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AIBU about wanting to sleep instead of have sex?

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MooFeatures · 25/07/2018 02:17

Roughly weekly the following will happen:

BF will go to bed to watch TV or read, and I'll join him a bit later (before he goes to sleep). We'll have a general chat, a bit of a cuddle, my hands might start wandering south... and then he's tired and wants to go to sleep. Slightly annoying, but still, his body and his rules. I'll get into my sleeping position (on my side with my back to him; he knows it's how I sleep and not to read anything into it) and try to nod off.

Anyway, you know that delicious moment when you're simultaneously awake and asleep, the duvet is devouring you, and your thoughts start merging into dreams? I bloody love that moment. What I don't love is that moment being interrupted by my BF jabbing his hard-on into my back and making hopeful grunty noises.

I'll abruptly wake up and drowsily respond with something quite reasonable, such as "it's half past fucking one!" ("you had your chance earlier!" being implicit within that) and await his next move, which varies between conceding defeat and going to sleep, or vigorously wanking.

As lightheartedish as this thread is, could someone re-assure me they have a similar set up...?

OP posts:
LookAtThatCritter · 25/07/2018 04:36

I love how guys think by jabbing their boner in to our backside it’s going to automatically put us in the mood! Confused

Milkshakeminer · 25/07/2018 04:41

Oh I love that sleep/awake moment like you’re floating! Very rarely get it, I’m either awake or out for the count.
Could you wait until he’s asleep before jabbing him in the back with a bottle of flash and say you were hoping he was in the mood to clean?
This might be a contributing factor to why I’m single though Grin

AhoyDelBoy · 25/07/2018 05:36

Ahhh no, sorry. Don’t have a similar setup at all. That’s gross and thoughtless on he part of your BF if you ask me. Waking you up for sex when you could have had it earlier on in the evening. Is he gaming or something and won’t stop? The going on to wank part is just blerk. I have to say I read some of these threads and realise for all his faults my DP isn’t too bad at all.

AhoyDelBoy · 25/07/2018 05:38

Sorry watching TV or reading Grin

Thunky · 25/07/2018 05:43

That is gross. I couldnt tolerate that at all

Shoxfordian · 25/07/2018 05:52

We sleep in separate rooms so I never have this problem. It's inconsiderate and thoughtless of your partner to do this.

MooFeatures · 25/07/2018 10:27

Haha Milkshake, I'm going to keep a bottle handy from now on!

It's not an issue which hugely bothers me, and I went along with it last night (hence the 2:17 OP) was worth it. It's just really quite discombobulating; feeling like a frigid nympho with the same man on the same night Confused

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Celticlassie · 25/07/2018 12:30

I can't imagine my DH wanking when in bed with me. That's disgusting!

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