Photos at in laws

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There is a photo board in my mother in laws dining kitchen with lots of family photos stuck on.

They recently changed them to a new fresh lot of photos and there are photos of every single member of the immediate family but me. Am I being ridiculously miffed to feel a bit upset and left out or is this me just making something out of nothing? Would it upset you?

Same here. It was unintentional though, and she was really embarrassed when dh mentioned it!

Just stick one of you up there. Right in the middle. Stand back and admire your work loudly. If she removes it, you know it's personal.

@flamingofridays cheers!

I'd probably be a little offended, yes.

My MIL is lovely and says she doesn't have favourites. She has lots of photos in her hallway, lounge, dining room. She has maybe 2 or 3 photos of my 2 children up (including an old school photo from 2-3 years ago despite me making a point of sending her the new one in November, which she's never displayed). And about 17+ photos of my SIL's kids. They are literally everywhere. TBF, I think my SIL has given her all the photos, but even so. It annoys me!

Say your DH said she had asked for some nice photos of you for her display. Then give several very flattering photos of you.

Don a Where’s Wally costume, take loads of pics of yourself and then hide them around her house.

Of course it's hurtful and thoughtless!!
Out of respect to my dd husbands I will have photos of him up!! In a slightly less obvious place if needs be

But of course it's not nice.

Please please please go with the Where's Wally option.

Mind you we also don't have pics of in laws up and never will.

Yep - my MIL too. Loads of photos of dh and DC and SIL & BIL (her daughter and son in law) but none of me. About 15 pics of her daughter’s wedding - not one of hers.

She’s a dick. Her loss. I don’t sweat it anymore.

Not one of ours I mean!

Yes, I would be upset too.

Similar happened to me...twice!

Despite paying towards my DIL wedding dress, there isn't a single wedding photo amongst loads up in their house, with me on.

There is a new huge framed picture is up on my DGD's wall, a 'loving family' type poem and drawing; everyone has added their thumb print as a 'sign' of love for the baby ( think ark picture and the rainbow is made up of family prints) ...but every person is from DIL family, none from ours. Hurtful!

My mother in law (who is generally lovely) had a load of photos of my wedding day up on display. Not one of which included me.

Same here! A picture of our wedding day, but no bride!

Also mil was very tidy and only displayed a few framed photos. I twigged that when she was expecting one of her sons to visit, she would swap her photos to ones of their dcs. Once we turned up u expectedly (never again, but that’s another story) and there was a bit of a kerfuffle and scrabbling in the sideboard as the dcs’ photos were dug out and hurriedly put in place of the last visitor’s ones.

Still none of me, though! (Couldn’t care.)

hey it could be worse, my in laws have pictures of DP's ex on display smile

What???

Ex sil and bil got il a frame and they put loads of family pics. This happened before I was in the family and they splitting.

The pics have been updated to gc newer ones but the pic of ex sil has remained. No pic of me with dh at all added :( yeah felt excluded

Frame disappeared when bil found new gf 3.5 years after

So no yanbu

Why don't you just ask her? I'd make a joke of it and say "oi, how do I get a place in the hall of fame?" or similar.

My mother in law showed the family albums to my small children - the ones with my husbands' ex-wife in. The boys then kept asking who daddy's girlfriend was.

She's lovely but a bit bonkers

Take a big fat photo of you naked, bending over arse to the camera and stick it proudly in the middle of the collage OP. Dares ya.

Why don't you just ask her? I'd make a joke of it and say "oi, how do I get a place in the hall of fame?" or similar.

This^^

99% of mumsnet problems are people just not saying how they feel! Communicate!

I found out recently exp's DM still has pics of me in her house. So strange. And mean to his partner.

@AspireAchieve

Maybe because it was a gift from THEIR family?

I also agree with Daffodil2018
Confront her, in a lighthearted jokey way.
She should get the message (and be suitably embarrassed)

My PILs put up a wedding photo from their other son's wedding - but chose one without the bride!

My DM has a family photo up in my old bedroom that included my ex-husband. My boyfriend and I stay in that room when we visit - poor sod, my mum loves new bf too! People are strange.