Photos at in laws

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There is a photo board in my mother in laws dining kitchen with lots of family photos stuck on.

They recently changed them to a new fresh lot of photos and there are photos of every single member of the immediate family but me. Am I being ridiculously miffed to feel a bit upset and left out or is this me just making something out of nothing? Would it upset you?

She is an in-law though, does she have other in-laws on there? I’d be hurt if there were. My own mother has tonnes of photos of everyone except me, my own mother. I’m very unphotogenic though!

Yep!

Were you on the last one?

She's my mother in law and has photos of everyone else

My husband tells me I'm being ridiculous to have noticed and to even be bothered

Add your own pic next time you visit !

It wouldn’t bother me in the least!

However I understand that you must be wondering why you’ve been left out and possibly feeling a bit excluded.

Perhaps she doesn’t have a newer photo of you and has forgotten to ask for one? Do you have a photo of your DH, DCs and you together that you could give her to add to the collection?

YANBU.
It's a deliberate exclusion. I'd be upset too.

Are these up-dated photo's ? does she have an up to date photograph of you.?
I often change my photographs and do not deliberatly leave anyone out but it has happened so maybe she has not noticed as I did.

She has updated photos of me yes

Sorry - feel need to clarify my post 🙃. Yes, it would upset me.

Yes, that is very thoughtless of her. Don't let it upset you OP hopefully it is an oversight rather than deliberate exclusion

Next time you go round take a massive blown up picture of yourself and some blue tack and stick it on top of the photo board.

Yes in laws did this to me! Thought I was overreacting.

Then I realised that they actually didn’t like me!

OP, are there pictures of her other daughter or son in laws?

I'm in the same position as you, but look on it as a triumph - I don't have any of her either!

Oh I'd have to troll her. Start sticking up small pic of yourself every time you go. Put it in the corner or just peeking out. When you go back, check if it's still there...swap it for a new one...or replace it if it's gone!

Who cares OP? If she doesn't see the need, then you can't DO anything...except wind her up.

Then begin adding photos of random celebrities.

Taylor Swift
Mary Berry....

one at a time of course.

Yes she has single photos of her other daughter in law

hey it could be worse, my in laws have pictures of DP's ex on display :)

Has she finished her display?

My Ex's mum used to do this. I was left out of all the professional family photos at a special celebration. Literally I was the only person not asked to be on them, even the partners of the foster children were asked. The sisters used to also book tickets for special events and concerts and would never ask me, I'd find out because they would invariably have a spare ticket to the event and give it to one of the children because apparently no one wanted it. They have been out of my life for 6 years and it has been bliss!

Perhaps a nice poster-sized photo left behind with the others next time you visit will send the message. Don't put up with being erased from the family, not on.

My MIL has a framed picture of DD2 sat on my lap in which I am cut off at the head. It always reminds me of those Victorian pictures where the woman holding the baby had a black cloth over her head!