to tell them to wear pink dresses?

[greyday9]

I'm having a small wedding (just family) but I believe a photographer is vital. I want nice pictures to remember.

I have three sisters, and naturally we will have photos with just us on the day. I want these pictures to look great, and I think the best way to do that would be if the colours compliement each other.

I want them all to wear light pink dresses. I think if they all wore different colours or patterns the pictures wouldn't look as good. AIBU to insist on this?

They will be the only 'young' women there, other than the two mums and a grandmother.

so ask them to be bridesmaids, then you can choose and pay for all their dresses

I don't care about the style, just the colour. They can wear ones they already for all I care

Are they your bridesmaids and are you paying for the dresses? If so, YANBU. If not, YABU, you shouldn't dictate what other people wear to a wedding and your photos will look lovely whatever they wear, plus them all matching and not being bridesmaids will look weird.

I think you need to ask them rather than telling them.

Do they normally wear pink - do they suit the colour - are you offering to buy them suitable dresses if it isn't something they would wear again?

Are they bridesmaids? If so, yes no problem all wearing the same.

Are they wedding guests? If so, YABU and controlling. They're presumably not 5 years old and are capable of choosing what to wear themselves.

You can't insist and you can't tell them, even if you do think it's 'vital. You could 'ask' or 'suggest' though. Maybe even add a please

You can't tell your sister what colour dresses to wear. That is ridiculous and very bridezilla. Surely they will wear dresses which reflect them and their own personalities. If you want matching coloured dresses, like the PP said, you need to have them as bridesmaids and pay for their frokcs.

Unless they are bridesmaids then you wokld be very unreasonable to dictate what they wear.

If I was told to wear pink I would be very tempted to go for green!

If they aren’t bridesmaids then YABU. As someone who has an extreme dislike of uniforms, people dressing their twins in the same clothes, and the colour pink, this would be my worst nightmare.

What about the other guests? Will you also be dictating to them what they should be wearing so it looks nice in the photos?

Pay for their dresses and have them as bridesmaids and then you can decide what they wear. Other than that, let them wear whatever they want.

If you want someone to dress according to a theme, you need to offer to pay for it.

And remember, there are a wide variety of shades of pink - someone in fuchsia geometric print, isn't owing to match baby pink with flamingos and salmon pink tea roses. So either pay and take control, or accept that what will make your pix great is the quality of the photographer, who will capture exactly the people you have there who are. There because they matter and not because they are props.

No you can’t insist. And why just your sisters in that colour and not the older women?

Are you insisting that the men dress to match too?

Are they small children who are flower girls?

You can’t control what grown women wear. Why pink? Because it’s a girls colour? Let them wear what they want (unless they are bridesmaids and you can put them in what you want as long as you pay for it).

YABVU.

I never buy pink wouldn't wear pink wouldn't have anything lying around in pink

Don't be 'that' bride

They are your sisters you'll all look great in binbags!!

Bridesmaids yes

Guests no

MoB and MoG are often asked to choose colours that complement the wedding colour theme. Could you ask your sisters to do the same? I'd be happy to oblige within reason ie don't make me wear orange or a plain colour for example.

I wouldn't mind at all if my sister asked me to wear a certain colour and no patterns I think it's fine

I know what I'd be telling you.

😮 YABVU!

Fine if they're bridesmaids, not fine if they're not! And unless it's a themed wedding and everyone is in pink it won't make a difference to how nice your pictures are whether they are coordinated or not.

When is the wedding?

YABU. If it's soon they may have dresses. If it was a less limiting colour like black and white or navy or blue then maybe but light pink is so... Girly girl Ted Baker. I'd look awful in it.

I went to a wedding once where all female guests were told to wear pink, and males blue.

"MoB and MoG are often asked to choose colours that complement the wedding colour theme"

Gosh! Really? How awful.....

Agree with posters whomsaybtgat if you are settungbcinditiins, you need to pick up the tab.

Bat shit crazy. You could potentially make them miserable in a outfit they dont like for a photo that will be brought out every five years.—believe me wedding photos are draw fillers— Photos are not more impotent then the actual day and the memories.