberately out of the way so she could stand where I was looking at the cheap sunglasses. When I challenged her her attitude was that she wanted to look and it was busy with no space. I bet she was the type of child who felt perfectly entitled to to what ever she wanted because she had parents who let her do what she wanted.

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NotAnotherUserName5 · 26/07/2018 21:50

Were all 6 of your kids with you when she said that some people have to take their kids shopping? Just seems an odd thing for her to say if you were!

Yanbu that people shouldn’t let there kids run riot.

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ProperLavs · 26/07/2018 22:15

No, I only had my 12 year old with me. 4 are older , 1 younger . I think she was just trying to excuse the children's behaviour. She'd picked the wrong person though. When all my dc were younger they had to be very well behaved or we couldn't go out anywhere. It's perfectly possible . But you have to actually parent them rather than ignore them and make it someone else's problem!

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TrexDrip · 26/07/2018 22:33

Ok so i get the kids and scooters, bikes and playing hide and seek are well out of order. But to say if your kids should be taken into care Thelcon if they cant be controlled is abit extreme!
I currently have two 3 year olds who are not twins. They love nothing better than going the supermarket - so much so we are on first name terms with some of the checkout staff.
Sometimes they might run down one of the aisles, sometimes this might be to get something I have asked them to get to put in the trolley.
I always try and keep them calm but guess what, they are 3, they have tantrums and sometimes don't listen.
I do remind them to watch out for people and either I apologise or I make them apologise if they go to close to other people or could be seen to be getting in the way.
Does that make me a bad parent? Not that it should make a difference but my kids are adopted, had a rough start in life, got the potential to have foetal alcohol syndrome and had no boundaries set in foster care. I am trying the best I can but i sincerely hope other people don't look at me shopping and think my kids need to be taken away when they don't realise what they escaped from by being taken from birth parents.

SandyY2K · 26/07/2018 22:36

And bloody Heeleys in shopping centres

Totally agree. I saw 2 girls on their heelies today and after I gave them a look...they said "Let's go back to mum"

It's lazy, incompetent parenting. If you are incapable of controlling your 7/8 year old ... It's no surprise they'll be up to no good by their teens when you'll have nok chance of disciplining them.

TheMonkeyMummy · 26/07/2018 23:03

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I agree!

dailygrowl · 27/07/2018 04:09

YANBU

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ProperLavs · 27/07/2018 05:35

TrexDrip to be quite honest with you I would have had my dc in the trolley at that age and not let them run up and down the aisle.

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FrancisCrawford · 27/07/2018 08:04

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plominoagain · 27/07/2018 08:27

I’d be more than willing to bet that it’s the same parents who think they can park wherever the fuck they like at school pick up time , who then let their spirited little darlings run amok in the aisles .

Our local Morrison’s has fabulous CCTV , so when one particular little oik failed to negotiate a corner very well , and essentially threw himself into the double cream shelves with the ensuing unbelievable mess ( who knew thirty pots of cream could go quite so far ?) and the mother went spare , screaming that she was going to sue all and sundry because her little angel was now dripping in his own body weight in dairy , the new manager invited her to go for it with pleasure , because they’d tracked his behaviour the whole way round . She left , dragging the dripping one by the hand , and I think they even charged her for the 5p bags he needed to sit on in the car . The manager got a round of applause .

LittleCandle · 27/07/2018 08:29

I work in a hospital and the number of people who think it is all right for a child to use a scooter in a hospital is shocking.

I am on crutches at the moment and last night was getting onto the train and was almost bowled over by a small boy racing around me. The mother said not a word - either to stop the child or apologise to me.

I don't hate kids, but I hate the way that many people do not bother to parent them.

rosie39forever · 27/07/2018 09:10

YANBU
Saturday in Sainsbury’s I witnessed a little angel rifling through the food bank donation bin, opening the bags of pasta, cereal and rice and chucking it all over the floor, when the staff member politely asked him not to do that his enraged father gave her a mouthful and told her to leave him alone cos he loves pasta 🤯

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ProperLavs · 27/07/2018 09:33

It’s unbelievable some of the stories on here- I feel so cross.

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BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 27/07/2018 09:35

Staff should tell the parents to control them or ask them to leave.

Running around, healys, scooters etc are all outdoor activities.

Shop online if your children can't behave in public places.

5000KallaxHoles · 27/07/2018 11:24

It's the behaviour of the utter fucknuggets that mean that when you do like I just have and take my pair to Lidl, with them holding the trolley all the way around and actually behaving beautifully - you still get the evil looks from people who assume that they'll be total pains in the arse.

Makes it shit for all of us.

DGRossetti · 27/07/2018 11:30

Try being someone with a visual impairment in a shop with kids behaving like this.

DW doesn't need to try. Nor does she need to try being mobility impaired, and thus unable to dodge the wheeling dervishes as they knock into the wheelchair. Which, by the way, fucking hurts.

DGRossetti · 27/07/2018 11:33

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-44952844

Self-balancing electric roller skates developed by personal transportation company Segway-Ninebot are to be banned on the UK's public pavements and roads.

(contd)

No mention of shopping centres or supermarkets ....

lola212121 · 27/07/2018 11:46

@FrancisCrawford I have no choice but to take them out , if I left them alone at home SS would be called . You have no idea how difficult it is for some parents. Let the manager deal with it you don't need to get involved and don't let your mood be affected by it either .. just let the parents deal with it . Lucky you that you don't have to

MrsMarigold · 27/07/2018 11:48

My DC have been known to behave badly in supermarkets, generally they are good kids, but sometimes I get funny looks and comments. I actually don't care, they are very energetic by anyone's standards and are very competent on their scooters, they don't bash people and things. I really don't care what other people's kids do either.

lola212121 · 27/07/2018 11:49

@TheIcon I would love a break ! But they are not neglected so would not be taken away permanently Grin

lola212121 · 27/07/2018 11:49

@MrsMarigold very funny comment

rainingcatsanddog · 27/07/2018 11:53

Yanbu

My kids have been those naughty kids at the supermarket but were disciplined each time. A 2 year old could really be hurt after colliding with a trolley and the adult with the trolley is going to feel shit even if it was accidental.

PeckhamPauline · 27/07/2018 12:04

Some young girls were rollerblading at high speed round my supermarket recently.... parent(s) nowhere in sight.

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ProperLavs · 27/07/2018 12:12

lola why are you so special that allowances should be made for the fact that you can’t control your own children? Why is it more difficult for you than anybody else? You are responsible not the poor bloody manager. Stop being so flakey and learn to actually control your kids.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/07/2018 12:14

@ola212121 - if you have no option but to take your children with you to the shops, then you should be parenting them properly. You need to put appropriate rewards and sanctions in place for good and bad behaviour, and enforce them.

If you don't bring your children up to behave reasonably, and to understand what is and is not acceptable behaviour, you are failing them, as well as being a complete and utter nuisance to everyone you come into contact with.

I know that sounds harsh, but you have a responsibility to your children, and if you let them behave badly now, things are not going to magically improve as they get older, and their behaviour will get worse, not better.