Photos at in laws

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There is a photo board in my mother in laws dining kitchen with lots of family photos stuck on.

They recently changed them to a new fresh lot of photos and there are photos of every single member of the immediate family but me. Am I being ridiculously miffed to feel a bit upset and left out or is this me just making something out of nothing? Would it upset you?

PILs also had photos put up of every grandchild apart from our DS - so I took one with me one day and pointedly stuck it to the wall right in the middle.

Unless she's done something else to make you think she dislikes you I doubt it's intentional. I get on well with my inlays but I doubt they'd be interested in having a picture of me up on their walls for my own sake (unless I happen to be in the photo with DH or DC).

Yes it would upset me
It’s hurtful

And my mum has 3 kids but only has photos up of her youngest - her house is a shrine to him. Me and my older bro are nowhere in sight...

Yes it's hurt me too. Add your own photo. Maybe glue your face over the face of the person you like least.

My mil only took pics if my husbands ex wife down about 5 years ago...we've been married 13 years!! There's still one on the pin board of her but with my stepdaughter so I can just about cope!!

Yes, it hurt me too. Not quite as much as when MiL invited DH's ex to our wedding without telling anyone she had, so we organised a meal for her and a place for her to sit, which, when she discovered that MiL hadn't told anyone until the day before she refused to use.

She's an odd woman.

*Despite paying towards my DIL wedding dress, there isn't a single wedding photo amongst loads up in their house, with me on.

There is a new huge framed picture is up on my DGD's wall, a 'loving family' type poem and drawing; everyone has added their thumb print as a 'sign' of love for the baby ( think ark picture and the rainbow is made up of family prints) ...but every person is from DIL family, none from ours. Hurtful!*

You should be blaming your son for that, not your DIL. Do you think her mother would hold your son responsible if there’s we’re no photos of her in the house?!

yabu to give the tiniest shite what pictures someone else has up in their house - unless they've taken one of you in your pants and hung it over the mantel piece.

I sure most people do this deliberately - I know my DM only having pics up of my Dbro is a definitely a dig. So YANBU to be upset. But at least you know where you stand! I know I do.

Well you know how they feel about you I guess...

My parents have loads of pictures of my sister up including ones of her and BIL but none of me anywhere. I'm not photogenic but then she's hardly a supermodel either.
Sometimes I'd like to ask why but I'm not sure if
a) I'd get the truth
b) I'd want to hear the truth
Or
c) I'd want them to stick pics of me up out of guilt.

My MIL has a wedding photo of my DH and his DB with me folded over with just the corner of my veil showing.

My own mother doesn't have any photos of me or her grandson (her only grandchild) in the house. There's plenty of her and my other two sisters though, including a massive caricature of the three them. You'd honestly not know she had 3 daughters, or a grandchild if you were in the house.

YANBU. I have this with my ILs. Photos everywhere … none of me. There are a few from my and DH's wedding, but I'm not on any of them. We got married a few years before MIL's DH's (not my DH's DF) DS and there are photos of him and his DW all over … including a big one on the wall in MIL's bedroom (which I thought was a bit ott). I actually queried it once with MIL's DH and he said 'don't blame me: that's (MIL's) thing, and she only puts her favourites up'. But he is a massive shit stirrer. I've recently noticed that there are none of MIL's DH's son in law either: the only photos of his DD's wedding are of her with him or his DS, so I guess the Son IL is not a 'favourite' either!!

There are very few pictures of me at my PIL's house, but I'm proper ugly so I can't really blame them. I do better than SIL's STBXH did before they separated, there are lots of photos from their wedding in the house but the only one with him in was a family group photo and that got swiftly removed when they split!

I must confess however that I do feel slightly miffed on DH's behalf as PIL's house is full of pictures of SIL but there are only a few of DH. FIL's desk is practically a shrine to her. She lives with PILs so its not as if she's miles away and they rarely see her! DH doesn't seem bothered. I wouldn't be surprised if SIL put them up herself as she loves a selfie and when she lived with her ex their house was full of photos of the pair of them and none of any other friends or family.

My parents only have one photo on display of me and DH (our wedding photo) and one of my brother (who is single).

Mind you, in terms of dedicated photo space we all lose out to the grandkids!

Yanbu. My mil has loads of family photos up, including ones from mine and her sons wedding and of her nephews girlfriend. Not a single one includes me mind boggles.

Hah, my IL love to take photos, except they always forget to give me warning so I'll be breastfeeding and summoned mid feed or will enter a room to discover they've gathered everyone else and I'm expected to somehow squeeze in to 40odd people. My SIL did photo places at her wedding and the only one she found of me was me the week after our LO funeral. So I placed it facedown so I didn't have to see it which apparently 'hurt her feelings'. I don't really make an effort with them anymore and am much happier.

My PIL have lots of pictures up. I'm not in any but my DP's siblings partners are. I know it's because DP and I aren't married, accordingly, PIL don't consider me 'real' family. However, I really don't want to be looking at pictures of my mug so it's fine by me!!

Should add DP's bro and sisters are married hence why their OH are worthy of the wall

My mother has pictures of my brother's children all over the place and barely and of mine. She also has lots of pictures of DB and SIL, no many if me...

DB and SIL, however, are always taking and sending (to everyone they know) photos of them and their children for every conceivable occasion and non event and we don't do that so I can hardly get annoyed about it, really.

It's thoughtless and crass.

Even my 5 year old today complained there were not many pictures of her up compared to her sister.
It's true!I have a memory stick and loads of empty frames ready to go but I have not got round to it yet.

spanishwife - no DIL bought the frame and picture. The prints were added at DGD birthday party.

Of course DIL and DS could be challenged equally about it. They stood with me whilst I looked at the print. I didn't say anything for fear of appearing rude or churlish.

Do you have a picture of your MIL up in your house?

No I only have photos of my children

Maybe your SIL does