We have a colleague at work who isn’t very pleasant to us, but we all try hard to be nice, say hello have conversations when we have to. But to be fair to us even though we don’t want to, we make a good effort! However she keeps going to our boss and saying we leave her out, we all eat lunch in one building and she chooses to eat lunch in another building with other colleagues. Her most recent complaint was that when one of our group, we are all close as we have lunch everyday and we support each other, was leaving we went out and didn’t invite her. We didn’t invite anyone other than our group either and even then one of us couldn’t make it. For clarity our colleague is always arranging to go out with colleagues in other departments, which some of us work in a lot and never get invited, but we understand that they have friendships that we are not a part of. Also we are not arranging anything to be spiteful to her, we are just good mates, she has her mates and we have ours.
The thing I want to ask is, is it appropriate for our boss to keep suggesting to us that we should invite her out and pulling some of us into her office and asking how our night out was arranged? Was it an email? Who went? Etc...
It feels to me like an invasion of our privacy! Anyone else had this? Any tips? Please be nice, this is a genuine problem at work.