To ask if any of you have DC who need an awful lot of one to one time?

[AjasLipstick]

One of mine, my youngest who is ten... is so bright and funny and charming but she seems to need SO much one on one with me!

She's wonderful if she gets this dedicated time and wonderful after it too. But if she's feeling a bit neglected, her behaviour slides...but it's as though she's not aware of it....I don't think she does this for attention in a bad way....just that she seems to need a lot of input from me.

So she'll come home from school...chill out for an hour or more. Then she will want me to watch a tv show with her on Netflix. Then she'll leave me alone. Then she'll want to play something with me...a board game or for me to watch her latest tricks on the trampoline.

Then she'll be ok. Then before bed, she wants to talk, have a snack with me and to read to me.

I'm bloody knackered by this time as I work part time etc...housework and all that.

Is anyone else's tween like this? She's popular at school...lots of friends. Struggles a bit academically but her teacher says she tries her best and is obviously a gifted performer and also socially very able. So I try not to worry...but God she's KNACKERING!

Haven’t read the full thread op but I agree by 10 a child should be able to entertain themselves and certainly shouldn’t be demanding attention for 3-4 hours per day. You say she tantrums if she doesn’t get her own way. Again I don’t expect a 10 year old to be having tantrums. Does she have any behavioural issues?

My DD is 10 and although she has a younger sibling so yo some extent has to be more independent, she doesn’t demand my undivided attention. She’s happy with a little chat in and amongst dinner/chores/getting ready for bed etc.

I really don’t think you’re unreasonable to want an hour to yourself in the evening and I would expect that you could have that with children at 14 and 10. I think it’s time to set some boundaries with your DD.

Good luck

If she’s sociable what about after school club til 6pm?

Don't really have anything to add my only ds is 7 and like this.

Always looking to me for a playmate. He's incredibly social and has many friends at school and plays with the other children in the street very well. But when it's just me and him he wants alot of my time. At the moment because its the summer holidays hes been going to bed around 8.30pm and settled by 9pm. We are fairly early to bed as dh is up at 5am so realistically we get an hour to ourselves which also includes sorting laundry etc and is also dependant on my ds staying in his bed and not getting up and down. It is hard work sometimes

At 10 I would think she should be happy to watch tv or read more independently. That’s not to say that she will always want to do these things with you also but really I would be encouraging her to be more independent.